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How often do you see your in-laws?

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LorlieS · 09/03/2024 20:23

Just curious really.
Mine live about 1.5 hours away, I would say I would see them once about every three months or so.
They are both in their 80's so travelling less these days.
Hubby has just taken our little girl (3) to see them last week but I couldn't go due to work. Feels like I've missed out but can't be helped 😞

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LorlieS · 09/03/2024 22:42

@KCSIE I'm not sure really? Just didn't know if around 4 times a year was OK?

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DelurkingAJ · 09/03/2024 22:42

We are similar. About 1.5 hours away and I see them about every three months. DH (teacher) takes DSs in the holidays when I’m working. I love my PIL and am sad that they’re no longer willing to come see us regularly and we would happily host them. Their world has shrunk immensely since COVID.

DM we go to see less often but she’s here (despite living significantly further away and not driving) about every four-six weeks and has DSs separately in the summer for granny/DS time.

Elpheba · 09/03/2024 22:44

We’re about 6 hours away and it’s probably 4 times a year. Would like it to be more but it feels a really long way to go and can’t fit it in every school holiday!

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Amybelle88 · 09/03/2024 22:45

Never.

It's lovely 😂😂

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LorlieS · 09/03/2024 22:48

For those of you who never/rarely see your in-laws... how does your DH feel about this?

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weegiemum · 09/03/2024 22:50

We see MIL who lives a flight away (Ireland to us in Scotland) about every 3 months. FIL (they're divorced) we see every so often but he has advanced dementia and is in a home.

We see my parents (90 mins away) about every 8-10 weeks. About 2/3 of the time they host but about 1/3 of the time they come to us and get a hotel so we can have a boozy meal.

mummumisme · 09/03/2024 22:55

Every 2 weeks usually but some times up to a month between or once a week depending on how busy we are/when dp is working/what they’re doing ect. Dp is very close to his family and they love dc and they’re about a 10 minute drive away from us.

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 09/03/2024 22:57

Two days a week minimum (they look after DC2 for us, so this is just a short drop off/pick up), and then we probably also see them for a bit every other weekend/every third weekend maybe.

I love them!

Flippinec · 09/03/2024 22:57

Every couple of weeks. They are fantastic. My own mum every three to four months. My dad maybe once or twice a year. They all live about 45 minutes away but my parents (who are divorced and remarried) are less bothered to see us.

scoopoftheday · 09/03/2024 22:57

Twice a year. They retired abroad. Though they come home for a few weeks at a time and their house is a stones throw from ours.

Frosty1000 · 09/03/2024 23:16

MIL - never for a number of reasons.

FIL - every couple of months, his new ish partner is very family is everything and is very pushy so not my cup of tea.

Cat2024 · 10/03/2024 05:03

They live in a different country so every 4 to 6 months. They stay with us for a fortnight or we stay with them for about a week. Two weeks is a bit long for me though they are very nice people. MIL can be a little overbearing at times but has a good heart so I put up with it and it works ok.

mydrivingisterrible · 10/03/2024 05:07

I've never met my husbands mother..... aiming on keeping it that way forever

Thinkthisiswrong · 10/03/2024 05:24

We're an hour away, we try to see mil once a month. Realistically, probably every 6 weeks. Though sometimes we'll see her twice in quick succession. I always feel guilty and me and dh have no idea if she wants to see less or more of us (our boys are quite boisterous and she's not all that well!). We've tried asking and she just said she wants to fit around us, but she seems lonely I think.

soberfabulous · 10/03/2024 05:25

Mine are dead which is a blessing as they were awful people (recognized by my husband, before I'm flamed)

My parents visit twice a year, we see them for a total of 6-8 weeks.

Toblerbone · 10/03/2024 05:30

Mine live around 2 hours away. We used to see them once every couple of months. It's a bit harder now because FIL died and MIL (very sensibly) moved into a retirement living flat, so there's no room for us all to stay and we have to book a hotel which gets expensive. Also the DC are teens and have lots of homework / sports / social activities at weekends they don't want to miss. So now we typically go for a night or two in the school holidays, and DH goes on his own every few weeks as well.

stayathomer · 10/03/2024 05:38

Depends, they only live ten minutes away so some weeks a few times a week. We get on well

AuntieMarys · 10/03/2024 06:36

Mine lived 2 hours away. Saw them twice a year for about 3 hours.
More than enough.

Lumiodes · 10/03/2024 06:40

Every 6-8 weeks. Thankfully they live close enough that there’s no need for them to stay over. They come for 4-5 hours then they go away.

DilemmaDelilah · 10/03/2024 09:02

We used to go to see my MIL for a weekend every month regularly. She lived about an hour away so we could have gone to see her more, but we set aside a weekend every month for each of our mothers, which only left 2 weekends to do things for ourselves, DIY, shopping etc. We thought that was enough.... but maybe not?

Comms · 10/03/2024 09:46

Never. I banned them from my house years ago and I never visit them.
DH visits them every few months.

WhatHaveIFound · 10/03/2024 09:58

I see my MIL at least once a week, often more but she only lives 20 minutes away from us and we get on really well.

Sunnnybunny72 · 10/03/2024 10:09

Every 6-8 weeks. They live an hour away.
They favour SIL who lives next door to them so no urge to see them more frequently. SIL is now on call and 'paying back' all the years of free childcare and financial handouts DH never got.
Not that I hold grudges or anything.

Crunchymum · 10/03/2024 10:13

3-4 times a week (often more - this week I've seen them everyday)

They live 15 minutes walk away, have the kids a few afternoons per week and are absolutely epic people.

MumHereAgain2023 · 10/03/2024 10:16

Never. By choice. They are horrible people.