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If people comment on how handsome your dp is...

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oaksandsycamores · 08/03/2024 23:32

Would you assume they thought you were "punching"?

Someone met my newish boyfriend the other day for the first time and really went on about how handsome he is and I wonder now whether she was surprised that someone like me could pull him!

I feel entirely secure with him and know why he likes me. My insecure side worries people must think we are mismatched and he could do better!

OP posts:
Paradiddlediddle · 08/03/2024 23:35

Yes they do comment
Yes I am punching
No I don’t give a shit, we know what we have

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oaksandsycamores · 08/03/2024 23:37

I wish I could be like that Para.
I shouldn't care two hoots should I?
But I do.

Why did she seem so surprised...like oh wow he is sooo handsome...implication surely...and with you...

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CobraChicken · 09/03/2024 04:31

I had the same thing from one of my aunties on my wedding day!! Then the same sentiment repeated 20ish years later when she next saw him! 🙄

She lives in a different country to us, and I come from a huge family, hence the long gap between meetings.

Loopytiles · 09/03/2024 07:31

Y I would interpret it that way too, and consider the woman rude! and perhaps that she just fancied my H:

Think it’s different if older aunties, grandmother etc did it, if family relations are good and they’re kind in general think that can be more about seeking to be complimentary or admiring youth!

Shiningout · 09/03/2024 07:36

People say my bloke is 'punching' and I hate that. I think it's really shitty.

Ribenaberry12 · 09/03/2024 07:42

Don’t worry about. When I first met my husband people said he was punching. He’s aged into a right silver fox and I’ve gone stout with thread veins and now it’s the other way round. 😂

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oaksandsycamores · 09/03/2024 09:45

Cobra probably a good thing she lives so far away or you'd hear it more often!

I hope this isn't going to happen with everyone when they meet him as it'll get tiresome.

OP posts:
Aviee · 09/03/2024 10:10

Yep. A school mum asked if she could borrrow him for an afternoon so she could make a beautiful sibling for her DS 🤬

malificent7 · 09/03/2024 10:15

I don't see it like that....it's a compliment on my good taste. When I told my friend her ex was handsome I didn't see it as her punching at all...she's beautiful...it was just a fact.

XiCi · 09/03/2024 10:16

Why would someone saying your DP was handsome mean they thought you were unattractive? It makes no sense at all. In fact most couples are at the same attractiveness level. Sounds like you have a very low self esteem and are reading way more into her comment than was intended.

SheepAndSword · 09/03/2024 10:20

Aviee · 09/03/2024 10:10

Yep. A school mum asked if she could borrrow him for an afternoon so she could make a beautiful sibling for her DS 🤬

I think that's a step too far!!

There's a noticeable attractiveness difference between neighbour and her boyfriend, but that's superficial. The thing I can't understand is that she screams her head off every morning when he comes round to pick her up. Perhaps he likes noise...? She gave me quite a shock when she first moved in, I dropped my laptop.

He seems to really care about her.

Chunkycookie · 09/03/2024 10:29

Aviee · 09/03/2024 10:10

Yep. A school mum asked if she could borrrow him for an afternoon so she could make a beautiful sibling for her DS 🤬

That’s just fucking odd behaviour!

My dh looks like a pug.

BobbyBiscuits · 09/03/2024 10:30

If people are saying he's fit it's because he has a look that many people find appealing. You like him, so why shouldn't they?
My H is much more younger looking and attractive than me, when people say he's fit I know it's true, not cos they are saying I'm ugly. I've dated very unattractive men before and it made me depressed to be honest.

XiCi · 09/03/2024 10:34

Aviee · 09/03/2024 10:10

Yep. A school mum asked if she could borrrow him for an afternoon so she could make a beautiful sibling for her DS 🤬

I'm sure this was just a joke 🙄. I've had similar said to me about my DH, I just laughed, didn't take it seriously. Its the type of thing people say when they're just messing around.

TeeBee · 09/03/2024 10:37

Why is a comment about his attractiveness any reflection on yours? Surely they're just commenting about him. My partner is very handsome and most women comment on it. I give a smug smile and 'yeah, he's gorgeous, isn't he?' Lucky me.

Beckafett · 09/03/2024 10:39

Ribenaberry12 · 09/03/2024 07:42

Don’t worry about. When I first met my husband people said he was punching. He’s aged into a right silver fox and I’ve gone stout with thread veins and now it’s the other way round. 😂

This made me spit my tea out laughing! Similar situation here

Branleuse · 09/03/2024 10:40

No I don't think they think I'm punching . He is good looking, so am I , so are our kids. They're just being complimentary. I don't understand why that would mean they thought I was punching above my weight?

Slippersareindeedsexy · 09/03/2024 10:40

That's gross @Aviee I'd have been dying to say because we all need a bit of help.
My DH gets swooned at and works around predominantly women. Cashiers are all smiles and giggles at him. I trust him but he does love being looked at. He thinks he's not good looking but he is.
I'm passable, healthy weight. More importantly I'm a bloody good wife and mother and absolutely couldn't give a fig if it's the beauty and the beast show. My dad was a "looker" and shagged about unfortunately. My mum was absolutely stunning, just beautiful. Fuck knows who I take after.
That song, I'm sexy and I know it - I could change that to I'm punching and I know it.

PinkShore · 09/03/2024 10:42

Aviee · 09/03/2024 10:10

Yep. A school mum asked if she could borrrow him for an afternoon so she could make a beautiful sibling for her DS 🤬

That is wild 😂What’s wrong with people!?

PinkShore · 09/03/2024 10:46

OP, the only correct way to react is reply “yes he’s SO handsome isn’t he!?” or something along those lines.

Bumblebeeinatree · 09/03/2024 10:46

A friend had seen my DH a few times before, but this time he turned up to pick up from school in a suit rather than the usual scruffy jeans. Next time I saw her she said, 'he scrubs up well'! I don't think she had really noticed him before. At that point I think she did think I was punching and I did take it as a (back handed) compliment.

PinkShore · 09/03/2024 10:50

I did the school run for many years, looking like a scruffy, terminally-late, stressed weirdo who just rolled out of bed (because I had). Then my DH took over the school runs, looking naturally handsome and calm like he does. Now when I occasionally show my face at school stuff I do notice some of the other more glam mums looking at me like “???”. Perhaps trying to figure out how I bagged him 😂 FWIW I scrub up okay, just not at 8.30am.

Moier · 09/03/2024 11:04

I'd just take it as a compliment that you have an handsome fella.
Many years ago myself and my partner were camping ( motorcycling through Europe).. l got offered money by a woman from Eastern Europe to sleep with me.. telling me he's so handsome.. he had long blonde hair..and Paul Newman blue eyes and looks.. and she wanted a blonde blue eyed baby.. and that hand on heart is the truth.. we did have the most beautiful daughter of our own ( she's 40 now)... but with red hair.

Moier · 09/03/2024 11:04

" sleep with him" 🤦‍♀️

pharmachameleon · 09/03/2024 11:11

My good friend married an absolutely drop dead gorgeous guy. He's honestly the best looking man I've ever seen in my life. If I've ever commented about his good looks I purely mean he's good looking-I have no thoughts on whether she's punching or not. She has an amazing personality and I think this trumps looks IMO.

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