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Ds has not come home. I'm probably over thinking.

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Bebacksoon22 · 08/03/2024 20:28

I know I'm being stupid. Ds is almost 17. He went to stay at a friend's last night. They planned on going to a museum today . Ds sent me a couple of messages last night. Then he messaged DD to ask her to ask me to put a bit of money in his account. He didn't ask me directly because he was on his friends phone and already talking to dd. So dd heard from him around 8am. We have not heard from him since then . DD tried contacting the friend no joy. We managed to contact DS boyfriend and he said that ds only had 2%battery this morning. But the phone is ringing ? All I can think of is he's left it on charge but with it on? At his friends place.

I get worried something could have happened. But logically. I would have known by now . And they have probably let their battery fully run out. Plus it's not even late .

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Zone2NorthLondon · 08/03/2024 20:43

Have you looked on his SM is he posting? Anyone else you can contact to check in?when did you last have contact?

x2boys · 08/03/2024 20:50

Is he at school/college?
Did he turn up to any lessons tbh I have a son the same age if this is out of character I would worry too.

rubyslippers · 08/03/2024 20:54

i would be starting to worry a bit
is he quite sensible ? Do you have contact for his friend / know where he lives
mutual friend could ask if they’ve heard from him

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Bebacksoon22 · 08/03/2024 20:54

Zone2NorthLondon · 08/03/2024 20:43

Have you looked on his SM is he posting? Anyone else you can contact to check in?when did you last have contact?

I don't have any of his social media stuff. Dd does she's not seen him post anything. But then if he left his phone at his friends he would not have .

Last contact was around 8am this morning he spoke to dd.

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Original poster
Bebacksoon22 · 08/03/2024 21:00

rubyslippers · 08/03/2024 20:54

i would be starting to worry a bit
is he quite sensible ? Do you have contact for his friend / know where he lives
mutual friend could ask if they’ve heard from him

We did manage to contact his boyfriend. He told us that ds battery was on 2% this morning. So it makes sense that he's either left his phone at his friends house charge or its with him but out of battery. But it rings when I call.

I guess they could be messing about a bit maybe getting food etc.

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Tilllly · 08/03/2024 21:04

I think phones ring, even when they're off?

CaribbeanCupcake · 08/03/2024 21:06

Tilllly · 08/03/2024 21:04

I think phones ring, even when they're off?

No they will either go straight to voicemail or say "it's not been possible to connect your call"
Or something along those lines

Elfie23 · 08/03/2024 21:06

When did you hear from his boyfriend? If it's been a few hours could you ring him again to see if he has heard from him?

Elfie23 · 08/03/2024 21:07

Or call the friend?

LucyLaundry · 08/03/2024 21:10

If I couldn't get hold of my 16 year old in 12 hours I'd be calling the police.

YouAndMeAndThem · 08/03/2024 21:19

I'm sorry, a 16 year old who hasn't been seen or heard from for 12 hours is a missing person surely?! Where should he be? School, college, work?

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 08/03/2024 21:24

I would also be ringing the police

BringBackTeletext · 08/03/2024 21:25

Ring the Police rather than ask Mumsnet 🤷🏻‍♀️

SnapdragonToadflax · 08/03/2024 21:29

Can't you ring his boyfriend?

MigGirl · 08/03/2024 21:30

I take it he was supposed to be coming home this evening. At 17 when we where at college we would go to the pub on a Friday night, I know it's not as easy to do that now but is it the sort of thing he'd do?

SpringSprungALeak · 08/03/2024 21:32

I'd ring the boyfriend again.

then I'd leave him a message saying if you don't hear from him before 20pm you'll be calling the police (that might be a big fat fuss he's wanting to avoid?). Or could you/his Dad go around to the friends house.

given he was going to a museum today, and he spoke to DD this morning. I'd assume he was just being thoughtless rather than anything else.

hope you hear from him soon.

SquishyBeanBag · 08/03/2024 21:32

When were you expecting him home? Where was he supposed to be today?

K0OLA1D · 08/03/2024 21:35

How far away was he staying?

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Bebacksoon22 · 08/03/2024 21:35

MigGirl · 08/03/2024 21:30

I take it he was supposed to be coming home this evening. At 17 when we where at college we would go to the pub on a Friday night, I know it's not as easy to do that now but is it the sort of thing he'd do?

He does not go to college. He doesn't always think though. I don't have his friends contact details DD does but I think shes fell asleep. He went out with 2 female friends. I think if something bad had hapoend logically i would have heard?

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Bubblesdevire · 08/03/2024 21:35

I would be very worried
can DD check if he’s been ‘seen’ on Instagram or Snapchat even if he hasn’t posted?
After that I’d be asking the boyf to phone their mutual friends to try and find out where he might be

suafa · 08/03/2024 21:41

Wake your daughter, get the details and ring. If you can't contact anyone, call the police

SkaneTos · 08/03/2024 21:42

Call his boyfriend again? Or call the parents of the boyfriend?
Tell them to give a message to your DS, that you want your DS to contact you, as soon as possible.

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Bebacksoon22 · 08/03/2024 21:43

I'm so angry he just rang me said he's staying at his friend house tonight. I asked what time he got back he said 5/6 . I told him I have been trying to contact him he says he fell asleep I asked did he take his phone out with him he says yes . I been trying to call him several times ... I told him I was about to ring the police he said oh well. I said I see you tomorrow and put the phone down . I'm to angry to talk to him .

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SkaneTos · 08/03/2024 21:44

Happy to read that he is safe!

BathTangle · 08/03/2024 21:46

I'm glad he is safe. Either he doesn't get why you might have been worried (quite usual at that age I think) or he's feeling a bit guilty about not contacting you but doesn't quite know how to express it.