What age did / would you let you daughter get highlights

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Just that really! Google says 16, I definitely used sun in before that 😂

my DD is 13 and asking for a makeover. Any thought on this and just “makeover” in general tips please! I am an old frump with no clue

DD got “money pieces” put in at the front last summer, just before turning 13.

There were kids in her primary school getting highlights in Yr 6.

DD recently donated her hair for the second time having it cut quite short. The hairdresser commented that “most girls your age want long hair” and she replied “I’m not like most girls”. She’s in the air cadets, hates make up and has no interest in expensive skincare or clothes at all. 🤷🏻‍♀️

A lot of hairdressers won’t do it early if looking for proper highlights. As they damage the hair. From the kids around here (dd is 14) 13 or 14 is about the age it’s happening. They all have the same fake look tbh- blonde highlights, fake tan, fake eyelashes, white fox hoody, Nike pro leggings and converse.

Sigh

13 if I had one. I had them at 14. I actually asked for them too dark (near my natural dark blonde mouse colour) as I didn’t know what to ask for and my mum had to demand they redid them blonde (she paid) as they weren’t blonde enough!

I used Sun-In and did them myself as a teen. It did not end well.

Hate to break it to you but us girls mostly looked the same as the ones now in the early mid 80s.

Mine was 16 for highlights as the local hairdressers wouldn’t do it before that.

I'd say focus on clothes not hair at that age and then in time (15?) see about hair - but it depends on whether she or you are willing to pay to maintain highlights.

I did some very very sparse home highlights for my daughter when she was 14 which looked fine and grew out ok. I then made a big mistake - she wanted more and. more highlights and I wouldn't pay for it or do it...I finally caved when she was 15 and had been pestering me for 6 months. I did a home dye job and it did not end well. She's now growing it out and she says she has resolved to wait until she's 25 or earning enough herself to maintain them. Lesson learned...

Probably about year 9 ish

I'd say 15, but a boy in the school I work in has just had a full head done. He's Y3!

The local hairdresser won’t do until 16, and moreover says that if she does them at home and has a disaster, they can’t fix it because she’s not 16!

Thats been enough to put her off for now. Even when she is 16 though, I’m not sure I want to pay every eight weeks for highlights for her, it’s a lot of money. And is not good for her hair.

My DD is 15. If she wanted them id be fine with it.

My daughters 13 and after a lot of moaning 'everyone dyes their hair, even the teachers do' I have in and recently done a few subtle highlights on her, I bought a highlight kit and pulled through hair very thin sparingly, I think it turned out well, wasn't blonde enough according to her though.
I won't let her have anything dramatic until she's at least 16

Thanks all. leaning towards maybe a few thin ones or even a light balayage?

But good advice to maybe think about clothes etc if she fancies a change

16 sounds good. I had Sun In before that but it looked shit. Highlights damage your hair and need upkeep.

Gas she actually asked for highlights or just for a makeover? If the latter I absolutely would not suggest anything like dying hair. How about a haircut and some new clothes?

When she can pay for it herself, be it from employment or saved pocket money.

DD is almost 14 and gets a few and has her hair lightened without bleach. I was very clear if it ruins her hair she will have to get it cut off.

She uaes her pocket money yo buy coconut oil as a hair treatment and is great at taking care of it.

At the end of the day it is just hair and it grows back, so I'm ok with her experimenting. I Remember accidentally dying my hair green one summer about her age!

My hairdresser will not do
It before 16 due to insurance.

My daughter had hers done first at 14y. Mildest possible option by a hairdresser I know well and trust

This! I can’t believe how many parents are paying for this, it costs hundreds of pounds to have done professionally round here.

My DM never let me have highlights or dye my hair at all! At the time, I thought she was mean and ruining my life. Now I am so glad she didn’t. My hair is in great condition and I have still never dyed it!

I won’t be letting my girls dye their hair either. They can do what they want at 18 but hopefully they’ll agree it was right not to damage their beautiful hair!

My dd got them for her 13th birthday. My logic was that if it was at the hairdressers it was more controlled so less damaging. At 13 I was a typical 90's teenager and ruined my hair messing around with colours at home, so really didn't want her experimenting herself.

They actually look lovely, and she was thrilled to bits. It's growing out really nicely (she didn't go horribly light). We've agreed that she can have it redone every 6/9 months, the hairdresser felt that would keep damage to a minimum and dd feels like I'm listening rather than just saying no.

We were dying our own hair at 13 but certainly wouldn't encourage a highlights habit at that age. I baulk at paying the upkeep for my own balayage!

This makes no sense. The hair you had in your teens is long gone. Dying it then wouldn’t affect your hair now. 😂

I don’t think my hair has been its natural colour since I was about 13. It’s been bright purple for the last 5 years and is in great condition despite quarterly highlights.

Because starting the dying process means either have a long time of it looking shit whilst it’s growing out, cutting it short or keeping up with the highlights, colour, whatever which damages your hair and is costly. None of these options appeal to me now I’m an adult and can appreciate my hair for the unusual colour it naturally is and I’m glad my DM didn’t let me start when I was a flaky teen.

Also, you have no idea how old I am. I’m 29 and I have incredibly long hair which I don’t cut often. The hair from my teens is very likely still there, even if just at the ends.

Well, mine got a bleached fringe at 15