What age did / would you let you daughter get highlights

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Just that really! Google says 16, I definitely used sun in before that 😂

my DD is 13 and asking for a makeover. Any thought on this and just “makeover” in general tips please! I am an old frump with no clue

My hairdresser wouldn’t touch a 13 year old with bleach. Quite a lot won’t. And I wouldn’t really trust one that did.

Yes Harmony, shaders and toners

DM would just about pay for me to get a haircut but I think she did pay for perms as we had a home hairdresser

Changed in recent years then! When I was younger they thought nothing of perming and highlighting 13 or 12 year old hair (80s).

I had my first highlights at 14

Lots in my DD’s year getting them done recently. She’s year 9. She’s not interested but I won’t let her anyway because she has beautiful chestnut hair with natural tones so why spoil that!

DD can get highlights when she can afford to pay for them.

She can spend her pocket money on Sun-In if she wants but I don’t recommend it.

If she wanted a professional hairdresser, she would need a job.

I work in a primary and several 11 yr olds have them.Imo it's too young

DD1 got highlights at 15 when she had a weekend job and could pay for them herself.

Lots of things have changed since the 80s!
It was still legal to drive a child without a seat belt and rap their knuckles in school til 1986.

It’s just sad that girls so young want to change things about their looks and prioritise looking like everyone else… I try to encourage my children to value more than looks for themselves and others too… and especially for the girls as that pressure is immense. I think there is an age (typically 11-14) where that urge to fit in and look the same is strongest… thankfully if you can hold firm over that time and they come out the other side, they seem to be more able to see the world a little more objectively and Ive been lucky to have girls who so far haven’t become too “fake” loving… focusing on what you DO and who you ARE not what you LOOK like…

I remember buying something called 'Hint of a Tint' when I was 12. I hid it in a shoebox at the bottom of my wardrobe, got it out and used it gradually at bath time. Like you, mine didn't turn out wonderfully but so what? It didn't kill me. Once I got past thirteen I went au natural and realised my hair was quite a nice colour :-). Youngsters get fed up with doing their hair with different colours so I wouldn't worry too much about it but, if asked, I would say fourteen is young enough.

14

My mum is a hairdresser and decided I'd look good with some age 10ish and I haven't had a natural head since, almost two decades later

Agree with this! I can just about afford a hair cut myself (been 9 months since my last). I box dye it myself. If my DD had wanted expensive hair appointments, she'd have to pay herself. I paid for my kids haircuts and that's it.

Meh. I'd probably say around age 12 ish, I haven't had natural colour hair (and mines very obviously not natural, it's fire engine red!) in about 16 years. So I'm really ok if she wants highlights.

18 when she became an adult responsible for her own decisions and could choose to spoil her beautiful natural hair (or not) herself.

When she started high school.

Another one who agrees with 'When she can pay for it herself'.

Dd and I had a play with a box dye in lock down (aged 14) she started to hate how it looked so I paid for her to have a professional job done for her 15th birthday. It was so good I started having mine done too. We go 4 times a year it costs me about £180 for both of us. That's the price of three takeaway coffees a week and gives us both so much mre pleasure. 👩

Yeah, I told both my Dds that while I'm obliged to pay for cuts, colour is a luxury and can come out of pocket money or as a birthday present. They both went off the idea sharpish.

Mine had great 'surfer dude' highlights in her dark blonde hair by being - well, not a surfer dude but a watersports enthusiast.

I can't afford to do my own highlights (been 18 months 😭) so 14yr DD has no chance!

Except her well off dad paid at a top hairdresser for her to have them done when she was 13. She hasn't had them done again and she listened to my advice and went subtle and balayage to avoided the growing out phase. Still looks lovely actually.

It's £100s every few months. I would want to discourage it based on cost tbh!

Having said that my own mum wouldn't let me cut my hair, shave or anything when I was her age. So I vowed never to be that strict.

At the age she could pay for it!