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Wedding Favours

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ReadyForSeason · 26/02/2024 22:18

Are the still a must have? Seems like a waste of money and unsustainable but I would not want to disappoint my guests. Probably, just chocolate that will be eaten is best.?

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Maireas · 27/02/2024 15:52

The worst ones are some homemade food stuffs, eg jam or sauce. They usually go to waste.

Maireas · 27/02/2024 15:53

FabFebHalfTerm · 27/02/2024 10:31

@Maireas

i think we get it, you don't value favours & think they're a waste of money.

Af for Chair covers. People don't remember them, but they'd probably remember if there were horrible looking chairs, it just adds to the overall impression of the venue & helps to create a nice 'celebratory' atmosphere.

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No, I doubt people would comment on horrible chairs. Just somewhere to put your arse.

Maireas · 27/02/2024 15:54

Some of these charity things are very nice, especially when there's a link to the wedding, like a relative. A pin is a lovely favour in that circumstance.

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Maireas · 27/02/2024 16:02

@elm26 - I think that's a lovely way to remember your grandad, and a very good cause.

lazyarse123 · 27/02/2024 18:21

The last wedding we went to about 6 years ago the favours were china cups and saucers. Obviously sourced from charity shops as they were all different. I took ours as they were very pretty but a nightmare to try and put breakables in a dressy bag. I have just given them away but felt a bit guilty.
So I wouldn't bother with anything.

junebirthdaygirl · 27/02/2024 19:47

My only memorable one was knitted napkin holders in a lovely mocha colour ( bridesmaid colour) with little flower on top..knitted by brides mum. Everyone forgot to take them late in the night so l helped myself and got a lovely set. Otherwise l have no interest and hate looking around later and seeing them thrown on the table after all the fuss. I never notice if there is none.

EndlesslyDistracted · 27/02/2024 20:05

I cannot for the life of me imagine wanting to change into flip flops at a wedding, surely you take comfort into account when choosing your shoes.

BarrelOfOtters · 27/02/2024 21:16

EndlesslyDistracted · 27/02/2024 20:05

I cannot for the life of me imagine wanting to change into flip flops at a wedding, surely you take comfort into account when choosing your shoes.

😂😂😂

ColouringPencils · 27/02/2024 21:29

We didn't do them and I probably wouldn't notice if others didn't, but some of the ideas like scratch cards are fun and a bit of a talking point at the table.

The last wedding I went to had slippers for the women (not as favours, in a big basket by the dance floor). I thought it was brilliant and definitely encouraged us to dance all night.

tillytoodles1 · 27/02/2024 21:37

My daughter and her H made donations to the British Heart Foundation and Cancer Research and received little notelets that were at the place settings.

Maireas · 27/02/2024 21:44

tillytoodles1 · 27/02/2024 21:37

My daughter and her H made donations to the British Heart Foundation and Cancer Research and received little notelets that were at the place settings.

That's a really nice thing to do.

Tarkan · 27/02/2024 21:51

EndlesslyDistracted · 27/02/2024 20:05

I cannot for the life of me imagine wanting to change into flip flops at a wedding, surely you take comfort into account when choosing your shoes.

We supplied flip flops and spa slippers at ours. Almost all of them were taken. I even used a pair of flip flops myself as my feet started swelling up with standing/walking for so long during the whole day.

Tisfortired · 27/02/2024 21:55

I’m doing personalised biscuits, a ready made butter biscuit from M&S with rolled icing on top and a personalised stamp that says ‘Mr and Mrs Tisfortired. DATE’ In a sweet little polka dot bag. For the kids
am also doing a little activity pack with colouring
books and bubbles. I think edible is the way to go.

NoNameIdeas · 27/02/2024 22:03

We got married on Easter Saturday (also engaged in Easter Saturday the previous year!) so had Lindt chocolate bunnies for ours, I just added name tags to the ribbons so they were the place cards as well. Not single one was left behind!

littlemousebigcheese · 27/02/2024 22:05

I wonder how much money a charity makes from a donation if they have to send enough pins and bits for every guest 🤔

Scratch cards sound interesting but what if someone won big?! Would it be their prize or yours as you bought it?!

mentalbandwidth · 27/02/2024 22:05

We each chose a charity close to us and did pin badges

hellsBells246 · 27/02/2024 22:05

elm26 · 26/02/2024 22:26

We donated £100 to cancer research and had the pin badges, they put "in loving memory of "my Grandads name". He died of cancer 7 months before we got married.

I look back at photos and see our guests with them on their suits etc and it makes me really proud, like a nod to him on our big day.

That's a lovely idea.

hellsBells246 · 27/02/2024 22:06

Lyricallie · 26/02/2024 22:31

We went with a little shot of local gin. So got some money into the local area and got in a cheeky extra drink into the venue. All of them were taken/snaffled at the end for the after party.

Nice one!

Tarkan · 27/02/2024 22:22

littlemousebigcheese · 27/02/2024 22:05

I wonder how much money a charity makes from a donation if they have to send enough pins and bits for every guest 🤔

Scratch cards sound interesting but what if someone won big?! Would it be their prize or yours as you bought it?!

The ones I got I think cost £1 each (they're currently £2 each on the site though so I'm maybe misremembering) and I made my own cards to go with them. They were for BHF. I think the original card they arrived on said something about the percentage that went to the charity but I can't remember for sure as it was a few years ago now.

Moelfamau · 27/02/2024 22:55

Went to one wedding where the men got mini bottles of whisky and the women a square box of chocs. Most men didn't want warm whisky so one twat hoovered waaaay too many and the women didn't want melted chocolate or a box that wouldn't ho in a small clutch bag.

We went outside for a breather after the meal and when we went back in, all the tables had been cleared of everything including the favours, so a waste of time, money and angst for the bride.

And no, I'm not putting a metal pin through the £200 dress I bought so you can virtue signal about giving 50quid to charity.

I don't think I like weddings....

Kooples · 27/02/2024 23:12

Moelfamau · 27/02/2024 22:55

Went to one wedding where the men got mini bottles of whisky and the women a square box of chocs. Most men didn't want warm whisky so one twat hoovered waaaay too many and the women didn't want melted chocolate or a box that wouldn't ho in a small clutch bag.

We went outside for a breather after the meal and when we went back in, all the tables had been cleared of everything including the favours, so a waste of time, money and angst for the bride.

And no, I'm not putting a metal pin through the £200 dress I bought so you can virtue signal about giving 50quid to charity.

I don't think I like weddings....

Bit harsh…

I think the charity donation is a lovely idea. My only reservation about charity donations is that I wouldn’t want them to send any little flyers/pins to save even more money. I reckon if we did this, we’d have just done a homemade sign on each table about the donation instead of favours.

elm26 · 28/02/2024 09:31

"Virtue signal about giving money to charity" ??? Why so rude? Maybe those of us who have lost people close to us and felt heartbroken they wouldn't be at our wedding wanted to do something to remember them. Nobody knew we donated £100 to Cancer Research, nobody knew we then paid extra for the pins and little cards that said who they were in memory of. It was our personal nod to my Grandad who would have walked me down the aisle had he not been taken from us by cancer and whilst we are on the subject, nobody is forcing you to put it on at all, or put it through your "£200" dress. Just like nobody is forcing you to eat chocolate/sugared almonds/drink gin or anything else that's used as wedding favours.

elm26 · 28/02/2024 09:32

That response below was meant for @Moelfamau, oh and if you don't like weddings why are you buying £200 dresses for them or even accepting invitations?

BIossomtoes · 28/02/2024 09:40

elm26 · 26/02/2024 22:26

We donated £100 to cancer research and had the pin badges, they put "in loving memory of "my Grandads name". He died of cancer 7 months before we got married.

I look back at photos and see our guests with them on their suits etc and it makes me really proud, like a nod to him on our big day.

Our daughter did this. It was absolutely lovely.

JSMill · 28/02/2024 14:25

elm26 · 26/02/2024 22:26

We donated £100 to cancer research and had the pin badges, they put "in loving memory of "my Grandads name". He died of cancer 7 months before we got married.

I look back at photos and see our guests with them on their suits etc and it makes me really proud, like a nod to him on our big day.

That's so lovely!

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