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Wedding Favours

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ReadyForSeason · 26/02/2024 22:18

Are the still a must have? Seems like a waste of money and unsustainable but I would not want to disappoint my guests. Probably, just chocolate that will be eaten is best.?

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elm26 · 27/02/2024 08:11

Thank you @FabFebHalfTerm x

user1471538283 · 27/02/2024 08:11

One wedding I went to years ago had little rolls of sweets that was cute but I don't think they were eaten. The children were encouraged to have cupcakes as well. Another left disposal cameras that were then collected at the end.

Another wedding didn't have anything like this but lots of lovely food! And desert was the wedding cake!

It's just more expense really.

FabFebHalfTerm · 27/02/2024 10:31

Maireas · 27/02/2024 07:30

I think they're a bit like chair covers. No-one remembers them.

@Maireas

i think we get it, you don't value favours & think they're a waste of money.

Af for Chair covers. People don't remember them, but they'd probably remember if there were horrible looking chairs, it just adds to the overall impression of the venue & helps to create a nice 'celebratory' atmosphere.

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Rosesanddaisies1 · 27/02/2024 10:33

I'd only do edible ones. otherwise put that money behind the bar, will be far more appreciated!

strugglingnd · 27/02/2024 10:37

Wedding favours have completely passed me by have never been to a wedding that had them.Quite like the idea of a biscuit with names on for seat settings .

IDontLikePinaColadas · 27/02/2024 10:37

I’m a wedding planner and, honestly, don’t bother with them - if I had a pound for every wedding favour I have ended up putting in the bin I would be laughing.

CadoAvo · 27/02/2024 10:38

We did homemade ones. We had a very loose water theme so we collected rocks from the beach and MIL painted them, they were lovely. If people didn't want to keep them then it's no worries. FIL also made Scottish tablet which went down a treat.

Flowersandforests · 27/02/2024 10:55

We donated to Alzheimer’s charity as sadly both sides of our family have been affected by it - they sent little cards that we could put on that table so people could see what we had done. We had so many people coming up to us and saying their family had been affected by it too.

im personally not a fan of the mini bottles as alcohol as I think it’s a bit tacky - also we went to a wedding where someone did homemade sloe gin and it just got silly with certain people going round the tables and downing all the leftovers.

I think something edible or charity donations (or nothing!)

Lochroy · 27/02/2024 11:00

I like them when they are interesting and have a personal connection. For example, the Aussie bride who gave everyone a mini Bundaberg rum (UK wedding).

We did small jars of MIL's homegrown homemade jam. Possibly a bit random but it was a nice contribution from her and they were all taken.

But I wouldn't miss them if they weren't there and I wouldn't bother if just a bag of sweets. Save the money,

Tel12 · 27/02/2024 11:03

Careful with chocolate if it's a summer wedding. Little bags of mints seem to go down well.

drillydrillgill · 27/02/2024 11:26

I went to a wedding where much was made of the favours in advance, how a part of them had to be imported as they couldn't find what they wanted here. On being seated we each had a standard shot glass filled with green jelly beans (to match the colour scheme). One guest asked the groom's mum "what was the thing they had imported?" which was slightly embarrassing.

After dinner the young bridesmaids grabbed each glass and emptied the beans into a big bag, then asked each guest to pay a pound to guess how many beans were in the bag, despite them not knowing themselves.

Best favours were flying saucer sweets

ItLiterallyJustSaysFoldInTheCheese · 27/02/2024 11:42

At a particularly 'special' wedding I went to, the favours were little cloth bags containing a condom, paracetamol and a berocca. As a nod to decency, any children on the table weren't given one. Or anything in fact 😂

OopsieeDaisy · 27/02/2024 11:53

I quite like wedding favours but agree that they’re not a necessity. Edible favours and cheap scratch cards are always good. I also went to a wedding where the favour was a personalised shot glass of pink gin so they doubled as a place marker which was nice.

RuthW · 27/02/2024 12:05

Waste of money. I didn't have them in 1989 or 2023.

BarrelOfOtters · 27/02/2024 12:07

I know I've been to weddings with favours but hand on heart I can't tell you what any of them were....it's a no from me.

IvorTheEngineDriver · 27/02/2024 12:08

Never did them at any family wedding. Total waste of money.

StarlightLime · 27/02/2024 12:52

ItLiterallyJustSaysFoldInTheCheese · 27/02/2024 11:42

At a particularly 'special' wedding I went to, the favours were little cloth bags containing a condom, paracetamol and a berocca. As a nod to decency, any children on the table weren't given one. Or anything in fact 😂

Classy.

ranchdressing · 27/02/2024 12:53

Small and edible on the day or nothing

toomuchfaff · 27/02/2024 13:44

just married, we toyed over this for ages. If in doubt go for something useful that ties in - either food or something people can use vs wasteful tat.

We had small bottles of limoncello as we were honeymooning in Italy - with tags - "we tied the knot, please take a shot". I bought the bottles on marketplace, bought the tags from Shein and bought the Limoncello from bargain booze and filled them ourselves.

everyone commented on the limoncello being lovely - even got messages weeks later where people had saved theirs and were enjoying it that night

purplecorkheart · 27/02/2024 14:11

I remember a few years ago leaving my bag in a luggage room in a hotel. They had a massive box of wedding favours that they had gathered over the previous few weeks with a massive sign saying please help yourself. Loads of things like bottle openers, fridge magnets etc in it

InTheRainOnATrain · 27/02/2024 14:20

I found a packet of wildflower seeds with my name on in a bag I clearly hadn’t used in ages last week, since it’s been nearly a year since I went to a wedding. No clue which of the 3 that year it came from. Unfortunately I don’t have any grass in my garden so I’d only taken them to be polite. I remember the wedding that had vodka minis, the rest honestly no clue. Sweets I would probably enjoy if you have to do something but IDK if it looks a bit kids party, maybe choose carefully. Chocolate I’d avoid as it could melt on a warm day. I like the limoncello idea from PP, because limoncello is delicious and boozy, exactly what you want at a wedding. But you could just as easily skip it and I don’t think it would be noticed.

Saymyname28 · 27/02/2024 14:23

I know someone who did £1 scratch cards. I think that was a great idea. If people left them behind you could have fun going through them together looking for winners.

We did cookies, those left behind got taken on the honeymoon with the leftover wedding cake and eaten by us

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/02/2024 14:31

My dd didn’t bother. What she did do, however, for a high-summer wedding, was to order a load of ‘wedding’ flip flops in assorted sizes, for when female guests’ feet were killing them.
They were extremely popular. And comfortable straightaway - but not exactly cheap.

The men got nothing, but I didn’t hear any complaints!

benid · 27/02/2024 14:52

If you do amazing ones people will remember and be impressed (I once went to a wedding where you got 2 Godiva chocolates 😍)
...but if you don't do any, people won't notice the lack of them - save the money to spend on your honeymoon :)

Maireas · 27/02/2024 15:50

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/02/2024 14:31

My dd didn’t bother. What she did do, however, for a high-summer wedding, was to order a load of ‘wedding’ flip flops in assorted sizes, for when female guests’ feet were killing them.
They were extremely popular. And comfortable straightaway - but not exactly cheap.

The men got nothing, but I didn’t hear any complaints!

Well, she obviously had plenty of money to spend!