What has happened to Mumsnet? So many horrible people on here

[Fedupwitheveryone]

Every thread I read seems to have a nasty comment or response straight off the bat. And so many responses seem to come from people jumping to irate conclusions without having read the OP's post properly. It's so tedious.

It hasn't always been this bad. It used to have genuinely useful advice and/or funny comments. What has changed?

Also no one gives helpful advice on things such as schools which years ago used to be popular. Now no one replies to anything unless it’s a thread to do with title tatle

Agree op.
I’ve noticed the same poster having that mean dismissive tone on every thread they’re on. Really spoils it imo.

You must be reading a different MN from me.

I see posters on here offering support and advice every single day.

On education threads yes.
tv threads are lovely too.

Some other threads not so much. I tend to avoid those but I do think the tone is set by the first response.

The mental health board is quite kind thank God.

I saw someone the other day who got loads of good advice on their trivial thread turn round and shit all over someone on a serious thread. Their card is marked now I was gobsmacked

It’s a bit mad to see when you recognise a poster behaving the same way.

I like the conversation style threads. Rather than bun fights.

Unfortunately hun I find people these days like this here in this country. People are becoming cynical bitter and rude and it was never like this in the 90/early 00s when I was growing up. It’s rudeness disguised as honesty too in some people! I miss the days of face to face communication and kindness.

It's very sad. So many people are seriously lacking in empathy and cannot understand difference.

At least 10% will be below average intelligence and this is what they find entertaining. For the same reason, they will be more aggressive due to a harder life and also aggression is easier than diplomacy.

There will be straight up trolls with multiple accounts, they will be angry about their own life for whatever reason, and misery loves company.

There will be those with personality disorders featuring sadism, and they simply enjoy upsetting and hurting people in various ways.

There will also be some misogynistic men posting here masquerading as women. Perhaps a few teenagers who don’t know any better as well.

It depends where you hang out. If you come on here with the mindset of following your interests, being generally helpful and fair, you are probably going to dip into different threads. People spoiling for a fight are more likely to be in AIBU than the gardening section!

The nastiness reflects society. At the moment many are feeling anxious, angry, or low and feel that they can use anonymous forums to vent things that are socially unacceptable to say in real life.

There's a small group of gaslighters, point scorers and trolls who seem to derive a warped enjoyment from putting other people down.

Am sure one particular person changes her name regularly to point score, because she writes in exactly the same way using the same tired old phrases. Always nasty, always condescending.

MN is a nasty, cold place - with a few notable exceptions but not that many. People don’t even bother to thank each other (unlike, say, Reddit). Gratuitously rude, patronising, ungracious.The pile-ons are unpleasant and cheap. People often get immediately confrontational for no obvious reason. There is occasional humour or wisdom but not enough to make up for the nasties. Also, the majority happily sit back and let others be attacked for no good reason, which to me is the true litmus test of a toxic environment.

So you either joined to post that @koolkuala, or you namechanged.

If the former - how do you know?
If the latter - why not have the courage of convictions to post your thoughts?

You get knobs everywhere, and they are emboldened by anonymity. There are lots of nice helpful clever people on here too though, and I’m grateful for that.

Yes totally agree and I think the person that finds the AI bot that keeps spaces like these genuinely places of safety support and blunt kindness will make a fortune.

Totally agree i put a post on this morning regarding my 11 year old son and how about kids and him saying stuff to each other like tit for tat basically but 3 lads pushed my son over and kicked him whilst he was on the floor. For me to get posts back saying he basically deserves it and he needs to grow up over the summer holidays. I dont get how people can just be so mean fair enough have an opinion and say it but do it in a nice way. People are just becoming more and more nasty. Sorry I know this is an old post but just wanted to rant 😅