What has happened to Mumsnet? So many horrible people on here

[Fedupwitheveryone]

Every thread I read seems to have a nasty comment or response straight off the bat. And so many responses seem to come from people jumping to irate conclusions without having read the OP's post properly. It's so tedious.

It hasn't always been this bad. It used to have genuinely useful advice and/or funny comments. What has changed?

I always think that it not long before nastiness rears it's head on most threads.the exception is probably the nostalgic ones. No.need for the nastiness

so many responses seem to come from people jumping to irate conclusions without having read the OP's post properly

The lack of ability to read and comprehend what they have just read sadly is not new.
So many threads will have information in them that a lot of people miss;

OP I've got 2 dc age 2 and 4 in the first line

Guaranteed not many replies in;

Do you have dc and how old are they?

It's become insane even the most inncous threads get absolutely awful posters commenting rubbish.
All I can suggest is keep reporting but it's insane.

The misreading/deliberate misinterpreting - then people quoting and repeating those replies - has got so bad, it completely ruins threads. I think MN should delete these when asked to.

I don’t see that it’s men who are responsible for the nastiness, it’s definitely women hating women on here. It’s not the supportive place it should be, I’ve never seen as much hate for women as I do here.

oh l didn't even think of that. Great idea. I am sooooooo sick of reading about gender politics

I have been on MN since 2008 or so, under lots of different names. I've seen dozens of threads like this - "it used to be nicer".

The only real difference I've noticed in my time is that with so many users and people being a bit more savvy about name changes, you don't develop friendly relationships with other posters who you get to know as total people. But it doesn't bother me.

I think we all have to remember that not everyone on here lives the life they claim to.

As a result there will be a few bitter, jealous, lonely people out there whose only outlet is to take their pain and frustrations out on the users of an online community as it may well be their only communication with the outside world.

It's always been like this, and if you had searched you would have found many threads with the same complaints.

People get frustrated because the same old "mumsnetters are mean" well if this place doesn't work for you, then no one is making you stay, other forums exist. It always used to be said that netmums was nicer...

There are a few trolls atm who are doing a pretty good job of just looking
like a standard MN arsehole

stuff like

”i spooked my dog and he growled at me, what should i do next?”
”get it PTS, It’s obviously dangerous and will bite a child next. Youre irresponsible to have it in the house”

I have been reporting them and they’re being deleted as PBP

I just ignore the snide ones and engage with the pleasant ones. Partly because it'll annoy a troll to be ignored when they've been rude or snide 🤷‍♀️ and partly because I just can't be arsed to argue online with an unknown

Anyone who thinks it used to be kind and friendly back when it was all fields is either wearing rose-tinted spectacles or is getting here confused with Netmums.

It used to be funnier (actual posters were funny, far fewer trolls and twats making shit up for fun) but it's always been acerbic.

Yes, or people who are having relationship problems and have children then someone sanctimonious berates them for having children with such a crap DP.

Or maybe your like me what's written is plain and simple as that's how I think but could be read as rude maybe

It definitely was pretty awful 5 years ago when I was on here a lot. I took a couple of years off and have just come back recently. I think it's really important to name change very frequently otherwise the people who pick on folks have a lot of amunition to make up nasty stuff.

Mumsnet has always been scarily aggressive though, at least from what I've seen.

The only other forum I've ever been a regular on was very gentle in public, but had a small core of nasty people who would write to posters offlist and tell them to take a hike in very unpleasant terms. I found that really weird.

tbh I think online forums are just quite tough places.

I agree with the poster who said the whole world is very tough just now. I'm finding that really very very much.

Well we all know that most threads are a bunch of lies anyway.
Id say about every 100 threads there are 20 true 30 over exaggerating and 50 are bullshit.
I get quoted a lot on my spelling and grammar mainly by teachers they can be rude. Then again ive never been keen on teachers so dont care when they do start.

Hmm I'm not sure on this one. I think a large percentage of women who post on relationships could do with raising their bar and getting rid of the useless, nasty, lazy partners they have.

Do really need an identical thread like this every two days? Stop moaning and hide threads that offend you like everyone else does.

irate much?

This

and this
I have been on MN since 2008 or so, under lots of different names. I've seen dozens of threads like this - "it used to be nicer".

although I've been here quite a bit longer than that.

Its' the same principle as the "Life was better in the 1980s" type threads. It isn't objectively true, just a perception with the haze of dodgy memories.

Of course MN is a lot bigger now than it was in 2004 and there are hundreds of thousands more posts and more posters.

But, if it doesn't suit, then move on elsewhere.
Or, if there are particular areas you don't like, then hide those topics.

There a thousands of great posts on here every day. It's a fab site. It is annoying you get people joining then moaning about it so much though. We should all try things out, and, if they aren't for us, then move on.

They're not wrong though are they?

Hmm, well I’m not the one that starts a moaning thread that bleats how awful people are.

Following a post a few weeks back regarding 'which posters do you still think about' I did a bit of searching around something I remembered from when I first came on MN - maybe around 2008-2010 and on the threads I looked at, there was a completely different vibe, with posters chatting to each other as you would with RL friends. There are a few still like that now - but definitely in the minority .

i'm not moaning so much as disappointed. I used to come on here for useful info and ideas. Now instead I find it pretty quickly either frustrating or depressing.

It's just an observation, MY observation. Happy to be disagreed with but not sure why posters feel the need to jump on my to tell me not to 'moan'. This is exactly the kind of trite automatic dismissal fired off quickly which was kind of my point in the first place.....

Lol, how about you follow your own advice 😂