Described as a lovely lady

[Soreteatowel]

🤣 I've no idea why. I spent yesterday with some club mates, including a relatively new member. After the day he text both me and a friend to say thank you, described us as "quality" (guess what part of the world we're from 🤣) but in the one to my (male) friend he was gushy about what a "lovely lady" I am.

Now, it's not my favourite term, but I'll forgive him, as it's a symptom of his background, but my goodness it made me feel old. He's a man in his late 30s who I suspect sees me as the same generation as his mum!

I don't think I'm particularly lovely. I can be grumpy and probably say what I'm thinking too often. What would you see in someone to describe them as lovely, or is it just a generic thing to says as thanks?

I think it's nice tbh and dont think it has age related connotations.

Although, I'm 38 and recently, men have started referring to me as "love". I have taken this to mean I am looking older these days 😅

This doesn't mean much unless you tell us how old you are.

Yes I work with a lot of under 30s and I get treated like an old lady. Lots of “yeah, my mum likes that too” (from people 10 years at the most younger than me)

I have kids, they don’t?

I don't know but Jesus that would make me feel ancient too!

I'm sure he was just being polite and he obviously did think you were very nice 🙂

Don't think I've ever been described as 'lovely'. Is it a bit of a beige compliment?!

Who cares, it's a compliment, bask away!

Early 50s

Yeh, bit like "you're lovely but I don't see you THAT WAY" when you weren't thinking that he would. Similar compliments have left me feeling but down. Not sobbing or depressed@ but just ah, thanks, you had to let me KNOW you see me as old.

I think it’s nice - it’s respectful. I don’t think it has particular age connotations; arguably, it would be a touch disrespectful to call a woman some 20 years his senior a “great girl” or a “top bird” or whatever. So I don’t think I’d read anything into it other than he enjoyed your company.

I was just thinking that lol

Of all the details to leave out!

I distinctly remember the French holiday when I realised I had transitioned from Madamoiselle to Madame.

Someone being gushy about what a lovely lady you are!
I would take it as a compliment.

I'd describe someone as lovely if they exceeded my expectations for the level of niceness/friendliness/help/patience I might normally find in that context. So the friend of a friend who went out of their way to include me, the ticket inspector who sympathised and didn't fine me for my lost ticket, my neighbour who always takes my bin in and apologises in advance if she is having her (noisy) GC round etc. It just means a bit above and beyond to me.

😂

There's one Ocado driver that calls me Miss, it really cheers me up for some reason 😂

(In my fifties)

I think he thought it was a nice compliment, I definitely agree it sounds age -ist

He could be lining up to be your toy boy you know. There's not that many years between you. Look at Cher and Joan Collins😃

Wait for your 60s......you go from being the one that holds doors open or stops the car to allow elderly people to cross the road with their shopping bags....to being the one that the cars stop for😭

Yes, this is my thinking too.

It is how I would use it, and how it has been used about me

<Preens>

I'll take any compliment that is well intentioned - no need to be picky about someone using terminology that you might not use.

Lovely lady is a compliment. I’d happily use with someone 30 + as the lady bit infers a grown woman rather then someone just out of their teens.

He's just being nice. Some people get offended by anything.

Glasgow?

I’m in my 40s and have an Australian friend who l’ve known since l was 22. She always calls me “pretty lady”. Not sure it’s deserved, but l think it shows some expressions are timeless.

My sister on the other hand, often affectionately calls me “slapper” 😀.

Is he a medic? 'Thank you for seeing this lovely lady'....😄

At my last school all the female teachers were ‘Miss’. No surname used. I loved it. Made me feel very youthful.

What’s a symptom of his background mean?

I think you’re overthinking this. It’s a generic compliment.

Just means he thinks you're nice, it's a compliment.

I felt a bit down after being screamed at that I was ugly after I changed my appearance and then a local greeted me with "hello my pretty lady" which perked me up a bit.

Honestly, take nice words as you find them!

I assumed North West England. Liverpool or Manchester area.