Is crying in front of my emotionally abusing them?

[missmouse1969]

Just going through a very bitter separation from the father of my children.
Children are 15, 13 & 11.
Their father has a non-molestation order against him. He has moved to his new house. The children and I will be moving to our new home this week on completion of the family home.

Ongoing domestic abuse since last May. I have been supported by the police and various living free from violence and abuse charities.

I often break down in tears in front of my children. Their father tells them that I'm emotionally abusing them.
Am I?

i wouldn't say it necessarily is but i'm worried you have moved straight on from an abusive relationship to another relationship immediately without taking time to process the abusive one , that could be incredibly confusing for your kids ...are you having counselling?

You're not but you need to try to keep your emotions in check while around them. Regularly seeing their mother break down won't be doing their mental wellbeing much good and they need support / to be able to cry without feeling they can't because it might set you off. I speak from experience on the other side.

It’s not ideal to be crying all the time in front of your kids, my mum did it all the time and it really unsettled me

I’ve been through an horrendous 3 years where I’ve had to deal with death of dh, mum dying and an aunt plus my kids being completely rejected by their biological parent and other shit. I don’t show my feelings in front of them by crying. I do tell them if I’m not doing great and they know to give me a bit of space (they are teens) and then I have a good cry in private.

No, but by saying such things HE is emotionally abusing YOU.