Year 6 bedtime?!

[bumblebee1987]

Constant argument in my house about what is an appropriate bedtime for my son who has just turned 11 and is in year 6.

My son is adamant that all of his friends don't have a bedtime and can go to bed whenever they want. I am adamant this isn't true!

So I have said I will ask here for the general consensus! Hoping this will stop the arguments!

What time do your year 6 children go to bed on weekends and weekdays?

At that age, my DD were in bed by 9 on a school night and allowed 15 mins reading time before lights out. This was stretched to 10 at the weekend / school holidays. When they were in 6th Form, they usually took themselves to bed around 9 still, but weekends could be anyone’s guess 😂😂

When my DDs tried to argue about bedtime time, I’d remind them that it wasn’t up for negotiation and if they continued to argue they’d have a consequence (usually a reduction of pocket money). They learned very quickly that it wasn’t worth arguing.

Ds aged 11 has weekday bedtime of 9/9.30 pm , gets up at 6am no problem. Scouts is on til 9.15 once a week so a bit later that night. Weekends about 10/10.30 pm, later if we’re all watching a film or something. He’s not tired and gets up easily in the mornings.

DD1 (11, will be 12 in November) is in bed at around 9, but I allow her to read or draw until she's tired. That means she's sometimes asleep by 10, sometimes by 11 but she genuinely has never slept that well and this way she's unwinding ahead of sleeping. DD2 goes up at the same time and is usually asleep by 9.30.

Mine is in her room after bath/shower time, which is usually from around 8:30pm. But she has no ‘bedtime’ in the sense of having to go to sleep. She stays up until she’s tired, reading or drawing usually, and turns her light off when she’s done.

It’s generally the same on weekends and school holidays unless there is a reason to stay up later. I like getting to bed though so we rarely stay up later than necessary. She is usually asleep by 10/10:30, which to be fair, is not much later than my 6 year old!

My y5 DS goes up the stairs at 7:30 and is allowed to watch tv until 8:30 when it’s lights out. He also has to read (15 mins)and get ready in this time.
On the night he has an activity he gets to bed at 9pm. When it’s not a school night he can stay up till 10pm. This seems to match his friends no one I know gets is stay up all night.

Between 8:20 and 8:45. My Y6 DS is a very sporty adolescent, typically an early riser, but now has days where he'll sleep in for a couple of hours longer than normal. If he has competitions that run late in the evening, it might be 11 or later when he gets to bed, but that'd only be on Friday/Saturday, not the night before school.

DD is y5 and sneaks down to watch tv with me at 8.15 when DH goes to bed. Currently working our way through death in paradise on iplayer. Then in bed and lights out at 9.30, although she got one chapter of her book left tonight so im letting her have a bit longer.

Later at weekends. Ights out by 11 but shes usually switches off by 10.