Year 6 bedtime?!

[bumblebee1987]

Constant argument in my house about what is an appropriate bedtime for my son who has just turned 11 and is in year 6.

My son is adamant that all of his friends don't have a bedtime and can go to bed whenever they want. I am adamant this isn't true!

So I have said I will ask here for the general consensus! Hoping this will stop the arguments!

What time do your year 6 children go to bed on weekends and weekdays?

One night a week is scouts which doesn't finish until 9.30 so it's more of a 10pm bedtime so therefore 10.30 asleep

At yr6 for both mine & all their mates 10pm lights out was normal. Some didn't have boundaries and some were earlier. But a lot of sports and extra curricular like scouts wont finish til 9pm. At Yr7 it becomes 11pm

Y5 sen, bedtime form half 8, which includes toilet and brush teeth after, 10 mins for chatting then music and wind down so settled by 9pm. During holidays later, but still settled stage by 10pm. Yes his friends may still be playing on x box etc but he doesn't.

Okay, I’m pretty shocked by these late bedtimes. In year 6 we were 7.30 upstairs, 8pm lights out. Year 7 was 8.30 lights out and now it’s gone a bit loose as they year 8 and it’s more like 9-9.30 with occasions like tonight when they’re tired and we sent them to bed at 8.30. (Dtd1 fainted at school today and dtd2 has a sleep over tomorrow night at a friend’s house).

Their friends had similar bedtimes. 11pm for a year 7? Madness! That’s my bedtime on a weekday.

DD 11 school nights 9-930 (unless it's Scouts night which doesn't finish till 930)

Weekends 10pm.

Bedtimes are a constant battle in this house!
I've recently come down hard and it's akin to child abuse in the kids eyes lol as like yours their friends can stay up till whatever time they like so they say!
So now we do 8 for the 6 year old which is too late but with work and clubs it's the earliest we can do plus she's a pain for giving in and going to sleep. 9.30 for our 11 year old (Yr 6) and 10.30 for our 12 and 14 year olds
None of them are happy but I still think it's too late
I do let it go at the weekend
But most of the arguments in the house are caused by tiredness. None of them, including me get enough sleep!

Jesus these late bedtimes?! I myself have to be asleep by ten or I get ulcers. 😂
My yr 6 is lights out between 8-8.30 sometimes 9 but only on weekend. He’s an early riser no matter what.

I always fell asleep before mine because I was exhausted after work so they figured it out

They also had to get themselves up and ready and take themselves to school in Yr 6 & Yr 5 because my job meant I was up and out earlier than them

This has actually done them so much good later and throughout their lives as they have always just got on with things and are fairly well self disciplined with college and life.

Tv off between 8-8.30, upstairs by 8.30... then read as long as needed.

I work once they're in bed.
On Scout nights we aren't back to 9pm, so its supper and bed.

Given his ADHD and age I would suggest working together on the summer break in giving him some control. I am reading this as a young person who may feel he has little autonomy.

That way should be not be able to work towards it yet it won't impact school. It also sends a strong message that you believe he will be able to achieve this successfully at a point. He may see the current situ as being restrictive and frustrating perhaps knowing there will be a chance to negotiate progress will help.

He may not necessarily need the same amount of sleep due to puberty in the very short while.

Mine our 19 and 24 now, but it was 9:00pm in bed with a film/book for year 6, and 10pm for year 7 to year 11. Thankfully even though they've both had phones since year 7 there wasn't snap chat/TikTok etc that was about for them to be on, so they would just leave those on to be charged.

Night when he is at home, he goes up just after 8 and reads until 9. However, he has activities that prevent this on 2 nights, so those nights, he doesn't really go up until 9.30ish. We keep to the same at weekends and holidays, occasionally flexing for film nights or being out.

Exactly the same here!

They aren’t allowed screens at all, so just read books from 7pm.

Around 9pm when I was that age, later at weekends.

@bumblebee1987 ADHD kids do actually need less sleep than other kids as a general rule. Don't stress too much over it.
What time kids get up will play a part as all DC went local primary and most didn't get up til 8am to get in for 8.45 etc. Dito high. Mine get up 7.45 and leave 8.30 Yr7-9 all are bed 10-11pm as a norm for all.
They have mates who go private schools and have big commutes so they are up earlier and in bed at 10

Was 10 for our eldest on school nights (lived opposite school) and 9.30 for youngest (40 minute drive) More flexible on weekends when we watched movies or whatever together.

Elder DC used to go at 9. Younger DC is 9.30 - 10. Much harder to get her to bed earlier because elder sibling is still up and activities seem to be getting later and later.

Year 5 is 'in bed' at 9ish, but often heard reading etc until 10ish

DS used to go up about 9 at that age and watched TV or read until he was sleepy. No set time at weekends.

Anyone who sends an 11 year old to bed before 8pm is in my opinion doing it to get rid of them.

Bedtime, as in upstairs and in their room, is 8pm but can read until 9/9:30. No mobile phone until secondary school. iPads only allowed at the weekend.

@Hoglet70 nope, kids need their sleep. Even at 11, they are still so young and late bedtimes are such an issue at school for concentration/behaviour.

830 in the week. 1000 at the weekend

I feel quite strict now 😳. Ds goes at 8pm on weekdays and 8.30 - 9pm weekends normally. He's almost always asleep by 9pm weekdays and up at 6am with the rest of us.

His phone goes off at 8pm every day unless we're out.

But sleeping from 9pm to 7am is 10 hours! That is enough for an 11 year old.

DD11 goes up at 8 and can read in bed. She's usually asleep by 8.30