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Birth rate hits record low - 1.49 children per woman

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MidnightPatrol · 23/02/2024 10:46

The ONS has released its latest data on the UK birthrate.

The number of children per women has dropped from 1.55 in 2022 to 1.49 in 2022 - the lowest on record.

This is the lowest number of births in the UK since 2002 - when the population was 10 million people smaller.

Do we think this problem will inevitably worsen? Are there particular reasons people are having less children (unique to the UK vs the rest of the world?).

Should we be taking steps to increase it / stop it reducing further?

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EasternStandard · 25/02/2024 10:41

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:40

What’s the answer though, not to have people to care for/ provide services to the people already here as they age?
How is that going to work with more and more elderly people and fewer and fewer young people to support them?
If the population could at least stay at the same level, not grow but also not fall.

What happens though in 18 or so years when these dc enter the workforce and find AI has replaced many jobs?

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:44

Hereyoume · 23/02/2024 11:20

Having children was encouraged by the church to ensure a continuous source of wealth for the institution. Subsequently, government also pushed the narrative to ensure a continuous source of tax revenue.

But people can now see it for what it is and have no desire to sacrifice their time, money, freedom and opportunities just to create another "good little tax payer".

Why break yourself financially, physically and emotionally, just to raise a child who will be slamming doors in your face at 14, screaming about how much they hate you and how you have ruined their life?

Most adults have very little contact or respect for their parents, truthfully, most are only interested in their inheritance, and wouldn't feel too bad at the funeral.

The birth rate will continue to decline as long as having a child remains so expensive.

Do you have children? I do, and I can’t say that all they did was break me ‘financially, physically and emotionally’, far from it.
I do agree with your last sentence though.

Poodles23 · 25/02/2024 10:46

I see it as good news as the world is already overpopulated.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:51

lemmefinish · 23/02/2024 11:30

@rubyredknowsitall I find it staggering people don’t get it. Aren’t they looking at the council tax bills now, the state of schools, hospitals etc how can you not join the dots?

Agree.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:52

Hereyoume · 23/02/2024 11:31

You're not disagreeing though are you.

It may be harsh, but it's true.

Not true in my case 🤷‍♀️
And I know several other families who’d probably also disagree with PP.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:56

Desecratedcoconut · 23/02/2024 11:45

I'm assuming the people who say good are particularly insulated from massive financial and social instability?

This, or they’re just not thinking it through.
Even people who say they won’t need anyone to pay their pension because they have a private one will need others to provide services and possibly do care work for them.

IwishIcouldfinishabook · 25/02/2024 10:57

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:44

Do you have children? I do, and I can’t say that all they did was break me ‘financially, physically and emotionally’, far from it.
I do agree with your last sentence though.

I agree too. I disagree with all of @Hereyoume 's post, apart from the expense bit of it. And Im not 'financially broken'. I just have far less money than I would have if I didn't have to pay for kids stuff. But I choose to pay for their activities.

IwishIcouldfinishabook · 25/02/2024 10:59

inamarina · 25/02/2024 10:56

This, or they’re just not thinking it through.
Even people who say they won’t need anyone to pay their pension because they have a private one will need others to provide services and possibly do care work for them.

Exactly. the vast majority of NHS expense comes in the last 5-10 years of life. Who is paying for medical staff, facilities, transport etc for these services? Working people. People provided by their peers, who had children.

IwishIcouldfinishabook · 25/02/2024 11:02

Poodles23 · 25/02/2024 10:46

I see it as good news as the world is already overpopulated.

The world is overpopulated because we are all living longer ( a good thing) and because of medical advances. The global birthrate has been stable since the 1970's and is now dropping, rapidly in some places. It is predicted that the global population will peak at between 9 and 10 billion, then drop. We cant do anything about the rise to 9-10 billion because it is made up of people already living.

threatmatrix · 25/02/2024 11:07

Maybe people are realising you can do more with and for two children rather than limit your resources with more. The only problem I see ( I’ll probably get vilified for this as usual) is that visitors from other countries have 4-8 children so we could end up being extinct.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 11:08

lemmefinish · 23/02/2024 12:11

Long term this is a good thing if we want a sustainable future for the planet.

Are people really that altruistic that they won’t have dc & are prepared for decades of hardship because long term it’s better for the planet? I’m sceptical & think people who say this usually expect others to not have dc or suffer.

If AI and industrialisation remove the need for Labour then the population will need to decrease?

The UK population growth has only been driven by migration & people living longer for years. If you want the population to decrease you would need to kill off people.

Short term yes there will be a generation or two (including mine) which will be hit, it will be hard, but the bigger picture for humankind and the planet & biodiversity I personally think it's a good thing.

Maybe i’m selfish but I don’t want a lifetime of more & more taxes & reduced qol because biodiversity. I don’t think the electorate will go for it either….

I agree with you. I might be selfish too, but I don’t really want my generation ‘to be hit’ for the greater good and a brighter future.
There should be a healthy middle ground between population growth and decline.

Trufflump · 25/02/2024 11:08

rubyredknowsitall · 23/02/2024 11:31

According to Stephen Shaw - a data scientist who researched childlessness, if a woman in the UK/USA reaches age 30 without a child, the probability of her ever having a child is just 50% (which is the most shocking stastic I've seen in a long while). For 80% of women that never have a child - it's purely because of life factors (didn't find the right man at the right time, finances etc). 10% were woman who didn't want children (planned childlessness) and 10% were fertility issues.

If a woman does have a child, she's more likely to have 2 or 3 (in fact the number of 2 or 3 children families has remained largely unchanged over the last generation). It's the number of women having no children that has drastically increased.

I think you can tell I'm interested in this topic 🤣

That’s interesting- when was the study done?

EasternStandard · 25/02/2024 11:12

inamarina · 25/02/2024 11:08

I agree with you. I might be selfish too, but I don’t really want my generation ‘to be hit’ for the greater good and a brighter future.
There should be a healthy middle ground between population growth and decline.

@inamarina resources will still decrease so keeping things at the numbers we have now will have an impact

Also what do you think the workforce will be like in 18 to 20 years?

Same need for jobs or different due to advances in AI?

inamarina · 25/02/2024 11:31

MalagaNights · 23/02/2024 12:58

The people continuing to have larger families are religious and conservative communities.
So culture and politics are likely to shift with this.
So you may think that's a bad thing?

Who is going to save the planet if all the eco warriors don't have kids??

I find this blase 'we'll take one for the team' it'll be great for future generations both depressing and hilarious.

Depressing because I don't think people have really thought through the potential scale of human misery you are just easily dismissing.
The loneliness, the poverty, the lack of functioning community, the failure of the health and education system.
Probably propped/ patched up by (religious) immigrants.
So sod their economies? They sacrifice to try to keep ours limping along for as long as possible?
Doesn't seem a very moral plan.

And hilarious because of the god almighty wailing when energy prices rose and we realised we were going to be colder and poorer.
The idea everyone will understand and accept when their quality of life falls off a cliff is laughable. There's going to be anger and blame which could turn nasty.

Fully agree with you. I also think some people aren’t thinking it through properly.
What will it really look like if there are even fewer people working in care homes? Or providing other services?
Regarding immigration: nothing wrong with it, as long as some sort of social cohesion can be maintained. That’s already a bit of an issue in some areas, certainly where I live (and I say that as an immigrant myself).

Bunnyhopskip · 25/02/2024 11:41

For most parents who feel it is important to provide a good standard of living for their children, and be able to support them as they grow and potentially through university, 1-2 children is all they can afford. Once you're earning over £50k, you get pretty much any kind of support stripped back to nothing, and £50k really isn't a huge salary these days. Things need adjusting, so hard working families can earn decent money and support a family with 2-3 kids with ease. At the moment, a family with two professional parents, working full time, earning good wages, are struggling to pay rent/mortgages and bills, which just isn't right. No one in their right mind wants to bring additional children into a financially unpredictable situation. I know couples who both earn really well, who don't have spare cash for holidays, or home improvements, worrying about money day to day, of course they aren't going to have another child, as that will only make things financially harder.

celticprincess · 25/02/2024 11:47

I know several people with 0 or just one child. It’s not that they can’t afford it. These people are extremely well off. The ones with 0 kids have decent size homes (4-5 bedroom) but they like the flexibility of holidays whenever they want. They’re never home or when they are they’re having people over to stay. They have chosen a lifestyle that doesn’t involves children. As people with decent disposable income, the ease of travel these days to fit in around work that is also flexible means kids would spoil it.

For some, the just didn’t get together with their respective other halves until they’re were much older, often other half already has children from previous marriage, grown up as well, so not wanting to start a whole second life with kids.

For others they’ve had had one and realised parenting is not for them. In the old days there was an expectation that women popped out babies and everyone just got on with it. Kids had more respect for their elders. It took a village to raise kids and there would be people on the street/estate all helping out with their back door always open for kids just popping in and out. Nowadays parenting is hard work. Families are spread out over cities and even countries, people don’t know their neighbours. Careers mean women leave it til later and then realise they are exhausted when they’ve had one that they don’t want anymore. Or the complexities of parenting in a modern world just kick in. Those who were never really maternal feel like they have permission not to not take on the role of parent. There’s no expectations. Older starting age also means that some women can’t have additional kids.

Also, contraception availability is easier, less embarrassing (ordering off the internet if you don’t want to get your free condoms from the clinic). The kidding after pill so those one night stands don’t get you that baby you never wanted, also the ability to terminate unwanted pregnancies is easier to come by.

But in general society has changed. The role of the woman has changed. The expectation of getting married and then having kids straight if away has changed.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 11:53

MalagaNights · 23/02/2024 13:26

Maybe it depends on how religious they are? It also depends on how economically successful they are.
The more successful the fewer children.

Wealthier people have fewer children even though expense is often given as a reason for the falling birth rate.

It is still conservative religious communities who remain the only groups in the west maintaining birth rate. It's true of conservative religious Muslim, Jewish, and Christians such as Mormon and traditional Catholics in the USA. We don't have much of a conservative Christian community in the UK.

Maybe the solution is we'll all just end up Amish?
Because they keep having kids and know how to use a plough? 😁

There are quite a few kids from what looks like quite a conservative Eastern European community at my kids’ secondary school.
Several girls left school before doing their GCSEs.
I wouldn’t be surprised if they followed their mother’s footsteps rather than those of their Western peers when it comes to family planning.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 12:07

GooseClues · 23/02/2024 13:42

I find it interesting that the age of having children is never really mentioned. If everyone in a family tends to have kids in their early 30s then, realistically, only 3 generations are in existence at any given time and only one of them might need care - either the babies or the oldest generation. However, in a family where people have kids around age 20 there might be 5 generations in existence and both youngest and oldest (or maybe even the 2 oldest) might need care at the same time.

I also think that western countries raising pension age is false economy. By the time people finally retired they are exhausted whereas previously they would have been more willing and able to help out in unpaid roles like childcare and local volunteering and also probably be in better health longer in life.

I also think that western countries raising pension age is false economy. By the time people finally retired they are exhausted whereas previously they would have been more willing and able to help out in unpaid roles like childcare and local volunteering and also probably be in better health longer in life.

I think it’s a good point.
I also think that raising the pension ago would need to come with a change of employer’s attitude towards ‘older’ workers.
If someone is seen as ‘too old’ to be considered for a new job because they’re 50+, how is it going to work unless people stay in the same job they found in their forties at the latest?

Breathedeeper · 25/02/2024 12:11

Dontcallmescarface · 25/02/2024 09:51

DD is in her early 30's and I have never regretted my decision to not have anymore. I don't fully understand what you mean by more 1-child families reduces the need to interact in the “real” world? though.

Imagine it’s in 20 years time in 2044. All the little ones are now young adults studying, joining the workforce, becoming parents, etc. This generation, unlike any before, has grown up with AI, have used devices like smartphones and iPads for both studying and recreation, use social media to socialise with friends more than ever, and so on. It’s a digital age gone mad, most likely. Now add into the mix the possibility of most being from one-child families where rather than play with their sibling(s) at home, they play by themselves, more than likely with a device. With time they might find they prefer playing with a device to other children, or feel more comfortable interacting with others via a device rather than face-to-face. What are those people like? And what sort of society do their attitudes, habits and issues create?

That’s what I mean.

inamarina · 25/02/2024 12:26

lemmefinish · 23/02/2024 15:42

I also wonder about the implications of an increasingly elderly population on society’s capacity for creativity and innovation - where will all the future’s great art/music/ideas come from, and will society adopt them and continue to evolve, or become sclerotic and ‘stuck’?

This always gets overlooked but generally innovation & evolution comes from new young blood.

That’s such an important point.
I’ve seen arguments saying that technology will be the solution to issues brought about by an aging population, but how exactly if there will be fewer and fewer (new) engineers? Or will we just completely rely on AI?

BungleandGeorge · 25/02/2024 12:31

You can’t only look at birth rate though, you also need to consider child mortality which is low in most first world countries

Runemum · 25/02/2024 12:31

Breathedeeper · 25/02/2024 12:11

Imagine it’s in 20 years time in 2044. All the little ones are now young adults studying, joining the workforce, becoming parents, etc. This generation, unlike any before, has grown up with AI, have used devices like smartphones and iPads for both studying and recreation, use social media to socialise with friends more than ever, and so on. It’s a digital age gone mad, most likely. Now add into the mix the possibility of most being from one-child families where rather than play with their sibling(s) at home, they play by themselves, more than likely with a device. With time they might find they prefer playing with a device to other children, or feel more comfortable interacting with others via a device rather than face-to-face. What are those people like? And what sort of society do their attitudes, habits and issues create?

That’s what I mean.

Research shows that only children have the same social skills as children from larger families. I have conducted extensive research on this topic.
I don't think you can make assumptions about only children versus children with siblings.

bookworm14 · 25/02/2024 12:35

Can we not turn this into a one-child family bashing thread, please? Only children are no more antisocial than anyone else.

Breathedeeper · 25/02/2024 12:43

Runemum · 25/02/2024 12:31

Research shows that only children have the same social skills as children from larger families. I have conducted extensive research on this topic.
I don't think you can make assumptions about only children versus children with siblings.

Ok, well that’s reassuring. I do still wonder if your research will be the same as children get exposed to greater and greater levels of digital content, though. And social skills are just one aspect - what about attention spans, addictive tendencies and the increased risk of mental health disorders? Might these be worse for only children who are more likely to be using devices to play with at home?

thecatsthecats · 25/02/2024 12:43

inamarina · 25/02/2024 12:26

That’s such an important point.
I’ve seen arguments saying that technology will be the solution to issues brought about by an aging population, but how exactly if there will be fewer and fewer (new) engineers? Or will we just completely rely on AI?

I'd argue that a) very few outliers innovate anyway and b) more young people can be "cultivated" into design/innovation work rather than grunt work by a smaller populace to educate, IMO.

That's a nice and easy scenario to conjure up on the internet of course. It doesn't bear any responsibility for the immense effort it would take to transition out society from its current form into one where technology takes the grunt work out, and people can live healthier lives, supporting their healthier relatives socially etc etc

I mean, what political party is willing to build a plan to transition to a smaller social model, supporting employment and education transition, redesigning supply chains etc - and then be mad enough to try and get the public to VOTE for it!?

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