To not want neighbours to know where I moved to

[Jamandchocolaterolls]

We are moving house shortly due to awful neighbours on both sides. They have bullied us from our home and due to the stress and anxiety it has caused me I’m walking away for my sanity and going into a private rented property owned by my in laws.
The new tenants moving to our current home are known to us as their children attend the same school as ours. We aren’t friends but we chat. I haven’t warned her about the neighbours as I know she is friendly with one side so I don’t want to cause anymore rifts while we are here for the next 6 weeks.
Im desperate to ask the new tenants to not pass on the details of our new home (we told them the road before we knew they were a friend of our neighbours) and it’s keeping me awake with worry that the neighbours will come to our new house and cause trouble. But I know asking her to not tell anyone will cause suspicion plus putting the opportunity out there may give a reason for gossip.
I know it sounds dramatic and it shouldn’t matter if they find out, but the things they have put us through I just want it to end the moment we leave the house for the last time.
So in my shoes would you ask them to keep it private and explain why/make up an excuse or say nothing and hope they never find out or turn up?
If you were an incoming tenant being asked to keep the details quiet would you be suspicious?

Don’t say anything. Just move on. Enjoy your new home!

I had terrible neighbours too so I know how you feel. Could you perhaps tell the new tenants that the road you told them has fallen through and you're moving in with family until you find somewhere?

If you're getting your post redirected I think a letter gets sent to your old address too. I think when you set it up you can choose not to have your new address on it. I'm just thinking in case that letter goes to the old place and the new tenants open it.

Regardless if there is any trouble tell the police. You might be worrying that they'll damage your car or something if they find out where you live. My one neighbour was a nutcase. I wouldn't be surprised if he's tried to find out where I am. He was a 'respectable' estate agent. I'm sure he was trying to drive me to commit suicide. The things him and his wife did to me.

Bloody hell - so nasty that last post.

Some people are innocent victims of nightmare neighbours, possibly including you @KarlaKK I don't believe OP is one of them.

Get your mail redirected as above. Tell the new occupants of your current address your expected rental fell through but luckily you have secured somewhere many miles in the opposite direction! Just do it as a quick casual conversation next time you discuss anything (like telling them you have sorted out the mail redirection) even do it on moving day - don’t give time for in depth chatter or detail and briskly bustle off.

I agree redalex - tell them casually, be vague.

How awful. I'd agree a white lie about the rental falling through is not immoral in this scenario.

Jesus @LauderSyme, that was a bit of a leap based content of original post, never mind unnecessary! Are you one of the neighbours?

Yeah, OPs post clearly struck a nerve to inspire such bile...the exact kind of malice I'd expect from someone who likes to bully others.

Thanks everyone that’s a good shout to say the house fell through. Except I think they will find a way as they enjoy making peoples lives hell.
and LauderSyme no I did not cause it at all thank you, I purposely didn’t mention the things they have done to me over the years as I didn’t want to make that the focus of the thread. But if you think a woman holding a baby and being assaulted is my fault then you need psychological help. The same for being threatened, having my property damaged, loud parties every night for months and on it goes. You sound very much like a neighbour I am describing so perhaps a touch of guilt is on your mind.
And as you seem to think I am the instigator, these people found out where the previous tenant lived, had their teenage son steal their car and burn it on a field. So yes I have every reason to be worried. Even the police avoid them so I have no hope.

@LauderSyme you are remarkable - you can identify the ultimate truth of a situation within a few posts on an online forum!
I'm hugely impressed.
I wonder if you would mind sharing here your contact details? I can think of something many people who might benefit from your skills. Friends; economists; state leaders, for example.

Are you one of the nightmare neighbours?!

Good luck Jam. You'll be out of this situation soon. I suppose your car might be under threat but better that than you and your family. I'd still casually mention house has fallen through. If you'll have a drive next place get a Ring doorbell or similar.

How on earth are you jumping to that conclusion?? 😳

You know them do you?

Why?

It wouldn’t surprise me if it is one of my neighbours, I change my username often but keep it similar so I could be recognised by some posts.
Thanks to everyone for the kindness

Well if it is one of your neighbours then ...

She's moving away, nobber! Get a life.

Next time you see them, tell them that you have found a different house and you're now moving somewhere else. Look up an area on Google maps and remember the street name.

Based on…?

Hopefully they have forgotten so wouldn’t mention it again. Put a long redirection on and hopefully your shut of them. I have been through something similar so you have my biggest sympathies don’t worrymine didn’t bother following me and if they do ring the police.you can always get a cheap camera on the house just incase but try not to get a second thought
They probably move onto the new people in time. The person probably doesn’t realise how bad they are.

Much sympathy, I have endured similar but it was worse as I.owned the house. All I would say is that even if they do find out where you have gone, they won't be your neighbours any more and it isn't the same.