To not want neighbours to know where I moved to

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We are moving house shortly due to awful neighbours on both sides. They have bullied us from our home and due to the stress and anxiety it has caused me I’m walking away for my sanity and going into a private rented property owned by my in laws.
The new tenants moving to our current home are known to us as their children attend the same school as ours. We aren’t friends but we chat. I haven’t warned her about the neighbours as I know she is friendly with one side so I don’t want to cause anymore rifts while we are here for the next 6 weeks.
Im desperate to ask the new tenants to not pass on the details of our new home (we told them the road before we knew they were a friend of our neighbours) and it’s keeping me awake with worry that the neighbours will come to our new house and cause trouble. But I know asking her to not tell anyone will cause suspicion plus putting the opportunity out there may give a reason for gossip.
I know it sounds dramatic and it shouldn’t matter if they find out, but the things they have put us through I just want it to end the moment we leave the house for the last time.
So in my shoes would you ask them to keep it private and explain why/make up an excuse or say nothing and hope they never find out or turn up?
If you were an incoming tenant being asked to keep the details quiet would you be suspicious?

No it doesn't. You do it all online now and nothing comes to your original address.

I just wouldn't give the new people your new address, OP. If they ask, act vague or just give them a fake address.

Miltobe - I've done it twice in the past year. First time online and got a letter from Royal Mail to old address and new address. I think they send it to the address you're moving from in case someone is being malicious. Second time I did it on a form at the post office. The form had a box where you could tick to say you didnt want the forwarding address put in the letter the Royal Mail sends out to your old address. Both times I've had a letter to my original address - it is a small envelope with tear off bits around the edges.

You might not have got anything to your original address. I did. Twice.

Oh sorry, I did it recently when I was away for a while and didn't get anything through the post. I can understand why they did, to avoid fraud, but nothing came here. You can redirect by going in to a main post office - I wonder whether the OP could ask there about it.

Do you happen to have a large, burly male friend? Perhaps he might not mind you asking the neighbour to forward any mail to his address for the time being. You could leave some large SAEs for the neighbour to use, and say that you are in temporary accommodation for the foreseeable, so to use that address for you.

Redirection Terms and Conditions says "As a security measure, we will also send a letter to the old address to inform The Occupier of the Redirection." If they don't do that people could maliciously redirect your mail and you might not notice for a while.

Maybe you didn't get it as you were away? That letter from Royal Mail won't be redirected in case of fraud.

I'd 100% go with the previous suggestion of telling the new tenants that the house you'd said you were moving too, sadly fell through & you're going to stay with relatives out of area for now-& then change your car if possible.
I'm sorry this has happened to you, I've encountered these types of people before & absolutely believe you've been through hell.
I pray your new home will give you the peace you need and deserve.

Would the neighbours know that the new occupiers know you? Generally they don't son probably would not think to speak to them about it.

Tell the new tenants your house fell through so you’re temporarily staying with family in [nearest large city]. Say how you hope this will be short term as need need to be closer to your new job in X.

That way you hide where you’re going and you also indirectly give a reason for your move (your ‘new job’) thereby reducing the chance the horrible neighbours will pursue you. If they think you’ve moved because of them, they’re more likely to flex their muscles and try to turn up at your new place.

Why not get your mail redirected now - get them to send it to a friend's house. Then once you move you can redirect it from your friend's house to your own new house.

The new tenants moving to our current home are known to us as their children attend the same school as ours
Won't that be awkward if when the neighbours that they don't already know give them a hard time too?

Would the neighbours know that the new occupiers know you?
One side might - maybe that's how they knew the rental was coming up - perhaps they have discussed the OP already from their perspective obvs. If already friends that's 50% of neighbourhood issues solved, unless they break friends when the new tenants realise they're bad neighbours. If they haven't discussed the OP I'd imagine they probably will once moved in but in what detail, cannot predict.

You have not given a written confirmation of your new address, ( people quickly forget words. )
Quickly think of someone whom you can use for a new address ( a family member address)
If the subject comes up again DENY you said that road. ( The best way to deal with enemy is to CONFUSE)
The old bad neighbours will be curious so change your appearance for a few weeks around the time of the move ( to confuse)
Do not ask new neighbours to conceal anything because it will ignite curiosity and will not put end to the drama.

I wouldn't worry too much - once you're gone they'll find something else to waste their time on. Redirect your Mail, be vague with the new owners, get a ring doorbell and just get on with your life. Be happy OP...you're nearly free of them!

When I moved once I told each neighbour a different location I was moving to when they asked.

I hope you enjoy your new home.

This is perfect

First thing to do is go to police and explain situation so that they take the details.
Then the day of the move tell the tenants what you have done and warn them to say nothing.
That way if there is trouble they will be blamed along with the bullies when it gets to court.

ZOMBIE

I think they moved a while ago!!

My neighbour is vile. He had to move from his last place due to fighting with his neighbours.
But because I wouldn't take his side in a row with another neighbour, he called me a fat ugly cunt and a slag.
He's grabbed me by the throat with no witnesses, threatened to punch me in the face and said he hopes I break my neck.
I am counting the days until I can get out of here.

I'd just casually mention in passing to the new tenants that you're annoyed as its looking like the house you wanted has fallen through, but luckily have family to stay with until you sort something else. It's vague and gives them virtually nothing to tell your current vile neighbours. Good luck in your new 🏡