Fed up of smug, superior parents.

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Really tired of meeting smug, superior mums at the school gates & at extracurriculars.
Their child is always better & they let you know this.
There is one mum who writes normally on the WhatsApp class group. However if I post something she replies in abbreviated text as in "tomo, U2, wat u tink? She only does this to me noone else! The same when she messages me about a playdate! It's bizarre.

But when I meet her at activities or school drop offs she clearly feels her & her family are vastly superior to mine!

Anyone else have these superior species & how do you deal with them?

I’d just ignore.

@TheSnowyOwl it's hard to. Our dc are good friends.

Can't stand them, but it's easy to avoid. I don't talk to anyone at the school gates and never post on the WhatsApp. My dcs keep their friends in school and extracurriculars but I don't organise play dates outside.

What exactly has this mother done wrong?

@PuffinMcStuffin@PuffinMcStuffin if I ask on the class what's app group about homework or anything else she always replies to me in shortened abbreviated text eg "Mon hwrk eng" but not to anyone else! She also writes normally herself, just feel she's being condescending to me!

I think I get it. She has two personalities on the go. The oh yes we all speak latin at home personality for the people she thinks are above her / can validate her, and the omg, lol, u feelin ok hun x personality for.............. you.

It's a dis. So pretend you haven't noticed. Don't be insulted by it. Don't NOTICE even if it kills you.

Not really sure why you'd interpret that as condescending. Maybe she feels closer to you because your dc are good friends, so she writes more informally or something?

I hate weird text speak but I wouldn't interpret it as a personal slight. What makes you think that it is?

No that's not it. She's closer to other mums in the class. It's like she feels she needs to dumb herself down in the group to talk to me as if it's the only type of language I understand!

Tell her you find her textspeak unintelligible and patronising and that spag is taught for a reason!

You mean she’s mocking you? If so then she’s making herself look stupid (and like a bit of a bully) as everyone in the WhatsApp group can see her replies, right? I think I’d be inclined to thank her for her input next time but ask if anyone else in the group can give a better explanation (and if you're feeling brave) not using abbreviations. ‘Nonsensical abbreviations’ if you’re feeling really brave. Assertively humiliate her.

I would put ‘So sorry what does hwrk mean? I’m not great at text speak’

"Are you ok? I think you might be having a stroke."

@FairyPolka dh said the same. I never use abbreviated text so I can't understand why she does this. Even when I have to see her she's always boasting about her dc, I never join in even though I have plenty to boast about. I just don't see the need.

This is what I'd do. Or just ignore. It's on a group Whatsapp, so it reflects badly on her, not on you.

Yep, I’d do the same.
And I’d do it every single time she does it, whether it’s the WhatsApp group, a text to you personally.
She is making herself look like a twat to everyone anyway.

For the rest, I’d ignore her whilst staying polite.

Realise their life's mission is not solely to annoy me, if people annoy me I ignore it I don't find ways to make it about me and how can I feel judged

@WandaWonder you're obviously a much more secure person than me!

Yes I'll do that! It's just so infuriating that she deliberately dumbs herself down when addressing me!

Watch motherland you'll never be bothered again

@justthecat I love motherland!

This is such strange behaviour from her. People are so weird!

tomo, U2, wat u tink?

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I tink, therefore I am

I'd probably reply with "sorry X, I'm not used to text speak - would you mind just using normal English?"

But then I am arsey.

Don't do that.

For families that have had people suffering from a stroke, this is awful.

Why would you feel this acceptable?

I feel it is very condescending to me. The fact she types normally herself & responds to others normally.

DH thought I was blowing it out of proportion until I told him to scroll through the group to see for himself. He was like "wtf, she's acting like your an imbicile"

I'm in my mid 40s & very uncool so I have no idea why she is making an example of me.