Mothers Day 3 weeks away

[justasking111]

Eek that's crept up on me . Anyone more organised this year?

I don’t have a Mum for Mother’s Day this year. It’s going to be strange.

Fuck me. You're a bundle of compassion.
I had a mum last year. On mother's Day she had just been diagnosed with widespread stage 4 cancer. This year I don't have a mum. She died.
So no, I'm not (and never did in 45 years) plan the bloody day 3 weeks in advance.
I very much doubt my two grown up children are planning anything yet either. It's a day. They tell me they love me every day. What a peculiar insensitive thread.

I have a mum op... and a step mum.... and a MIL!!

Still don't get the '3 weeks to prepare' madness

Didn't return to your thread though 🤔

Thanks for this. We're a big group four generations. So a lunch booking is necessary. As someone said between making pancakes remembering valentine's and a relative in hospital very ill today was the first time I saw it mentioned.

Pretty sure I’m working but DM isn’t really able to go out anywhere. Will just pop round with a card & present.

I think your mum and I share a birthday!

My DD has already complained about the closeness of BD and MD, but they have been close before.

Not that I expect much for either!

My DD did get cards a few weeks ago, but then she has just had a major Op, and got 5 days notice for it.

She knew that she wouldn’t be up to shopping for next few weeks, so bought cards the weekend before the Op.

My mum is no longer with us, MIL doesn’t live local so DH will send her a card and token present. We never do much for MD but less so this year with DD recovering.

I usually work a long day on Sundays, so we don't really do Mothers Day. Will probably have my Mum for lunch the day before, she means well but is hard going so it'll be a tiring afternoon. Actually have a card and some chocolates I know she'd like, so actually have something already.

It's DH's birthday the following day and then he's got friends staying mid week, do will need to think about that

Booked afternoon tea a couple of weeks ago.

I don’t even start thinking about Christmas 3 weeks before and there a lot more cards and presents to get for that!

Do you get this stressed with birthdays? If you have more than 12 friends and family you must feel like this on a daily basis!!

Ooh time to light the candle on the Blue Peter advent crown!

It means it's Beaver's sleepover that weekend and DD is a Young Leader and helping out.

I will enjoy a trip to the theatre and steakhous on Saturday.

I think op has scarpered after replying to the one poster who agreed with her, and is now feeling fully validated that everyone else is either mean or disorganised.

You think wrong I've been watching NCIS episodes.

I've thought though that we maybe unusual organising lunches as well as flowers and cards. But getting together 14 people does take a bit of time. The oldest is 85 the youngest 5 so together with the size of the party I would have been on the ball sooner but with a relative in ICU I've had that on my mind.

Well it's just a 5 min phone call to book somewhere surely

If only there's family to phone offer venues to. There's disabled access to consider, a lot of places won't take a party this size. There's transport to arrange for some. Who's picking up who, car sharing.

I've thought though that we maybe unusual organising lunches as well as flowers and cards
I think you are as this thread shows. I saw something today in Sainsbury's which made me remember it's coming up. That gives me about 17 days to remember to buy and post a card. It's really not panic stations for me or for thousands of others.

‘Life admin’ 😂 Some people do make a big deal out of very small tasks. They need to spend less time telling everyone about their busy life and more time getting on with what needs doing.

Or is this one of the trick MN "life admin" posts where the simple act of making a cup of tea can be broken down into a lengthy list of tasks akin to launching a mission to the moon.

It was indeed, precisely this.

What a nasty reply to someone you seemingly think has lost her Mom and thus Mothers Day might be a difficult time

Good grief OP. You’re trying and failing at making it sound complicated. It’s really not to most people which is why you’re receiving the answers you are.

We have a Beaver sleepover too that weekend, but we don't have a girl young leader so can't be the same group lol. I'm texting myself to a Maccies along Saturday once the kids go, that's my Happy Mother's Day present 🤣

It's about the only day I don't have weekend plans until after Easter so offered to visit MIL for lunch and she clocked the date so I suggested pub but she'd prefer to cook so that's sorted. Card and flowers for my own Mom dropped round th day before or the morning. DH is well trained in the art of letting the kids pick me random stuff for MD so he can work it out for himself. One year I got three stuffed flamingo toys because DS knows I like them 😍😍😍

Surely the fact that you do this every year must mean that you can simply ring the venue of last year's lunch (or, if that wasn't great, the previous year's lunch), book a table and then send a message to all attendees saying what time the table is booked for and that it will be the same transport arrangements as last year.
Or you don't do anything, see if anyone else bothers and, if not, all do your own thing and just call your mother on the day.