Anyone else's teen like this? Doing very little...

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DD is 15 (16 this year) and is a good girl, kind and has never really been any trouble. I would say she can lack confidence though.

But she doesn't seem to have any interests and has just spend the entire week indoors, seemingly mostly in her PJs and watching things on her laptop. I've tried to encourage her meet with friends (she does have friends) but she wasn't at all interested and just wants to be in. She's like this most weekends too and will only occassionally go out. Her main 'hobby' seems to be relaxing. She is also revising for GCSEs but has been like this for years pre Y11.

IS anyone elses teen like this? And has it been a stage? I worry about her although she seems very happy.

TIA

My teen spends a lot of time sitting in their room too. It's normal for some of them .

It seems to be more like that nowadays for the teens. I have two DD's both like their down time to recharge their social battery.
There is not much of the socialising I did as a teen but there are occasional hang out meet up's at a friends.
Eldest works so she is often out at work or college.

They will come out with me for cinema/shopping/show etc. Do you take your DD out to do things?
As long as they aren't unhappy or unwell I say leave them to find their own way. I was a quiet teen and suddenly at college & Uni had a social life.

Also sometimes I pay for and push a friend coming over or cinema trip, maybe you could encourage that a bit? Or take DD plus one to get nails done or something.

DD 14 said she sometimes felt the pressure of entertaining the friend on a long Sat hang out so doing a planned "thing" is easier.

I think you may need to be careful at not pressurising her to do things that you see as being good for her.
My parents thought the power of a good walk. I hated the walks, never felt better for them, and would not now choose to go on one. All I felt was resentful that I'd wasted my time.

If she's happy recharging her batteries on her own, then it's a week. Let her.

If you want to encourage her out then find what she wants to do and allow it (obviously with restrictions). So with my dc: dd1 just likes having time. She'll love to come round and do a supermarket shop with me; Dd2 loves to eat at Costa; Ds is currently at a drama rehearsal. None of them would thank me for taking them to the other's choices.

Ds, although he has ASD is the one most likely to go round to people's houses or organise a meet up. But that's because he's got a group that organises it (or rather a girl in the group who organises it!) and often they play computer games together on line, all in their own rooms. Dd1's equivalent was WhatsApp groups, and Dd2's friends used Discord.

The important thing is that they are happy and they don't feel that you are judging them for their choices.