My lovely partner and I share out house work fairly evenly. She does most of the laundry, we do about half the life admin and half the cleaning each. I do most of the cooking, but she makes the odd meal as well as sometimes doing breakfast for the kid and making herself snacks etc.
And every time she gets in the kitchen she is SOOO so so messy and wasteful. I’m talking loaves of bread with one slice cut left out to go stale, mayonnaise covered spoons plonked down on clean surfaces, packets thrown back into cupboards in a way that means they are guaranteed to fall into the head of the next person to open them, everything left out of the fridge to spoil, six pans used to make pasta and then left all over the worktops to “soak.” It’s like the second she starts eating her food she becomes blind to the mess she’s made… and I genuinely don’t think she can help it, she’s just made that way and acknowledges it’s not ideal!
I’m a tidy as you cook sort of person, always have been and always leave the kitchen clean before going to bed, don’t waste food etc. - just the way I was raised. I have plenty of my own flaws of course (any tips on remedy to put away clothes gratefully received)
So my genuine question is, can she somehow become a tidy as you cook person (and if so how, I don’t want to just nag but I also don’t want to just do it all). Or is it a fixed thing and I’m condemned to a life of following her around putting things away and getting food poisoning?
Lighthearted