Use your words

[RafaFan]

Light-hearted post here. Is there an expression or phrase that sets your teeth on edge? I find the phrase "use your words", frequently used on MN, totally grating. I have NEVER heard anybody use this expression in real life, not even to a four-year-old, never mind grown adults.

Signposting (=pass the buck) 👿

U spend an hour with some professional "advisor" and all you hear is to explore options you have already explored. And they just get paid for talking rather than doing anything.

"Vote with your feet" I fucking HATE this expression.

'Kind hands' and 'screen time'

Both of them make me want to tell people to get a life which probably says more about how horrible I am than them being annoying.

The use of the word screens really is annoying.

'How much time do your children spend on screens?' Arrrggghh!!

I've said that a million times IRL! Especially when someone is doing something that does! Like metal filing, or touching those horrible vinyl folders!

I have come across something just lately (on Mumsnet) that is really annoying me. Some people are starting to call drip feeds 'updates.'

An 'update' is something that has happened since you posted the thread. When someone drops something in (that already exists - but they never mentioned;) that is it's a drip feed, NOT an 'update.' Sometimes, a poster will have genuinely forgotten to mention said thing, but most of the time, they add it later because they don't like the answers they are getting. So they add an update a drip feed to change the narrative.

It has happened in one thread currently running and active right now, but I won't say which thread, as I'm not sure I'm allowed.

I saw another one the other day but this thread disappeared from my 'I'm on' list and I've forgotten it now.

Another one I don't like is people typing antibiotics as abx. There is no letter x in the word antibiotics.

People that say "gifted" e.g. "I was gifted a new scarf."

I see it all the time on here and have to immediately stop reading and scroll past that person's post it annoys me so much.

It's a standard medical abbreviation.

It's interesting how very old terms come back into fashion, isn't it?
"Gift" as a verb is from Middle English. Fell out of fashion, and is now back.

Actually "gotten" is the original past participle of the verb "to get" - still used in the US - but it has evolved to "got" in the UK. For a long time, "gotten" was the common, accepted word here too.

That's fine if you're medically trained but it annoys me when it's used on here.

Some of these drive me nuts; others don't because they're meant to be patronising, passive-aggressive or sarcastic. Life would be bland if everyone was unrelentingly pleasant.

I've used some of the newspeak words to get results from people who use them. Notably, I recently got a hardship grant by saying 'signpost' repeatedly at all stages of the access pathway. Sure, these expressions exist to hide the fact that systems are designed to be obscure - but, when in Rome, speak Latin!

Now I've shared my lived experience ... can I just say how much I hate LIVED EXPERIENCE?!! I've used it, though, with people who don't seem to relate to 'personal experience', 'my experience', or even 'professional experience'. Gah.

Also, gender identity. What a pile of made-up wank. Identity as a whole, actually: adult humans aren't meant to go around obsessing over nuances of the labels they apply to themselves; it makes them flaky and boring.

@Garlickit Yes, "lived experience"!!! That is another one on my list of really, really annoying expressions.

You seemed to be saying you thought it was incorrect.

I wasn't at all. I just replied on a thread about things that annoy people, with something that annoys me.
Then I replied to you.

Absolutely!!!!

I also hate all this gender identity/pronouns shite. I have known people refuse to use them, (and say shit like 'people with uteruses,') and they have been issued with 'warnings' at work.

One poor lady was SACKED purely for asking what 'pronouns' are. It's been in the news for a day or two. You have probably heard it. But for those who haven't... I have enclosed a link...

I hope this charity get all its volunteers leaving and have to start paying people. I know that would impact on the profits they make, but some of it doesn't go to the cause in question anyway! It lines the pockets of the top tier staff...

It wouldn't hurt the people at the top to take a hit on their massive salaries and bonuses, and pay people to work in the charity shops. They may have to do that soon, if people are thrown out for fuck-all! Not only because people are being thrown out for fuck-all, but also because people will stop volunteering!

Apparently the Charity in question DEFENDED sacking the lady in question (in the article here...) I haven't read what they said, because it will all be bollocks. Because you can't defend the indefensible.

https://www.msn.com/en-ie/news/world/ms-society-defends-staff-who-sacked-90-year-old-volunteer-because-she-asked-what-pronouns-meant-despite-furious-backlash/ar-BB1il1Tm

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I totally agree, even if you are saying it to a toddler it's ridiculous. The words don't belong explicitly to the toddler. 'Use words', 'speak properly' or 'tell me what you want' all convey the same message in a far less annoying way in my opinion.

Just read that story, @SweetBirdsong. The MS Society in Long Beach sacked a 90-year-old volunteer with 60 years service to the charity. She was instructed to add pronouns to her signature, didn't know what they wanted, so asked for an explanation. They fired her for violating the MS Society's Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion guidelines.

It's astonishing how frequently Inclusion leads to exclusion, isn't it?

Agree @Garlickit ,

And THIS is a very good point!

It's astonishing how frequently Inclusion leads to exclusion, isn't it?

Yes indeed. And it's very typical of the frothing far left/woke. Try and be all diverse and inclusive, but only with SOME people, and particularly when it suits their agenda. The hatred, bile, and vitriol aimed at some in society knows no bounds. And the hypocrisy and dis-ingenuousness of the far left/woke is breathtaking!

I say 'use your words' to my kids all the time (age 7 and 4).

We keep using the word 'align' at work e.g. 'aligning the products'. I dislike it for no logical reason.