I have been up most of the night playing over what happened/could have happened to my daughter and as it is a weekend I think that I will be worrying all weekend so I wanted to ask for any advice if anyone has experienced similar.
Yesterday at 2:25 I had a call from my Daughters school, she is 12 and in year 8, it was her head of year who informed me that my daughter had disclosed to her that a boy in the same year had been making inappropriate comments including saying he wanted to rape her and gestures towards her and that on Thursday he followed her home and wanted to/tried to gain entry to our home. She informed me that a safeguarding report would be completed and that they would report the incident to the police. Head of year also said I was free to also make a police report, I have done this.
I spoke to my daughter about what has happened (before making the police report) and she has told me the following.
In a maths class boy had mimicked a blow job and said that he wanted my daughter to do that to him. This was apparently seen by the teacher who reported this within the school.
in the lunch line the boy was repeatedly hugging my daughter despite her pushing him off her. This ended up in her slapping/kicking him. He apparently reported to staff that she had done this but daughter was never spoken to.
these incidents have occurred over the last 8-10 days and have also included him attempting to touch or be physically close to my daughter during break/lunch times. Daughter said he makes her (and a number of other girls feel uneasy and unsafe)
Thursday my daughter was walking home from a church youth group she attends after school and stopped at the local shops on the estate before heading home. This boy was there and he stood in front of her, face to face and used both hands to tuck her hair behind her ears and told her to kiss him. She refused.
another boy at the shops (same year group) saw what was happening and told the boot leave her alone. The boy said that he was going to follow my daughter home. My daughter left to come home and the boy who had seen what was going on told the other boy not to follow as my daughters dad would be mad.
the boy followed her home and said that he wanted to rape her. When he saw no cars outside our house he commented that no one was home. He came up the path and was attempting to touch my daughter and asking/saying he wanted to come in. She started to shout saying to leave her alone and was lashing out at him using her arms and legs until she landed a kick in the privates which obviously caused him enough pain to give up. He then left.
through talking to my daughter she also tells me that this boy had the police involved before when he had a male friend at his house and pulled his own pants down, exposing himself and shoving the male friends head on his genital area. Apparently nothing was done by the police or school.
this boy clearly has form and I feel has shown predatory behaviour. I don’t want him anywhere near my daughter. I know he is in internal isolation Mon/Tue but what should I expect to happen afterwards? How should the school be safeguarding my daughter, and other children from this boy? This incident could have ended so very differently than it did and I am concerned that a lack of action before has enabled an escalation in behaviour and if not dealt with correctly and harshly now could end up in the serious sexual assault or rape for another.
i am going crazy waiting for the police to contact me back about this.