Your surprise pregnancy

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I've 3 kids and we aren't having any more for practical reasons but I have a secret little daydream that I find out I'm pregnant with number 4. We always use condoms and they haven't failed us yet. My husband really does what he can to make sure there won't be any more babies!

Because my husband has a very strict contraceptive policy, our 3 kids were very carefully planned. I got pregnant very quickly and started testing early (got early positives with them all!). I was aware from the day I ovulated right up until a few days before my period was due that I could be pregnant. While it was thrilling to find out I was pregnant with my much wanted babies, I do often wonder what it's like to have a surprise pregnancy!

Obviously I know what a surprise pregnancy is, that contraception fails and that people get dates wrong but I'm always fascinated by how it happens and what gives women the clue that they are pregnant. I love reading about cryptic pregnancies too! Does anyone want to share their experience so I can live through you vicariously? I'm feeling really broody!

This is very similar to my story - 5 years after a vasectomy and clear samples I had a very big surprise! When I cried over salt on my chips I thought I better test 😝

Not me but a friend had been trying for about 12 years and was fully out the other side. She's grieved and was now at had for a few years fully accepted that this wasn't going to happen for her.

Started displaying classic pregnancy signs but nobody wanted to be insensitive and suggested she take a test. Eventually her work colleagues told her to take one after they got sick of her complaining about smells from the canteen, smells of peoples perfume being too strong, smells of people coming back from their cigarette break etc.

She was quite far along when she found out - about 16 weeks if I remember rightly and likened it to winning the lottery without realising you'd bought a ticket.

This got me in the feels! Amazing! ❤️

7 years, 2 miscarriages, 10 failed cycles of IVF, made the heartbreaking decision to stop trying for a baby and remain childfree (not by choice) because I couldn't physically, mentally or emotionally do it any more. The very next month...

SURPRISE!

Now trying to sneak a cup of tea before my 2 year old cheeky monkey gets up out of bed 🥰

Ladies, I am absolutely loving these. Keep them coming! Like a total weirdo I was looking up videos of women doing pregnancy tests for unplanned pregnancies on YouTube last night. Was totally having a weird little binge on them last night, getting some kind of dopamine hit every time I saw the shock 😄 they all ended up happy about the situation, so I wasn't glorifying some women's desperate situation or anything like that.

I have never really had any kind of surprise in my life, and have been thinking about this for a while. I never get any kind of unexpected good news out of the blue, and have just been wondering what it must be like to see that second line and not expect it (and be happy about it obviously!). Every time I got that positive test, I was absolutely delighted but was always expecting it to some extent.

I'm not crying, you're crying! Oh wow ☺️

How far along were you when you found out?!

These are amazing!

I wasn't tracking o imagining, as wasn't trying, and my periods were very unpredictable so didn't have a clue.
I was in Amsterdam and was feeling particularly touchy and emotional. I also felt sick and the thought of drinking , thankfully I'm not a smoker!
Anyway.... came home and still felt unwell. Was going to body pump at the gym and though "oh I better just check before I go". I literally couldn't believe swing the blue crossed. The biggest shock. I remember just sitting there, in the car on my own at Asda, "omg I'm pregnant". 🙈.

Typos!!!!
*ovulating

Whilst I didn’t have any fertility treatment, I’d spent 3.5 years of my life trying for my first two children so whilst we hasn’t ruled out a third, it wasn’t something I was going to set my heart on, as I know the monthly disappointment and what it did to my head.

we had decided to make a decision when DC2 was 2 about what we would do about permanent long term contraception va being open to a third.

when he was 18 months we had a middle of the night quickie (v v rare, both children by that point very much enjoyed being in our bed so it was a case of waking up and finding the bed to ourselves). DH reached to get a condom and in words that will stay for ever I said “oh don’t bother, it’s not like it’s easy for us to get pregnant”.

A fortnight later I was packing for a trip and realised my period was slightly late, although still in the realms of normal for me. DC3 is at school now and DH has had a vasectomy. But all those years (and I know 3.5 isn’t anything compared to some), of trying, the monthly holding of breath, OPKs, etc - and the tears when it wasn’t happening - wow.

@DrearyLane what a wonderful story!

Any more? I love these!

Almost two years trying for first baby, so when it finally happened , I knew exactly when and where . So happy and told everyone way too soon. Never bothered with contraception afterwards.
Travelled to stay with friends , fell asleep in the car mentioned to my friend how tired I have been . She said she had a one month out of date test and I should try . As I had a period I didn't think likely but yes it was positive . Lots of things made sense then.Did another test at home, made appointment and I was almost 12 weeks .

DH and I threw caution to the wind, once. Didn’t think anything of it. We had spoken vaguely about kids in the future but definitely weren’t thinking of TTC. Fast forward a couple of weeks and I was due on. At the same time I was prescribed some medication by the GP who told me that if I was pregnant that a baby wouldn’t survive the medication and she wanted to prescribe contraceptives. I explained all the reasons I didn’t want them and talked about how sensible I was and how I absolutely wouldn’t be pregnant. She prescribed the medication. I’d had it in the past and this hadn’t been mentioned, so I never would have realised unless she’d gone on and on about it. I decided, given that we’d had unprotected sex, to wait to start the medication until my period arrived. Then, I started to feel nauseous all the time. I also had cramps but no period. Believe it or not, it never even crossed my mind I could have been pregnant. Eventually, after my period didn’t arrive, my DH insisted I take a test and went to the shop to get one. I took it straight away (to shut him up!) and I couldn’t believe it when it immediately went positive. I was in shock for a few days and really uncertain as it wasn’t the plan! I did get excited fairly quickly and DD is now 4 and the best surprise I’ve ever had. I still think about that GP and her insistence about the medication. If she hadn’t been so firm I wouldn’t have stopped to think and chosen to wait, and it terrifies me how that could have gone!

I got pregnant with a mirena. It had slipped into my cervix, I told my dh (a dr), my GP and practice nurse something was wrong with it (can't remember now, was hormone symptoms returning I think, like a migraine) and then I had a side effect I'd only had in pregnancy and I just KNEW! Dh got a test on the way home and even at 6pm it was really dark - I was past 12 weeks at that point!!

She's just turned 20, graduated this year with her hnd in beauty therapy, has a great job in a very posh spa, a lovely boyfriend and is learning to drive. She's brilliant! So glad for that surprise!!

She's dd2, dc 3 by the way. Born 22 months after ds, I had 3 under 4 for a few months!!

My mum and dad got married relatively late for the time (32 and 33), tried for a baby for 14 years and it just never happened. Then my mum's periods stopped at 46. She went to the doctor and he just said 'It's your age'. Their generation took the doctor's word as gospel, so when she had a few physical changes, tiredness, a little bit of weight gain etc.,she put them all down to the menopause, for the next seven months or so. Eventually she decided that something really wasn't right and went back to the doctor. His exact words were 'I think it's a babby, Mrs. W' 😆 I made my appearance six weeks later, by which time my dad had just about come out of shock 🤣

This is absolutely amazing!

Ah lovely. You sound like such a proud mum. Your daughter is very blessed indeed!

Oh my god I love this story 🥰

DS3 was a huge surprise. I'd been on treatment for endometriosis for 6 months including a mirena and testosterone but was still bleeding continuously, so my gynae said she wanted to take out the mirena and stop all meds for 1 month to see how I got on without them.

One day we sorted through all our old baby stuff and threw it all out as we knew we wouldn't use it again. That night we ended up having sex on the sofa and using the withdrawal method in our haste.

A few weeks later someone at work brought me a coffee to my desk and I nearly threw up. I recognised that symptom, so snuck out of work to buy a test. Did it in the loo and put it on the floor, went to pick it up thinking it was negative and saw that it was blindingly positive. Couldn't stop crying.

I went back to the office and a colleague (who had been unsuccessfully TTC for 3 years) asked if I was OK. To my eternal shame I cried to her how awful it was. By the end of the conversation, I realised it wasn't awful at all. And had to ring DH who was astounded.

It ended up ending our marriage (a few years later) as I'm not sure he ever believed DS was his until he was born and looked exactly like him, due to the way he was conceived!

I wouldnt be without DS3 now, and neither would his dad, but it was a surprise for sure!

Nowadays I am hoping the next baby in this house will be a grandchild, not my own, but I hear you OP, sometime I wonder what it would be like to have one more, although I'm fairly sure that would be awful.

I became a Mum in February after a cryptic/surprise pregnancy. We did not know we were expecting until my partner found me crippled on the bedroom floor in pain and rushed me to the local walk in clinic. After a urine test I was told I was pregnant and to get to the hospital as I was in labour. Just before 7.30pm our baby girl we had always dreamed of was born.
In hindsight some small signs were there. I was sick a few times but had put that down to food not agreeing with me as that happens to me at times anyway, and my monthly’s have always been irregular so going a few months without it was nothing unusual for me. She was tucked in towards my back with the placenta in front of her so felt no kicks either!

so she was a huge surprise but a total blessing as we had both always wanted a little one, had stopped using contraception for about 3 years and we’re starting to think it was never going to happen for us. While I was in hospital my other half was calling around family and friends who had all the newborn bits we needed that they no longer used and have been so supported by people wanting to help which made the sudden transition into a family of 3 so much easier than it could have been

Wow I have no idea how I missed this, but what an incredible story! How is the baby now! A year later! Sorry I didn't see this sooner

There was an update to this thread which put it back in my "watching" list. Well guess what - a month after this post...

SURPRISE!

Another pregnancy 🤪

This one was a MASSIVE shock!

My second daughter was born a week before Christmas.