RANT. Five hundred fucking quid for one month energy and a husband who keeps putting the fucking heating on.

[IncompleteSenten]

£477 and some change. This month's gas and electric bill. It's normally up to fifty quid either side of 300 which is bad enough but this one fucking hurt! Yes this is each month, not quarter. Month. 31 days. For a little 3 bed semi.

My husband puts the heating on if you so much as blow in his fucking face. I've been begging him to put a fucking jumper on. I keep turning the heating off. He turns it back on.

I submitted the meter readings on the 1st as always and this month's bill is as above. Nearly 500 quid. I nearly cried. I finally got him to agree that we have to reduce our usage and to keep the heating off during the day after we got this bill. We've agreed it before after bills at the top end of 350 yet somehow it goes back to oh it was cold, oh the cat was cold, oh just for an hour... Then before I know it, the heating's back on to 30 all day and night .

I've bought everyone thermal long johns, furry slippers and those big blankets that are jumpers with hoods.

I turned the heating off this morning and he turned the fucker back on because - and I quote - "it's a bit cold".

Yes it's a bit cold, arseface. Put an extra layer on 🤬 and fucking deal with it!

I'll calm down of course but right now I'm so angry that my stomach feels like it's on fire. Yes I can pay it, we're very lucky in that respect I know. It's not that I can't find five hundred quid from anywhere, I can do some jiggery pokery and sort it, it's that I've got to pull five hundred quid out of my arse because mr neshbastard refuses to deal with a bit of a chill.

30 is ridiculous. Ours is set to 21 in the evenings which seems to be the comfort zone for us in this house (larger 3 bed 1930s semi Ds2 ASC and won't layer up in cold weather because that means different clothes) and the other night the controller malfunctioned and pushed it up to 25 and it was really uncomfortable. I ended up a rotten headache from it.

it's that I've got to pull five hundred quid out of my arse because mr neshbastard refuses to deal with a bit of a chill.

There's your problem, he doesn't have to pay it, I'd be making that bill his sole responsibility and let's see how fast he puts a jumper on

At £500/month I’d be looking at paying £10k for external insulation to reduce that to £50, and then pay the loan costs out of the savings

She also has to live there, I'd find it unbearable.

Also 30 is crazy…normally ours is set to 18, but if it’s very cold or when we have a newborn or the kids are sick I set it to 21.

Is the house damp at all? If so he might be feeling it is cold even though it is not actually cold?

WOW, unbelievable!!! I’m at home 24/7 and disabled. I wear warm clothing, have an electric throw, live in a 1960’s 3 bed detached, wall and loft insulation, the room temperature reaches 19 degrees tops. Last months bill for the two of us was £205, that’s the highest bill I’ve ever had.

I’d be bloody livid as well, he’s being ridiculous.

I doubt it is actually reaching 30 degrees in the house, so your boiler is probably constantly on trying to reach that temperature - hence the bill.

For context in summer 2022 when London reached over 40 degrees outside for two or three days the hottest our flat got was 27 degrees (I did operate a very strict windows and curtains closed in the day and open at night regime though!))

Is he originally from the tropics?

30.C degrees is absolutely sweltering.
I think 19.C is warm.

16 is miserable.

Electric and gas companies are absolutely coining it in.

Britain's old houses cost a fortune to heat.

30c must feel tropical!!

Ours is usually 15.5c and 17.5c if we’re feeling fancy 😂 Usually wear a lot of layers!!

We stayed in a Airbnb for a few months whilst doing building work and I had the thermostat at 22/23c. That was really warm and toasty. Can’t imagine it hotter than that though

I thought l used to large it when l put it on 23 🤣. Our finances are very different now thanks to 2 children under 1 and the cost of living crisis. 30 these days is insane! He needs to toughen up lm afraid

My husband loves to leave ALL the lights on so l can relate. I get home from work and turn into my parents in 1994: bellowing “have we won the lottery?!” and / or “it’s like Blackpool illuminations in here”. He then looks very sheepish

30!!

@Denimdenimdenim he would hate me. It’s usually on 15 or 16 here, maybe 17 if lm feeling wild. But to be fair we live in the driest and warmest part of the country

White you with please?

Those few 40deg C days were insane.
My old house was 38 degrees inside, very poorly insulated and old.
13th August 2022...I took a pic of hottest day of year here..

@IncompleteSenten can you pay off monthly suits paid before next bill or pay a bit over so bill doesn't look as big.
I be the same turn every thing off when bill arrives few days later everyone goes back to normal leaving everything on.

We have this argument in my household frequently- but in reverse!!!

I just want to feel warm in my own house - we also have a young child and I refuse to let him be cold!

I work to hard to not have the ‘luxury’ of having a warm house to retreat to when it’s winter! And to just feel comfortable in my own home!

Blame the energy companies and the government for all the disgusting profit they are making on normal people - get angry at them! Not your husband!

Same, got to 20.5 in my living room the other night and I was melting like a snowman

Thanks again for the listening ears.
Ive got over it now and am feeling a bit mean. He's given up so much to care for us all and I'm bawling about heating. It feels a bit ungrateful of me.

We've agreed to try keeping it at 25 at first and he will actually wear the thermals, slippers and blancketjacket things around the house.

Downstairs is open plan kitchen living room sort of. In so far as there's no door between the living room and kitchen. We've already got door curtains at the front and back door and we're going to look at getting a thick curtain or something to separate the living room and kitchen.

Re insulation it's not great. The house is natural stone and the walls are always cold to the touch. I have no idea about the loft but we've been here about 18 years and not done anything. I don't know if you're supposed to reinsulate regularly.

Plus the disabled wetroom and utility room are a conversation from an outhouse and coal house and are bloody freezing so we're going to look at how to stop heat escaping there.i have been unable to get him to budge on the doctor issue. He refuses to go. He says there's nothing wrong with him.

I think you're also right those who say that although it's set to 30, it's trying but it never gets to or maintains that temperature.

So there's stuff we're going to try to do to reduce heat escape and he's going to agree to 25 and I've agreed to not turn it off as long as he keeps it to 25. It's a start at least

OP, honestly, being single is less expensive. It's less stressful. It's certainly cooler.

Why would you put up with that? No-one needs a man that stupid.

The joys of living alone.

We don't find 16 to be uncomfortable or inadequate for us. I'm comfortably in a jumper, socks and slippers, 17 year old comfortably in a t-shirt. We are all different. Higher energy bills would also mean cutbacks on other essentials.

I need the heating on a lot, I put it to 22 but it never seems to get that high. Im always cold no matter how many layers, this has happened after I lost weight, its horrible and painful and miserable

So Ive gone from someone that was always hot to being unbearably cold

A doctor?

What do you think a doctor is going to do

Things like reynards which I seem to have developed in peri menopause are just managed, you cant get rid of it and you manage it by not being cold

Im cold all the time, nothing wrong with my circulation other than the reynards, nothing wrong on my bloods, I just cant regulate my temperature anymore