Argument with DH - AIBU?!

[Bunbum]

So DH just called up to ask what I have made for dinner, now granted I didn’t think things through today and ended up making spicy chicken to go with yesterdays leftover pasta and the two actually don’t go together well. However, it has just been one of those days today and I didn’t want to waste the leftovers from the weekend.

Any way, he kicked off over the phone saying that I don’t do anything all day (we have 2 young children so believe you me I don’t sit on my arse doing nothing all day!) and how basically I had one job and effed it up.

99.9% of the time I cook lovely meals and we rarely order takeaways. It was just one of those days!

He’s done what he always does when he sulks and is running off to mummy’s house to eat there instead. Of course eating a nice meal is more important than wasting food that we have here and coming home to your wife and children.

I know he has been working all day but I’m pissed off at how much of an entitled man child he can be.

LTB

I’ve been married for 36 years and if DH ever kicks off about something I’ve cooked for him, I’ll ram it down his throat! He has not once ever complained and he doesn’t ever get lovely meals, because I’m not a very good cook!

Your DH is a giant toddler!!

Yanbu he is out of order. Mil should have a word with herself too and not enable his childish behaviour.

Does he ever cook?!

He didn’t even eat it, just kicked off when he heard what it was? Twat.

Oh tell him to fuck off back to his mummy for good, how embarrassing that he runs home.

I would have zero respect for such a pathetic person 🤮

Wow. He is completely out of line.

Well, that’s the last time I’d ever be cooking anything for him. Enjoy cooking dinners just for you and the kids from now on. Twat.

Urgh. Gives me the ick

He called you up to ask what you made for dinner because his mum already invited him to hers and he wanted to play a game of choosing which dinner to eat. Then he fabricated an argument to make you feel unworthy so you'll fall over yourself to do gourmet food next time and so you are too busy feeling guilty to feel annoyed that he ditched you to go to his mum's. What a manipulative tosser. Good on you for finding your anger over this.

I think this is my first ever LTB.

I'd tell him to stay at his mum's until he learns the value of appreciating what people do for him. Arsehole.

Go out all day Saturday, leave him with the children. Expect a gourmet meal on your return.

Wtf? Why are you tolerating this behaviour?

My DH has come home tonight and asked what I was thinking of doing for tea, I said I wasn't feeling particularly hungry, so I hadn't decided. He's sorted himself some food out! I'm happy with that! But he did once kick off exactly the same as your DH... He soon realised that wasn't a good move, as I didn't cook for a week after that! It worked! 😁

I hope you won’t be cooking for him ever again seeing as you don’t do anything all day 😏 what a tosser! Running off to mummy like a big fucking baby.

Order yourself a really nice takeaway. Something you wouldn't usually have because his majesty doesn't like it - or his absolute favourite if you like it as well.

Don't save anything for him at all. Enjoy every last bit.

If my son turned up saying he didn’t like what his wife had made for tea , I would pack him off home immediately. I certainly wouldn’t make him a meal !

I hope you will tell him to stay with Mummy and not bother coming back!

What an arse.

100% this. I bet you're left with bedtime too because he's fucked off. Win win for him? Ridiculous sounding man.

If I was his mother I'd be embarrassed that my son had turned out to be an arsehole and sent him back home to apologise and offer to cook tomorrow's dinner.

What a twat.

I agree with the earlier poster that you should go out at the weekend, leave him with the kids, call and demand to know what dinner is and then tell him that's shit and you're going elsewhere and don't come home until the kids have been bathed and put to bed.

Has he ever looked after both children all day, alone?
If not I suggest you start having a full day to yourself, without leaving any food prepared/clothes out/jobs done before you go.
See how he gets on with "one job to do" and what kind of tea he can make.

I’d do this except he’d have a very large flea in his ear too. Does he often run home to mummy when he has a tantrum OP?

I used to have a husband like that.

Please note the “used to” part of that sentence!!

Tell him to cook dinner himself when he gets home! Husband and I share it, we share all duties like that. I stay at home with son, he goes out to work. However he realises I am not sat doing nothing all day so he cooks on a regular basis. Go on strike until he bucks his ideas up!

Yes agree

It’s the running to mummy’s that’s gotten me the most. As much as I hate this term, it does give me the ‘ick’!

I never complain about cooking every day as luckily for him I like home cooking. I do also understand that he is going out working very hard (he does work hard) and seeing as I am at home then why wouldn’t I make us all a nice meal. BUT like I say, there’s going to be the odd day here and there where it doesn’t quite go to plan or I simply can’t think of what to make etc.

Unfortunately though, his mummy cooks every day for the dad and he has seen this growing up so would expect it from me any way… to the point where I honestly believe if I announced that I wanted to go back to work he’d throw a hissy fit and panic over dinner!!! Dinner!!! How pathetic.

This!

What a pathetic tosser. How can you fancy him? Let alone live with him!