Argument with DH - AIBU?!

[Bunbum]

So DH just called up to ask what I have made for dinner, now granted I didn’t think things through today and ended up making spicy chicken to go with yesterdays leftover pasta and the two actually don’t go together well. However, it has just been one of those days today and I didn’t want to waste the leftovers from the weekend.

Any way, he kicked off over the phone saying that I don’t do anything all day (we have 2 young children so believe you me I don’t sit on my arse doing nothing all day!) and how basically I had one job and effed it up.

99.9% of the time I cook lovely meals and we rarely order takeaways. It was just one of those days!

He’s done what he always does when he sulks and is running off to mummy’s house to eat there instead. Of course eating a nice meal is more important than wasting food that we have here and coming home to your wife and children.

I know he has been working all day but I’m pissed off at how much of an entitled man child he can be.

It sounds like you knew his attitude before you even married him then; his opinion on a woman’s place being in the home and in the kitchen? So, sorry but… why did you pick him? Why would you want to potentially raise a daughter or a son with a dad who will demonstrate this as the “right” way to do things. Do you want your daughter to see this as what her life should be? Do you want your son to grow up and treat a woman like that? Why would you pick him?

I don’t understand any woman in this day and age actually choosing a man who clearly shows that this is who he will be, this is what he will expect and this is how he will treat you.

Don't ever cook for him again, don't clean up the kitchen after him if he cooks for himself either.

Son that for a game of soldiers! He's pathetic and is treating you like a household appliance.

I'd let him stay at Mummies like the good little mummies boy he is.

How can you be married to a man who blatantly has zero respect or consideration for you? It's absolutely shocking how bad this is.

Jesus Christ what an absolute tosser.
Awful pathetic excuse for a man.

Dh is in the middle of cooking 3 different meals for us because there are various leftovers to use up and varying levels of fussiness (mine), no complaining just getting on with it. He’s been at work all day too.

OP lock the door/change the locks/tell him not to bother coming home, you signed up for 2 children, not 3.

And you have shagged him at least twice how?

About 8 years ago DP expressed slight displeasure at something I cook regularly so every single time I have made it ever since, he has no dinner.

** dish is just a one pot chicken dish thing but I do it weekly as its healthy and does a few nights dinner / a few lunches and you can have it with a few different things and the kids like it.

* I do tell DP in advance when it's on the menu so he can make other arrangements

Makes me laugh when posters justify bad behaviour by saying he works hard. And I'm not having a go at you OP you are lovely.
I work hard, I had a banger of a terrible day. One bad stressful thing after another. At one point a colleague came to have a go and had to get in line behind the two others who were already having a go at me.
Did my normal 10 hours came home and now eating dime bars and haribo for tea.
Sorry not relevant but I just think life is what you make it, and your husband is determined to make his life and yours harder than it should be!

He's a pathetic manchild.

I'd never cook for him again

Why is wrong with spicy chicken and pasta? Sounds nice! What would he do if you didn’t cook?

The fact that he didn’t even try the food just kicked off and went to his mums sounds like he already had it planned.

Why are you tolerating this nonsense ? I’d tell him to stay at his Mother’s and not come back.

I really hope you have financial independence, because your marriage is never, ever going to make it.

Go back to work @Bunbum 100%

I work hard and I cook the dinner, he is pathetic. What does he actually do for his family? Going to work does not count. He would be doing that family or not.