10th party tomorrow and dd has been sick

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Daughters 10th birthday party tomorrow its been paid for weeks ago £300, 16 friends are coming, everything is bought, booked and ready to go.
And an hour ago shes been sick- i would have said is it nerves/ excitement but seems coincidence as her sibling was ill on Thursday with sickness
What do I do should we cancel it but we loose all that money and then its such a let down to all her friends

Well you can't carry on and pass the sickness on. Would it be possible for the invitees to still attend but without the birthday girl? It's shit for her, of course, but at least the invitees would get something from it and your money wouldn't be wasted.

Either that or ring the venue and ask if you can transfer the date.

You can't let her go and infect everyone else, I'm afraid. It's shit timing but it wouldn't be fair. Incredibly bad luck but just one of those things.

Agree with asking the venue if they'll shift the date, and if not, letting the party go ahead without her. Maybe you could ask them all to record a little video message for her?

Call the venue and see if you can change the date? This happened to us and they thankfully had a space the following weekend and I moved it (and spent hours trying to get in contact with all the parents to let them know!) it's not ideal but at least she will be able to enjoy it. hope she feels better soon !

As a parent I would far rather my child be a bit let down by the cancellation of a party than bring home a sickness bug. And I can promise you that her sibling, who due to a medical condition had to be hospitalised every time they caught a sickness bug, would vote for cancel the party too.

So sorry to hear this.

Agree with the posters to call the venue and ask if you can move the date. If not, I would let the other parents know. I think all parents would thank you for letting them know. Your poor DD.

I would call the venue in the morning and explain the birthday girl has been sick. I would be really surprised if they wouldn't let you reschedule. It would be really sad to hold the party and make her miss out.

If you can’t reschedule, then I’d let the party go ahead without your DD.

Its really shit, but at least the money wouldn’t totally be wasted and if cards and gifts have already been bought for your daughter they might cheer her up when she starts to feel better?

Hopefully the venue will let you reschedule. You can’t go ahead.

I’d still just cancel rather than the party go ahead without her. It’d be odd and I think my dd would be so sad for her friends to celebrate without her.

If she’s not sick again I’d go ahead. If it was a bug she’ll be sick more than once.

Didn't even think about rescheduling thank you all.

What rotten luck. Hope you manage to reschedule.

I’d see how she feels in the morning and take it from there

This is really irresponsible 😬 you absolutely can have a sickness bug and only be sick once

I agree with this.

Ah well. It’s my way of thinking so I guess you can only hope your kids aren’t invited to my kids parties!!

So horribly selfish.

If it helps my youngest is 8 so I’m past the point of big parties now. I did cancel one once. But that was only because she was sick multiple times. Had it have been once I’d have carried on regardless.

This simply isn't true. Both of my kids tend to be sick just the once when they have a bug (sometimes it's multiple times, but in the main it's just once). They're still infectious and can easily spread it to others.

This reminds me of that Motherland episode where the birthday girl was sick and they still had the party regardless

There's a huge difference between being randomly sick once and having a sickness bug

Just the once and otherwise fine is probable Nerves - do the party

Sick feverish and off colour, multiple episodes of vomitiging - probable sick bug- cancel the party in the morning

Well, I suppose that's good that you're past that age now, as are we. However, I don't suppose the underlying selfishness has gone away. I will never understand how people can have so little care about how their behaviour impacts on others, but hey how, we're all different. Hopefully, the OP won't be so stupid as to listen to your advice.

Definitely this

Absolutely not. My DS was sick once. It was clearly a bug. I caught it the day after and DH the day after that. There's a 48hr rule for a reason and it's incredibly selfish and irresponsible to still go ahead with a party. Moreso the fact their sibling was ill with sickness two days ago. Crazy 🙄

I hope the op is sensible and listens to me! I’m not cancelling a £300 party, potentially losing that money on overthinking. More than once is an issue, I’ve had plenty of experience of that one off sickness for no reason, completely random etc.

I think your stupid advice needs to be ignored. But different folks etc.

And equally, I've had plenty of experience of confirmed sickness bugs only making some kids throw up at once. Given that the OP's other dc was sick only a couple of days ago, this seems a highly likely scenario.

Of course, it would be absolutely gutting to cancel a £300 party, but it would be far worse from my perspective to pass on a sickness bug to a potentially vulnerable person through pure selfishness.

I do get that you don't give a toss about passing it on, and I'm sure that there will be others who share your way of thinking. Thankfully, I think most people are a bit more considerate.