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Cruisem · 2024-02-03T22:28:18+00:00

Daughters 10th birthday party tomorrow its been paid for weeks ago £300, 16 friends are coming, everything is bought, booked and ready to go. And an hour ago shes been sick- i would have said is it nerves/ excitement but seems coincidence as her sibling was ill on Thursday with sickness What do I do should we cancel it but we loose all that money and then its such a let down to all her friends

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 00:06

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/02/2024 23:57

And equally, I've had plenty of experience of confirmed sickness bugs only making some kids throw up at once. Given that the OP's other dc was sick only a couple of days ago, this seems a highly likely scenario.

Of course, it would be absolutely gutting to cancel a £300 party, but it would be far worse from my perspective to pass on a sickness bug to a potentially vulnerable person through pure selfishness.

I do get that you don't give a toss about passing it on, and I'm sure that there will be others who share your way of thinking. Thankfully, I think most people are a bit more considerate.

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I’ve had enough kids come to school who mention being sick the night before, that morning to know there are plenty of people who think the same!

Ive had a child be sick through too much drink in one go, through undiagnosed asthma, too much excitement and running around. I’ve never had a child sick once when they had a bug. So I’ll just stick to my experience like you are with yours.

Trufflenose · 04/02/2024 00:12

Being sick "only once" doesn't make it not a sickness bug!

My whole family got really really bad norovirus once when someone brought a young child to an event who had been sick "only once" so wasn't actually ill 🙄 It was a particularly nasty one, two ended up hospitalised, I had to have 2 weeks off work and couldn't eat properly for weeks after that.

Trufflenose · 04/02/2024 00:16

The fact that other people are selfish and inconsiderate and send their kids to school when they're sick doesn't justify you doing so.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 00:19

Trufflenose · 04/02/2024 00:16

The fact that other people are selfish and inconsiderate and send their kids to school when they're sick doesn't justify you doing so.

Apparently, @Sometimeswinning has never experienced a sickness bug where someone is only actually sick once, so it can't possibly happen. The rest of us must have just imagined it.

newnam · 04/02/2024 00:22

I hope you can move it op.

I agree that being sick only once doesn't rule out a bug, especially where a sibling has been sick.

I was hospitalised once with a sickness bug whilst my youngest at the time had the same thing and was only sick once and back on the trampoline come the afternoon.

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 00:23

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 00:19

Apparently, @Sometimeswinning has never experienced a sickness bug where someone is only actually sick once, so it can't possibly happen. The rest of us must have just imagined it.

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No. I said you had your experience and I had mine. Don’t start making things up @MrsBennetsPoorNerves! No apparently about it either so stop changing the context to suit yourself.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 00:36

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 00:23

No. I said you had your experience and I had mine. Don’t start making things up @MrsBennetsPoorNerves! No apparently about it either so stop changing the context to suit yourself.

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I'm not making anything up. If you are capable of accepting that things can happen even when you haven't experienced them personally, then you would accept the fact that many other posters on this thread have experienced infectious sickness bugs where kids have had only one incidence of sickness. So either you can choose not to believe that this ever happens because you aren't willing to accept the possibility of anything happening that is beyond your own personal experience, or you can choose to accept that, in this instance, your personal experience is clearly irrelevant because one incident of sickness absolutely can be a sickness bug.

I've no doubt that you will remain convinced of your own rightness regardless, and that's fine, because I doubt you'd be the type to care even if you knew your kid was infectious.

shreknjumps · 04/02/2024 00:49

"There's a 48hr rule for a reason"

In schools only 🤷🏽‍♀️

NewYearNewMeMamma · 04/02/2024 00:59

shreknjumps · 04/02/2024 00:49

"There's a 48hr rule for a reason"

In schools only 🤷🏽‍♀️

Really? I can think of many places who have the 48hr rule in place. For one; hospitals. There are a number of softplay venues local to me who have this rule as well.

MissingSlimpossible · 04/02/2024 01:09

If sick only once, absolutely go ahead and I hope she has a ball!

EarlGreywithLemon · 04/02/2024 05:32

My daughter was only sick once on Friday. She has a sickness bug- I know for sure, because multiple children at nursery have it too. She has an activity today, and is obviously not going.

crumblingschools · 04/02/2024 05:38

So both DC have been sick and some posters don’t think it is a sickness bug

HoHoGo · 04/02/2024 08:39

MissingSlimpossible · 04/02/2024 01:09

If sick only once, absolutely go ahead and I hope she has a ball!

Wow. It's no wonder sickness bugs spread like wildfire. Do people genuinely not understand that kids are infectious for a couple of days after they stop vomiting? Or do they just convince themselves that they know better because they don't give a toss about anyone else?

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 08:56

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 00:36

I'm not making anything up. If you are capable of accepting that things can happen even when you haven't experienced them personally, then you would accept the fact that many other posters on this thread have experienced infectious sickness bugs where kids have had only one incidence of sickness. So either you can choose not to believe that this ever happens because you aren't willing to accept the possibility of anything happening that is beyond your own personal experience, or you can choose to accept that, in this instance, your personal experience is clearly irrelevant because one incident of sickness absolutely can be a sickness bug.

I've no doubt that you will remain convinced of your own rightness regardless, and that's fine, because I doubt you'd be the type to care even if you knew your kid was infectious.

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Not sure how many times you want to say the same thing over and over but it is just going to be the same answer from me.

Ive seen children sick once and it’s not always (or ever in my experience) been a bug. It’s been asthma, high temps, over indulging. You have trouble understanding that these are all reasons a child can be sick. Your children may pick up bugs frequently and you therefore have more experience.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 09:54

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 08:56

Not sure how many times you want to say the same thing over and over but it is just going to be the same answer from me.

Ive seen children sick once and it’s not always (or ever in my experience) been a bug. It’s been asthma, high temps, over indulging. You have trouble understanding that these are all reasons a child can be sick. Your children may pick up bugs frequently and you therefore have more experience.

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Goodness me, you think I'm the one having trouble understanding? I think not!

I have no trouble at all understanding that there may be a multitude of other reasons why a child might get sick, but that's irrelevant. The material point here is that the OP has no way of knowing, though the fact that her other dc was also sick would seem to suggest a bug. Regardless, if you don't know, you shouldn't risk passing it on to others.

And no, my dc didn't get sick particularly often, I'm not sure what that's got to do with anything. It seems that you've dug yourself into a hole here, and you just don't know how to stop digging.

crumblingschools · 04/02/2024 09:58

@Sometimeswinning if all siblings have been sick (even if only once) do you not think that it might be a contagious bug

FawnFrenchieMum · 04/02/2024 09:58

Trufflenose · 04/02/2024 00:16

The fact that other people are selfish and inconsiderate and send their kids to school when they're sick doesn't justify you doing so.

Our secondary school doesn’t have the 48 hour rule! If they are sick in the morning, they ring at lunch time to see if they are well enough for the afternoon session!

ToxicOstrich · 04/02/2024 10:05

HoHoGo · 04/02/2024 08:39

Wow. It's no wonder sickness bugs spread like wildfire. Do people genuinely not understand that kids are infectious for a couple of days after they stop vomiting? Or do they just convince themselves that they know better because they don't give a toss about anyone else?

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Agree. We've had a sickness bug in our house recently. I was only sick once.

Norovirus/flu season has hit us. Hospitals are full to the brim. It's worse than last year. It's not hard, if someone has a stomach bug they stay home. It's really unfortunate but irresponsible to do anything else.

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 10:40

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 09:54

Goodness me, you think I'm the one having trouble understanding? I think not!

I have no trouble at all understanding that there may be a multitude of other reasons why a child might get sick, but that's irrelevant. The material point here is that the OP has no way of knowing, though the fact that her other dc was also sick would seem to suggest a bug. Regardless, if you don't know, you shouldn't risk passing it on to others.

And no, my dc didn't get sick particularly often, I'm not sure what that's got to do with anything. It seems that you've dug yourself into a hole here, and you just don't know how to stop digging.

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Says the person who keeps repeating the same stuff over and over.

Although you did just acknowledge that there are a multitude of reasons a child can be sick once and it’s not a bug. It’s hardly irrelevant when that was where we disagreed. Honestly, that’s all I needed to hear.

SandyWaves · 04/02/2024 11:02

Any update OP?

What did you decide to do?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/02/2024 11:06

Sometimeswinning · 04/02/2024 10:40

Says the person who keeps repeating the same stuff over and over.

Although you did just acknowledge that there are a multitude of reasons a child can be sick once and it’s not a bug. It’s hardly irrelevant when that was where we disagreed. Honestly, that’s all I needed to hear.

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I haven't once denied that there could be other reasons why a child might be sick. It's just that that's irrelevant to whether or not the OP cancels the party because she cannot possibly know.

And yes, I have been repeating myself because you seemed not to get it, but I have concluded that you're willfully missing the point now, so can't be bothered to discuss further. Enjoy that selfish little bubble you live in.

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Cruisem · 05/02/2024 21:28

@SandyWaves
Won't lie we went ahead with it. The venue wouldn't let me change the date dd was fine rest of the day and I spoke to the parents and they was all happy for it to continue bar one or two who didn't come which is absolutely fine.
It actually went well and made her feel much better and and back to school today completely ok again

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