The hardest part about being a mum at the moment

[Berryberrywintermedley]

My just turned 8 and 3 year olds arguing. Its doing my fucking head in at weekends

My 4yo and 9month old both needing me at once.

Mine are moving out and dont need me anymore day to day

I dont know whats worse

The arguing and the moaning; I don’t know why o bother taking them out when they find something to moan about no matter what fun activity they’ve done or what I’ve bought

Fighting over screens.

Accepting that ds1 is never going to go to university and probably won’t live independently.

Looking at ds's severe acne on his face, neck, shoulders, chest and arms and wishing I could make it go away.

My 22 month old being defiant, cheeky, aggressive and clingy. It's draining the life out of me and affecting my day to day.

Rugby playing DS1 and 2 and DH

The washing is just another level (yes I do insist on help but it's the mental load to get it done)

Trying to remember what it's like to wee alone and the endless snack/ food/ drink making.....

Adult dc going through a relationship break up. I just want them to feel better.

-Fighting
-Trying to manage screen time, made more difficult by the school insisting homework and reading is done online.
-Whatsapp groups for all clubs football, brownies etc and trying to keep up with it all. It’s information overload
-reading the school newsletter. Kids are at 3 different schools and they are all pages long. Constantly repeating the same thing about attendance blah blah blah. I skim it and then miss that I was supposed to do/bring something to school cause I can’t be bothered to read the same thing week after week but then miss the one important note.

The way every little thing, from waking up, meals, leaving the house, getting back to the house, teeth, washing, medicine when sick, using the loo, tidying the house, going to sleep...
Every little thing takes at least 5x longer than it needs to. I hate the way my usable life span has decreased, because all the boring shit that should take minutes is so drawn out, sigh.

driving 400 miles at night and not texting to say they have arrived safely in case it "wakes me up". I don't know what age I will be able to sleep when they are doing this - when they get to around 50 maybe? not convinced, even then

Hardest part for me is lone parenting and never getting a break

Friendship problems/bullying with both of them. There are honestly so many jealous, spiteful little shits in the world and I get so pissed off thinking that I put so much effort into raising kind DC but no one else has bothered their arse.

Constantly worrying if I've done with them in the day. I'm going through heath issues at the moment which are taking over my mind but I do lay in bed at night wondering if I have done enough with them.

The mornings getting ready for school. All refusing to get washed, get dressed, eat breakfast, put on their shoes. It takes half an hour to put on a sock. God knows how we get there on time every day.

Done enough **

Dealing with teen DD's anxiety and school avoidance

My 6 month old has never slept through the night, sometimes up every hour… I’m so tired 😴

Worrying that they're not working hard enough for exams this summer and won't get the grades they need for uni.

My daughter telling me she doesn’t want a birthday party this year because she doesn’t have any friends.

My 10 and 7 yo boys arguing. It's relentless.

Father waviering his rights with our son. Dealing with that, son being on the spectrum, always seeing to be poorly.

The constant, never ending mental load.