Did your parents move to a new area while you were at university?

[Kendodd]

How did you feel about it?
I want to move to a different part of the country, just waiting for my kids to finish school. We have no family here and will have no family in the new area. Worried a little bit about how it'll affect my kids.

My mum moved when I was inter railing after my second year at uni. I was delighted! I hated that town and I haven’t set foot in it since. All my friends had left for uni, and most moved somewhere else after graduation. I had left home, why would I be bothered by my mum moving?

Yes. It was crap for me, but as a pp said, it was their life to live as they wished. We had never been close, still aren’t and I never went “home” after university.

DD will start uni next year and I wouldn't do that. Coming from a country where a student moves away from home permanently, rental contracts are until further notice, no moving out after the end of the year, we were quite shocked how much time DD would spend back at home.

Even if they only come home Christmas and Summer, that's a huge chunk of time if you suddenly are a mere guest in a house you never lived in, away from friends and old surroundings.

I felt weird when my mum moved when I was already out of my hometown for a decade. I felt like a distant guest instead of "coming home" for a visit as I had no connection to her new flat.
A 18/19 year old who just started uni will even less be able to sort through these feelings.

My parent moved when I was in first year of uni. I spent lots of time back at old home living with boyfriends family and generally inviting my self to stay at other people's houses ( can't belive how rude I was!)
I found it hard to explain to people 'where I come from at uni as being Welsh was quite important to my identity at the time but my parents had the cheak to move to England! 😂
I got over it, but I do feel that it did affect my relationship with my parents, I ended up not talking to them as much and pretending all was OK when it wasn't, but equally that was also me developing my own independence!

My cousin’s parents moved to South Africa when she went to uni. Their relationship was never the same after that. She visited once a year and spent the other holidays staying with friends. I thought it was cruel.

One of my relatives did, much angst at the time from the child but parents were adamant it was a better area and the kid came round quickly.

They are so much happier in the new area.

Out youngest is 15 and eldest 21 - my husband wants to move when the youngest goes to Uni & I want to wait till she has graduated. My eldest came home and went out with friends, I’m not sure if we didn’t live here she would have spent as much time with us :( & due to expensive area she lives with us now she is working.

I don’t want to move as I would like to stay close to where my children settle (or inbetween where they settle ) I don’t live near my parents and have missed them being part of our lives - rather than the odd weekend.

I’ve said to my husband we don’t need to make this choice now! I’ve still got 20 years of work ahead of me so for now no rush to move.