Anyone noticed an increase in weird stalker behaviour on mumsnet?

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I was stalked on here by some oddball earlier this month. Which I reported.

I’ve just seen more weird stalker type behaviour on another thread. All are on relatively serious threads when a woman is requiring genuine help and advice.

Has anyone else noticed an increase?

What do you mean by weird stalker behaviour?

I’ve just experienced it this morning!

I started a thread last week about my DD being bullied at school. I’m not willing to physically assault a 10yo or willing to follow her home so that I know where she lives therefore I’m apparently a passive mum letting my DD down and is ‘more worried about what people think than protecting my DD’.

One poster in particular has taken exception to me not doing as she demands and has followed me round MN posting on threads little hand waves then going onto my other thread saying “You are wanted on the such and such thread”. How fucking weird and creepy is that!

I think weekly name changes are the best idea. I try to do it fairly often?

Advanced searches then Referencing other comments on unrelated threads. Tagging posters old threads etc so they get an email notification. No comment just their name tagged.

Another example a poster is asking a serious question on a thread but a comment she made on say style and beauty is mentioned.

I name change a fair bit - but maybe I need to up it!

People doing searches to discredit you is annoying and weird - especially if they're arguing with you about something completely unrelated on another thread.

But it's not stalking. Can we not misappropriate words like stalking, narc etc

Sometimes it's justified when the poster is talking bollocks and their thread is deleted.

@KarenNotAKaren yes that’s what I’m mean.

No not to discredit - it’s different.

Yeah that is weird and creepy.

One poster in particular has taken exception to me not doing as she demands and has followed me round MN posting on threads little hand waves then going onto my other thread saying “You are wanted on the such and such thread”. How fucking weird and creepy is that

Have you reported them?

I think sometimes posters recognise a username and if they’re lying and getting posters to invest in a load of shit, I’m quite happy for their previous threads to be referenced.

If they want to lie, they should at least be bright enough to name change. 😅

@KarenNotAKaren - that is bloody weird, what a sad life they must lead!

I've seen this happening to somebody and it's so creepy.

I namechange a lot anyway, but will probably do it even more now if there are people arsing around like this.

It wasn't even about any inconsistency between the victim's posts on different threads (which I could understand). It was just a really unhealthy obsessive pursuit of a single poster.

Posted too soon.

If it’s not relevant though, then that’s strange.

I think it’s fine when a poster posts something and someone says hang on I remember you - weren’t you in a completely different living situation etc just last week.

What some on here are describing is very weird though.

Like Karens example before. ‘You are wanted on the Amanda Holden thread’ when she is discussing her daughter being bullied.

My report earlier this month got the poster banned - so it was agreed their behaviour wasn’t appropriate. They were tagging me into lots of my old posts. No comments just tags. @ and my user name all within a 10 minute period.

They didn’t say oh you contradict yourself. The only tagged posts were the ones offering constructive advice to a person who wanted advice. I wasn’t mean or nasty. I was polite and tried to be informative had sign posted good external resources to try and help the original poster.

The @ were only on my helpful threads. I initially thought it was like maybe a partner had seen and not liked the resources offered.

They're just a bit sad then and have nothing better to do than follow around an anonymous stranger. Don't think it's stalking.

Call them out for being pathetic, then name change and forget about it.

Some of the behaviour described here is weird, but it isn't stalking. Stalking is very serious and we shouldn't be accusing people of that.

I feel like there's an issue with ai and bots on here sometimes. There's so weird behaviour for sure. Keep name-changing and reporting weird behaviour.

I would say it’s a type of cyberstalking

It’s insidious really, creeps are getting more and more brazen online.

Some people seem to have too much time on their hands

Ive been on here for years. Never name changed and don't start threads but I've had some extremely strange and oddly determined PMs in the past to the point I've had to block them from messaging me. I rarely go into PM's now. It's a steel yourself and view through one eye job.

Mumsnet is large and well attended and there are frankly some very strange people out there. Some actually don't have much of a life and their worlds are small. So you can expect they can become a bit fixated on stuff.

I think all you can do is report each bit of harassment and let the bosses deal with them.

Yes, I did too. Reason why I change name every three months or so. More than stalking, it is following me around. And if you are here, hello , I am talking about you.

In settings you can set it so you don't receive private messages. Also so you don't get notifications if someone quotes you or tags you. If you name change they can't find you.