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What’s a weird thing your In-Laws do?

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FirstFallopians · 16/01/2024 12:06

I was thinking there about how my BIL maintains that all families are a little bit weird to someone else.

Thought he was being flippant but then I remembered that my in-laws keep their family toothbrushes and toothpaste in a drawer in their bathroom. If you need a bit of floss after Sunday lunch you need to stick your hand into a sticky, damp mass of plastic and bristles.

What slightly weird things do your in-laws do?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 20:15

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 17/01/2024 19:12

Serious question about the 'toothbrush/toilet flush' thing - does anyone know of anyone who has become ill, incontravertibly, from poo particles from a toilet flush?

I have to admit to being lax with my toothbrush location, it has sat on the side of a sink quite close to a lavatory for as long as I've had teeth, so a good sixty plus years, and I have never had an illness that couldn't be attributed to something infectious going around. In fact, I'm a pretty sturdy individual all round. Have I boosted my immune system by my sloppy toothbrush hygiene, or is this another one of those 'ooooh, germs, we'll all get sick and die!' things.

Do you not put the lid down?

(I'm getting obsessive about this! I hate an open toilet)

sl0th · 19/01/2024 20:21

IsAnybodyListening · 18/01/2024 19:55

Not particularly strange. But my family definitely looked strange to my daughters BF.

Both my DM and Step Dad are completely bonkers in their own unique way. DM is in her 70s and DSD in his 80s. They left the UK after retirement several yrs ago and live in a hot country. We visit frequently.

DSD is completely t total and health conscious. Awake at 6am on the dot, showers and puts on his finery and sits with the porridge he marinated for 12hrs overnight, followed by a coffee in the garden for quiet contemplation till 9am, which is when he likes to turn his car round in the drive, and open the doors to air the car out. Every morning.

DM on the other hand loves her cocktails and is an utter live wire. She's 72 and just joined tictok. Will regularly send me photos in the middle of the night if she's at a festival dancing. Spent NYE drinking with her mates and jumped in the pool fully clothed at midnight. Garden full of stone statues of naked people. She's also never smoked, but was thrilled to find out cannabis was legal to sell in shops where she lived, and phoned me saying she was thinking about growing weed plants for her arthritic friends. We talked her out of it😂

My DD23 introduced her boyfriend last Yr when we visited. His family are extremely conservative and religious. He was amazed grandparent's could act like this, especially awestruck by DMs ''fuck it, you only live once attitude '

Your DM sounds amazing!

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 19/01/2024 22:36

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 20:15

Do you not put the lid down?

(I'm getting obsessive about this! I hate an open toilet)

No, I never put the lid down. I live alone, nobody is going to look into my toilet except me!

lugeanjaam · 19/01/2024 22:51

WingingIt101 · 16/01/2024 12:13

I guess it's not super weird but it's just different to what I experienced.
For context my mum dad brother and I lived 2 hours from all our extended family. DH family all live within 15 mins of each other.
DH and I now live around 30 mins from my parents and 2.5hours from his - dictated by work.

His family always, without fail, attend all of each others birthdays and have a family party. Not just big birthdays. But little Freddie's 8th birthday, or auntie Paula's 44th. There's always a birthday tea and everyone is expected to go. We don't because it's too much of a journey and now with children it would be too much but we very much were pressured to in the early days!

I'm wondering if my daughters in law think I'm weird now! We always have a birthday dinner, the birthday person gets to choose what's on the menu and it's something that we always look forward to.

Absolutely no expectations that 'you must come' but it's a great opportunity to spend time together in our busy lives.

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 22:51

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 19/01/2024 22:36

No, I never put the lid down. I live alone, nobody is going to look into my toilet except me!

It's not the looking (although very bad feng shui!) It's what you're spraying round the room...Envy

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 19/01/2024 23:02

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 22:51

It's not the looking (although very bad feng shui!) It's what you're spraying round the room...Envy

And again, I reiterate, does anyone know ANYONE who has got ill this way? Or is it just the thought of poo germs being 'sprayed around the room' that makes people cringe? Because if they knew what goes on in the great wide world, they would struggle to leave the house - 'poo germs' being contained largely in the toilet, otherwise wouldn't anyone who stands in a room with a toilet and flushes it be dead by now?

Alwaytired44 · 19/01/2024 23:28

JanetandRita · 16/01/2024 13:20

We do this too 😂

Us too! 🤣

HollyKnight · 19/01/2024 23:54

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 19/01/2024 23:02

And again, I reiterate, does anyone know ANYONE who has got ill this way? Or is it just the thought of poo germs being 'sprayed around the room' that makes people cringe? Because if they knew what goes on in the great wide world, they would struggle to leave the house - 'poo germs' being contained largely in the toilet, otherwise wouldn't anyone who stands in a room with a toilet and flushes it be dead by now?

You are focusing on germs when people are talking about poo. If you accidentally got shit on your finger, would you wash it off, or suck on it? I couldn't care less if my shit is infectious or not. I still don't want it in my mouth.

SoreAndTired1 · 20/01/2024 03:01

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 19/01/2024 23:02

And again, I reiterate, does anyone know ANYONE who has got ill this way? Or is it just the thought of poo germs being 'sprayed around the room' that makes people cringe? Because if they knew what goes on in the great wide world, they would struggle to leave the house - 'poo germs' being contained largely in the toilet, otherwise wouldn't anyone who stands in a room with a toilet and flushes it be dead by now?

I doubt it, it is just a silly old wives tale as I said earlier. That people actually believe 'poo particles' travel like that shows that people are still gullible and susceptible to believing anything.

Infusedwithchamomileandmint · 20/01/2024 07:49

Nope not a"silly old wives" tale
Mythbusters actually did this on the show 😂
Every time you flush contaminated water droplets are sprayed into your bathroom by aerosol.
All hard surfaces will be contaminated
Personally my toothbrush is covered and in the cabinet.

MrsNandortheRelentless · 20/01/2024 08:03

Picture Jim & Barbara Royals house, the Sunday dinner episode with tinned fruit for pudding…

We were invited for lunch every New Year’s Day.
They would physically take the dining room table, chairs and emergency chairs, and place it the (tiny) living room.

FIL would carefully take a sheet of paper, cut it up and write everyone’s name , fold it like a house roof to make name places for everyone. (There were 5 of us in total).

The TV would be on all day with football and sport with FIL of course in prime place to watch it while eating.

There was no conversation between any of us due to the football and the volume of the TV.

Every year.

Well, until I declined the invitation after the 2nd year.
MIL did all the donkey work, FIL sat himself at the head of the table knife and fork in fists waiting to be served.

they would never come to us when we invited them because “it’s weird not being at home on New Year’s Day” apparently.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 20/01/2024 12:40

Infusedwithchamomileandmint · 20/01/2024 07:49

Nope not a"silly old wives" tale
Mythbusters actually did this on the show 😂
Every time you flush contaminated water droplets are sprayed into your bathroom by aerosol.
All hard surfaces will be contaminated
Personally my toothbrush is covered and in the cabinet.

I hate to harp on about this, but I am fascinated...

surely your towel, your flannel, the soap...they are ALSO covered in 'poo particles' whenever you flush? And every surface?

If this was actually a real, genuine health hazard, you'd think self-fumigating bathrooms would be a thing, wouldn't you?

I refuse to be browbeaten by poo germs/particles. I also kiss my dog. I know what I'm getting into...

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 20/01/2024 15:14

I know someone who butters cold toast until the butter looks like a slice. Has teeth marks running down when she bites into it.
First time I thought she was having cheese.

I was brought up to eat everything at the table and with a fork and knife.
Didn't realise this wasn't a thing until I was in my teens.

DMIL is another one who brings random food when she comes to visit, even at Christmas.
We had a small fridge and small kitchen and would actually say not to bring anything as all covered.
Half a lettuce, one tomato 2 beef burgers, apples, brown bananas, half a home made cake etc. All thrown out once she leaves.
One year I kept it all and offered it back when she left, looked at me as if I was mad.

Someone else eats pasta with fruit, oranges to be specific.
A bowl of cabonara with orange segments resting on top and alternating mouthfuls.
I was too gobsmacked to ask.

Infusedwithchamomileandmint · 20/01/2024 15:50

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 20/01/2024 12:40

I hate to harp on about this, but I am fascinated...

surely your towel, your flannel, the soap...they are ALSO covered in 'poo particles' whenever you flush? And every surface?

If this was actually a real, genuine health hazard, you'd think self-fumigating bathrooms would be a thing, wouldn't you?

I refuse to be browbeaten by poo germs/particles. I also kiss my dog. I know what I'm getting into...

Well mine aren't because I flush with the lid down 😂
The bit about the tooth brush in the cabinet was because the Op thought it wierd her ILs kept theirs in a drawer .
I kiss Dcats soft head constantly but I prefer butt germs kept in the loo thanks!

Infusedwithchamomileandmint · 20/01/2024 15:51

Ps flannel 😳
Washed after every use but its a facecloth, make up remover thingy

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/01/2024 16:11

Ilovecleaning · 19/01/2024 16:45

I know 😂. I had a friend who wrote plays and wrote for tv. He had a notebook with him at all times. When he heard stories like these he used to say “ Mind if I write that down? “ He explained that writers rarely have to make things up. 🌺

I would totally believe this. The parody is only a tiny stretch. I often wonder did my Dad inspire uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey.

Ilovecleaning · 20/01/2024 16:14

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/01/2024 16:11

I would totally believe this. The parody is only a tiny stretch. I often wonder did my Dad inspire uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey.

lol 🤣

Scrantonicity2 · 20/01/2024 17:05

If anyone watched the Christmas ep of Motherland, the parents did bring with them half an onion that they kept in the daughter's fridge, when they came for Christmas... more common than I thought!

My parents do bring opened bits and pieces but not actual bits of veg!

MrsHughesPinny · 20/01/2024 17:14

My family has a ton of made up words that partners are often bemused by. I think lots of families have a variation on that though. We also weren’t allowed to have food anywhere but in the dining room and had to take our shoes off in the porch. I still do it now, people think I’m odd always taking my shoes off when I visit but it doesn’t feel right wearing shoes in a house!

Also, slight derailment, people keep referring to ‘milky coffee.’ Do you mean a latte, a regular instant coffee with extra milk or something else? I’ve never heard the expression IRL and I’m curious!

MoonWoman69 · 20/01/2024 17:33

When I have a milky coffee, one every day, (but not a set time, I hasten to add!!!) it's a mug of hot milk, then add coffee and stir! I don't know how anyone else does it, but that's how I do it. I had a workmate who would only let me make her one, as I did it perfectly for her! I didn't think you could get a milky coffee wrong, but I do know what she meant now!

WickedSerious · 20/01/2024 18:28

MoonWoman69 · 20/01/2024 17:33

When I have a milky coffee, one every day, (but not a set time, I hasten to add!!!) it's a mug of hot milk, then add coffee and stir! I don't know how anyone else does it, but that's how I do it. I had a workmate who would only let me make her one, as I did it perfectly for her! I didn't think you could get a milky coffee wrong, but I do know what she meant now!

This is how my mother did it,she didn't want to 'waste milk' making one for my father.

OrangeSlices998 · 20/01/2024 19:37

Ilovecleaning · 19/01/2024 15:22

Yes, that is OTT but I am strict about whites being washed alone. I have white sheets, towels etc for years and they are still white. My son and wife have whites which are all grey 😢. I say nothing because I love them to bits and I don’t want my DIL to hate me!

Why not your son? Is he not responsible for the white washes too?

StockpotSoup · 20/01/2024 19:41

Because you’re more likely to roll your eyes at your own mother telling you how to do the washing, whereas your MIL telling you feels interfering and judgemental. Stop looking for sexism when it isn’t there.

SadSack10 · 20/01/2024 20:19

HeddaGarbled · 16/01/2024 12:22

They don’t have kitchen bins! Both MIL & SIL have a black plastic sack on the floor of their utility rooms for all their kitchen rubbish. Well off enough to have utility rooms but won’t spend money on a bin, the weirdos 😃

We do this, just don’t see the point of a bin.

NamechangedH · 20/01/2024 20:24

MIL puts the loo roll on the holder the wrong way round so it goes behind rather than in front. I used to change it back until I realised it was always like that so it must be her preference.
Luckily she's a step MIL so I don't have to worry that my DCs are going to have wrong way round loo roll genes

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