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What’s a weird thing your In-Laws do?

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FirstFallopians · 16/01/2024 12:06

I was thinking there about how my BIL maintains that all families are a little bit weird to someone else.

Thought he was being flippant but then I remembered that my in-laws keep their family toothbrushes and toothpaste in a drawer in their bathroom. If you need a bit of floss after Sunday lunch you need to stick your hand into a sticky, damp mass of plastic and bristles.

What slightly weird things do your in-laws do?

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AMuser · 19/01/2024 15:27

CurlewKate · 19/01/2024 08:38

@Okaygoahead My dp insists on sitting in the cinema til the very last credit has rolled because "if it was me I'd want someone to read it." He will be found dead in his seat one day.

I love this!!!

Mazuslongtoenail · 19/01/2024 15:32

AMuser · 19/01/2024 15:26

are you Laura Ingles Wilder and this is Little House on the Prairie?

I’ve never read it but I’ll take it as a compliment…?🤔

CurlewKate · 19/01/2024 15:46

@AMuser "CurlewKate
@Okaygoahead My dp insists on sitting in the cinema til the very last credit has rolled because "if it was me I'd want someone to read it." He will be found dead in his seat one day.

I love this!!!"

It's all fun and games until you're running for the last train.......🤣

Pavane · 19/01/2024 16:01

SocksMcR · 19/01/2024 12:43

Does he also have hobbies that could be considered a bit neurodivergent? I've found a LOT of undiagnosed autistic older men tend to like just quietly sitting with people but not interacting

This is my father. Ham radio is his thing, and I think significant numbers of his peers that I've met/heard on the radio are likely to be ND.

The thing that blew DH's mind was that my dad talked almost EVERY SINGLE DAY for over thirty years to an Australian ham radio operator (until the other man died in his late 80s), but all that was ever said was (a) an observation on the signal strength as experienced by each and (b) an observation on the weather by each. They never expressed the remotest interest in one another's lives, didn't know what one another did for a living, whether they were married or single or had children or not -- anything.

The fact of the contact was the NB thing, not the content.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 19/01/2024 16:40

CurlewKate · 19/01/2024 15:46

@AMuser "CurlewKate
@Okaygoahead My dp insists on sitting in the cinema til the very last credit has rolled because "if it was me I'd want someone to read it." He will be found dead in his seat one day.

I love this!!!"

It's all fun and games until you're running for the last train.......🤣

But sometimes there's a post-credits scene. Like a bonus track on an album.

Ilovecleaning · 19/01/2024 16:45

horseyhorsey17 · 19/01/2024 15:18

This is hilarious!

I know 😂. I had a friend who wrote plays and wrote for tv. He had a notebook with him at all times. When he heard stories like these he used to say “ Mind if I write that down? “ He explained that writers rarely have to make things up. 🌺

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 16:47

Moier · 16/01/2024 15:01

It's more hygenic to keep toothbrushes in a drawer in the bathroom.. faeces germs can travel far.. so if no covers on toothbrushes it's the best place.

According to research by Dr. Maria Geisinger, professor of periodontology at the University of Alabama School of Dentistry, 60% of toothbrushes left in the bathroom contain faecal matter and bacteria dangerous to human health such as Serratia, Escherichia coli, Giardia, Salmonellosis, just to name a few.

WHY don't people just put the lid down?

No-one in my family inc DC and DGC ever leave the lid up

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:20

Hayley0203 · 16/01/2024 15:16

Okay what is going on with the tea break thing? So many posters have said this now, it must have come from somewhere?! A school tradition back in the day maybe?

My mum always stopped for elevenses back in the 50s/60s. And that's the time friends would be round too

Milky coffee and ginger biscuits. Yum

If you think people would be up at the crack of dawn, that would be the break between breakfast and lunch.

And tea at 4 would keep you going till dinner/supper

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:22

JadziaD · 16/01/2024 15:23

Tea breaks at set time was definitely a thing in offices back in the day I think. I worked in quite an old fashioned stock broking firm for a while 25 years ago - the tea lady came round with everyone's tea/coffee preference between 11:00-1130 and again between 1500-1530. She was the only person we got a temp in for when she was on holiday! Grin

Ditto in my dad's office, team time was sacrosanct.

similarly though, it would never have crossed my dad or any of his team's mind to make ac up of tea for themselves at 10:15....

Where I worked, you wouldn't have been allowed to!

ednclouda · 19/01/2024 17:24

When mil and fil visit

he wandered the lounge and kitchen electrc shaving his jaw and chin . wander wander wander I was mortified who does that ?

MILTOBE · 19/01/2024 17:24

I agree, @Nanny0gg - women in those days (who stayed at home) would have a physically tough day cleaning the house, washing the clothes, shopping for food (very few women had a car and very few houses had fridges) and cooking. They needed a sit down at 11 o'clock! And of course they didn't have the distractions we have now, where we might sit down for five minutes to check social media and realise an hour has passed.

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:26

sugarapplelane · 16/01/2024 15:27

My MIL has to do her laundry on a Monday come rain or shine. It may be blazing sunshine on Tuesday or Wednesday so she could get it all dry outside, but no - everything has to be done on a Monday. She won’t ever make other plans on a Monday as it’s wash day.
I find this so restrictive, but I guess it gives her comfort.
I have always suspected there are other things at play with MIL - neurodiversity - as the ND traits are strong in her, my DH, my SIL and the younger generation of the family also

How old is she?

Monday was always washday back in the dark ages

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:30

HarlaEB · 16/01/2024 15:42

This shouldn't be about the weird things in-laws do ( or weird things DIL/SIL does) families are all different. Accept it.

But it's fascinating!

And on the whole, light-hearted!

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:33

BedForTheWin · 16/01/2024 16:00

My long haired teens / young adults will shower with their hair in a cap and then wash their hair separately. Apparently they don't like the feel of the hair products/ wet hair on their backs and the hair becomes heavy

My DD is the same. She has autism and it's definitely sensory related.

I could write a book about the odd quirks of my family and in-laws. I think some of them have a common theme which is generational, ones like the hot plates thing. That's definitely an older generation one. So is hoarding stuff like loo rolls and tinned goods - lots of people who grew up in poverty do this. And I know my own DC find some stuff I do odd, but most people my age would find it pretty normal.

My own DMs weirdest one is that she insists on calling me & DH Mummy & Daddy. Which is cringe enough but when my DB and his wife are there too, they're also Mummy and Daddy so it's bloody confusing as well as weird. My DC haven't called us Mummy and Daddy for years so it's not even for their benefit, and often they're not even in the room when she says it.

My friend and her sister call each other 'Auntie' even when their (adult) DC aren't around!

KRToo · 19/01/2024 17:35

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Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:38

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 16/01/2024 16:28

Oh! We do this. Because we love each other and enjoy each others company.

Didn't realise there'd be people bothering to judge us about it.

I thought more of an observation than a judgement?

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 19/01/2024 17:56

My Dad only talks about the local council and, bizarrely, Donald Trump. He can expertly weave them into any conversation. Sometimes even together.

ednclouda · 19/01/2024 18:16

A gravy one Mil made a big show at sunday lunch of granules and boiling water in a plastic jug stirred and stirred and then poured over your lunch tada.....

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 18:20

Ivesaidenough · 16/01/2024 18:06

PIL wait for toast to go cold before buttering.

My stepmother did that. Had to be Lurpack

And actually, it's delicious!

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 18:24

CurlewKate · 16/01/2024 18:31

@Echobelly "My MIL cannot bear it if everyone doesn't leave their knife and fork at exactly 6.30 on the plate when they're finished eating"

Neither can I! I bet she likes the fork with the tines facing up and the blade of the knife with the "sharp" side facing into the fork.

As it should be!

One day my DGC will get it...

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 19:08

LuluBlakey1 · 16/01/2024 18:36

Everything stops for coffee at 10.45am. Mil makes it with hot milk, heated in a pan. They and DH's grandma all have a coffee in the sitting room with a rich tea or digestive biscuit. Lunch is at 1pm.

FIL collects the rubber bands the postman drops and makes them into rubber band balls which line a shelf in his workroom in the garage. No idea why.

Waste not, want not!

Loubilou23 · 19/01/2024 19:15

Have milk on puddings/desserts

StockpotSoup · 19/01/2024 19:36

Nanny0gg · 19/01/2024 17:33

My friend and her sister call each other 'Auntie' even when their (adult) DC aren't around!

Not quite the same, but my grandmother always referred to her neighbour and best friend of 50 years standing as “Mrs Wilson”. I think she did use her first name to her face, but she would never have referred to her by it when talking to my dad. I remember her telling him “poor Mrs Wilson is in hospital” once, even though he’d have been over 60 by then and could probably have coped with hearing her first name 😁

Utterknowitall · 19/01/2024 19:42

Ilovecleaning · 19/01/2024 15:03

My ex & late MIL was very entitled, became indignant at the slightest provocation. Brought up quite well-to-do but came down in the world. Think Lady Violet Grantham (Maggie Smith ). Her doctor advised cutting down her alcohol consumption a little. She was furious! And she told him. I paraphrase what she said to me:
‘ Drink? Drink! I don’t DRINK! When I get up I have my usual tiny whisky in my tea. I do all my housework in the morning and I like to have a glass of cider while I do it. Before lunch I have a small sherry; with lunch I have wine. Before dinner I have sherry and wine with dinner. I mean, who DOESN’T have wine with meals? ( snort) . After dinner we always have liqueurs with coffee. Before bed I have a small brandy. Drink? How dare he? I don’t drink.’
I SWEAR this is true. When she told me I screwed my face up to look sympathetic but I was dying to laugh. I couldn’t believe my ears.

Lol! In her opinion maybe drinkers only drink on a park bench and from a brown paper bag

Ilovecleaning · 19/01/2024 20:14

Yep. She was absolutely bloody nuts. 😂.