Keep out of it or send message?

[Wheredidchristmasgo]

Probably keep out of it but here goes...

DS15 noticed a cafe opening near us and messaged them via my Instagram (he doesn't really do social media) to ask them if they had any vacancies once open (very politely, he as asked me check it), they messaged back with a really enthusiastic email to say they'd love to meet him when they were a bit more organised. A little bit of time went past and he emailed them again and they replied again to say they definitely wanted to see him and they'd be in touch soon. Another couple of months went past and he heard nothing so I had a chat with him explaining these things sometimes happen, disappointing and annoying as they are.

Then about a month ago they emailed to say they were close to opening, would like to meet him and asked for his availability. He was really pleased and emailed them back and then no reply from them and we walked past the cafe yesterday and it's now open and obviously fully staffed. DS was gutted when he saw it.

Now, as an adult I totally understand that being ghosted professionally is an annoying fact of life but I think it's crappy to do it to a child and was also totally unnecessary to contact him again to ask her to come in and then ignore his replies. I am really tempted to message them to tell them, in a calm and tactful way, just this as it's really knocked his confidence and he thinks she's done something wrong.

So, wise mums netters - leave it or send them a message?

Oh, and asked him to come in. When he replied (to sort out a date/time to go in I imagine) they then didn’t get back to him. Most organised places will have interviewed well before opening and will have all shifts sorted.

Anyway, tge OP has quite rightly signed off, so this is all moot.

It may have been that

1. they didn't get his email replying about his availability and / or it got lost in a pile of correspondence to do with the setting up of the new business
2. They may not have realised that 15 year olds are extremely limited in what they are allowed to work until they came to considering the applications, but have kept his name on file ( but they could have let him know)
3. Maybe he didn't reply to their email to him quickly enough and they already had enough applicants from the people who replied before him
4. I'm not clear when they asked about his availability whether they wanted to know when he could come in for an interview - or whether they wanted to know what hours etc he would be able to work? Is it possible he misunderstood what the last email was asking/telling him and he was just supposed to pop in and see them in the lead up? That might be why he's heard nothing else

So many different reasons, really. I think if he really wants/wanted a job there he should STILL just pop in and introduce himself. But others are right - you need to leave it up to him

i’ll take a punt the Op doesn’t permit him his own SM account

if your son is this upset about this…. what on earth is he going to be like during the many times in life things don’t work out how we would like them to?