What absolutely ridiculous and inconsequential things have put you off a partner?

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I don't mean completely acceptable reasons like poor hygiene, lying, flakiness etc. I mean things that the poor other person could not possibly have anticipated would mean the end of their relationship.

For me it was many years ago when I finally finally got together with a lad I'd had a crush on for about 3 years. About 2 months after we started seeing each other he invited me to his house. Which is where he committed the unforgivable sin of picking up a broom and sweeping the kitchen floor.

That was it. 3 years of obsessing over him and, just like that, a bloody sweeping brush came between us.

First date - he asked my star sign, then proceeded to inform me our signs are extremely incompatible. No shit.

I went away with a guy for the weekend, we had dated but not had sex, the hotel he booked had a bath in the bedroom so no privacy. Really put me off.

His surname rhymed with my first name. Couldn't contemplate marrying him and being called (for example) Helen Fellen.

We'd only had 4 dates at the time, no-where near the marrying stage!

• Never wore a jumper or coat in winter, just a t-shirt.
• wore a gold chain.
• had never eaten curry and never wanted to
• exaggerated my accent
• didn't drink hot drinks

Different men, but all non starters.

I was in the 6th Form and he was a year below. I was known back then for being very petite and having small hands. His wrists were thinner than mine - it was such a turn off.

He’s a well known and respected surgeon now. Hey ho.

He thought he was Jamiroqui. He was 6ft 3 and actually looked like Dean Gaffney bouncing around the dance floor doing Jamiroqui moves then finger snapping at his own moves. Everyone was laughing at him but he thought it was approbation. I was horrified.

On Line Dating he didn’t look like his attractive 40 something pictures… he had liver spots which was awful enough but then he bombarded me with embarrassing poetry.

My friend had one who called her a “sexy crocodile”. WTF!

The second one I have had to train out of my DH. The first time he did it, I cut him off & just said he'll have the cod I'll have the chicken. He was totally oblivious, had rarely been in a restaurant. I always say his parents didn't socialise him properly as a puppy😂. They literally never went out anywhere, never even on holiday. Now married 40 years.
Did have a date as a late teen, with 20 something chap, who clicked his fingers at the waiter & was snippy with the staff. that was me done. Was the 80s & he thought he was IT. Armani suit & fake Rolex. I ended up 'accidentally on purpose' spilling soup on his lap & left. 😂😂

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With my examples, they definitely weren’t the only things and I’m sure this applies to the vast majority of posters. After all, most of us know how bloody impossible it can feel to find a nice man or woman worth settling down with so I’m not sure one little thing would put us off an otherwise kind/thoughtful/interesting/funny/beautiful etc person! I’m sure in most cases there’s was simply a lack of spark or something - which is important to have imo - and one little moment (narrated here) highlighted it or was the icing on the cake. I’ve had relationships fizzling out where something seemingly insignificant has sealed the deal for me. Sure this is the case for many…

I just see this thread as a bit of lighthearted fun. I don’t like the examples where there’s something like a speech impediment though but the vast majority have made me laugh and it’s been a nice distraction from January and some family worries.

I met a slightly younger guy online, I was 30 him roughly 25. We were arranging our first meet and he tried adding me to fb. So I had a look... there was videos of him playing with action men. Like wtf!🫡
And yes I told him why😬

Exactly! Some people are just weird and it’s not 90% of the men they ‘dated’! Says more about them than it does the men tbh.

Id absolutely find it hilarious if any of them have been turned down by a man they really fancied for such silly petty reasons!

I wouldn't end a friendship over these things no but then again I don't really go down on my friends or snog them. Once you have the ick that's it, you just can't get intimate with someone IME and why should we? There is nothing mean girl about it, we aren't handmaidens you know.

I discovered that his actual name was RODNEY!

Went to a diner and he told the server he was allergic to something just so she wouldn’t put it on. I got irrationally angry that he’d put the staff through worrying that there definitely was none of that food around

Gold chain. No.

I’m going to introduce a positive note and say one thing that might have put others off but actually delighted me was that my partner decided he was stuck on an armchair (we were both on it and he’s of the larger persuasion so it was a bit cramped) so without saying anything he just forward rolled off it and then proceeded to sideways roll across to the door at which point he just got on with his day. Most hilarious thing I’ve ever seen and cemented my affection for him! He’d piss a lot of you off tbh but all the more for me :)

Booo.

Oh gosh, this didn’t make me end the relationship but my first boyfriend treated me fairly badly. Despite actually beginning the relationship with what was technically and legally sexual assault (non-penetrative sex started when I was asleep, which was my first ever sexual experience) he wouldn’t let me kneel down to give blow jobs because apparently it was demeaning to women. I mean, if you say so!

Went to a restaurant, nipped to the loo. When I got back to my seat, he'd finished my food

I remembered another one from a different guy. We’d gone for a walk in a park in summer and he asked me if I wanted some “ginger”. That gave me the ick. Ginger is used in some parts of Scotland for fizzy juice. If he’d asked me if I wanted a drink fine but “ginger” no, just no.

This thread has made me laugh so much. Great pick me up. 😂

I was in two minds anyway, but when he wore a waistcoat to the pub that looked like he stole it from a pan pipe player, I couldn't carry on with him.

@scoobadydawoo Did you actually read the thread title? It clearly says "ridiculous and inconsequential" things so people are admitting they know many of the reasons are stupid. Admittedly a few are not inconsequential but most really are. Humans can't explain the 'chemistry' thing in attraction, so these examples are just demonstrating that really.

As for mine, a date in a restaurant, who cut up his food on his plate into chunks then swapped fork to other hand and ate the lot stabbing at the pieces. Even did it to the side salad.