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What absolutely ridiculous and inconsequential things have put you off a partner?

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InstrumentsofTorture · 03/01/2024 17:34

I don't mean completely acceptable reasons like poor hygiene, lying, flakiness etc. I mean things that the poor other person could not possibly have anticipated would mean the end of their relationship.

For me it was many years ago when I finally finally got together with a lad I'd had a crush on for about 3 years. About 2 months after we started seeing each other he invited me to his house. Which is where he committed the unforgivable sin of picking up a broom and sweeping the kitchen floor.

That was it. 3 years of obsessing over him and, just like that, a bloody sweeping brush came between us.

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Maireas · 04/01/2024 13:17

He wrote that he needed to "loose weight" .
No, no, no..

user14699084787 · 04/01/2024 13:21

12menandtrue · 03/01/2024 17:45

He was wearing socks with sandals. He had to go.

Agree! But…socks and crocs seem to be all the rage with the teenagers. Took DS to a trendy barbers yesterday and there were no less than 3 specimens dressed like it. Awful!

HoldMeCloserTonyDancer · 04/01/2024 13:22

theDudesmummy · 03/01/2024 17:49

He wore a baby blue cardigan to a smart London restaurant.

Was that the cardigan with the big wooden buttons like a toddler?

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cosylife · 04/01/2024 13:22

When I was younger had a crush on this lad for a year. Got together with him when we were in our early 20s, went back to spend the night at his house and his bedroom walls were covered in topless model posters from the magazine Nuts.

There was also a photo of him and his ex in a frame even though she’d moved on with another bloke.

I was a twat and broke up with him next day via text 😂

Rangelife · 04/01/2024 13:27

I am ridiculous with what gives me the ick, I have had a fair few love interests in my life and got the ick so many times, my Dad said he is surprised that I have now got a husband who has stuck Grin

One lad used Lipbalm stick when we were on the bus - nope
I fell hard for a highly inappropriate younger guy after my divorce until I went to his house and realised he only had 5 items of clothing
A man I was seeing sent me a valentines card and signed it from him and his dog with a drawn paw print from his dog
I got the ick from one who used to close his eyes when answering a question

I just could not swap bodily fluids with these people ever again.

Neighbourscrooge · 04/01/2024 13:30

Dyed his hair black to hide the grey but used a very cheap brand so it always had a weird deep red tinge

On holiday kept his passport in one of those faux leather Holders with Passport written on it in gold

Went to his 80 year old mums every night for dinner and to drop off his laundry

So tight he turned his fridge off to save on electricity so never had food in the house

Farted as he walked and used to laugh to cover it up

Found out his shoes were built up so when he took them off he lost about 4 inches in height

Lemonyyy · 04/01/2024 13:31

He sweated too much when we went dancing together 😩

This is ridiculous because I also sweat like a beast, but I couldn't get past it!

Supermomnot22 · 04/01/2024 13:31

I couldn't get past the black shoes with buckles he was wearing on our 2nd date when we met for drinks after work.

Gawdimold · 04/01/2024 13:32

I was dumped for being a vegetarian! He couldn’t handle it

HoldMeCloserTonyDancer · 04/01/2024 13:33

Neighbourscrooge · 04/01/2024 13:30

Dyed his hair black to hide the grey but used a very cheap brand so it always had a weird deep red tinge

On holiday kept his passport in one of those faux leather Holders with Passport written on it in gold

Went to his 80 year old mums every night for dinner and to drop off his laundry

So tight he turned his fridge off to save on electricity so never had food in the house

Farted as he walked and used to laugh to cover it up

Found out his shoes were built up so when he took them off he lost about 4 inches in height

I’m crying laughing 🤣🤣🤣

Contraryjane · 04/01/2024 13:33

Telling me I should indicate at a roundabout even when no other cars around. He was probably right, but a. He didn’t drive and b. we were engaged.
i just thought, I can’t bear forty years of this.

Namechange9876543210 · 04/01/2024 13:36

Early 20s and he drank alcopops.

honeyytoast · 04/01/2024 13:37

He didn’t know where Norfolk was. Referred to it as up north (we were in the midlands)

MissAmbrosia · 04/01/2024 13:37

Picked me up for a date wearing red trousers. He was French and quite attractive but strangely they put me right off him.

Somatosensational · 04/01/2024 13:38

He listened to psytrance

WhereYouLeftIt · 04/01/2024 13:38

First date. He ordered a pina colada and pineapple juice - for himself.

NiceUnusualDifferent · 04/01/2024 13:39

Had a voice like Wallace from Wallace and gromit

Somatosensational · 04/01/2024 13:40

Ooh another. Asked me if I'd like to come back to his house to meet his rats. I also didn't like his trousers.

Hatenewyear · 04/01/2024 13:41

He had a made up secretary so that he'd look important. She didn't exist even though she had her own email address, it was all him.

Weird freak!

GrumpySausage · 04/01/2024 13:41

Buffypaws · 04/01/2024 13:11

On the train to see him, five hour trip. He texts me saying he was considering making me “paster and some kind of sorce”.

Oh god oh god did you immediately reply 'you're dumped'

WormHoleInSpace · 04/01/2024 13:41

@alltoomuchrightnow
Dick was also very very long and very thin and had a mole right on the end, so it looked like an unsharpened pencil
I don't think I will ever look at a pencil in quite the same way as I use to 😂

Tina49 · 04/01/2024 13:42

Referred to my breasts as, er, breasts. As in “God, I love your breasts!” I was at university at the time and I couldn’t deal with this level of maturity and appreciation clearly.

I wish my husband said this now, post kids. 😂

StarlightLady · 04/01/2024 13:44

Ridiculous although not inconsequential to me. I was with a chap way back who objected to me going topless at the beach. That was a red flag to me, demonstrating insecurity and a controlling attitude. I still go topless at the beach but he has long gone.

Somatosensational · 04/01/2024 13:44

Tina49 · 04/01/2024 13:42

Referred to my breasts as, er, breasts. As in “God, I love your breasts!” I was at university at the time and I couldn’t deal with this level of maturity and appreciation clearly.

I wish my husband said this now, post kids. 😂

An instant ick for me is t*ts. I can't even type it. Horrible word.

Tina49 · 04/01/2024 13:46

Somatosensational · 04/01/2024 13:44

An instant ick for me is t*ts. I can't even type it. Horrible word.

I feel exactly the same! So even more unfair on my part. I think I would have been fine with ‘boobs’ at 19 but not now - breasts now.

Poor guy…

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