I seem to have got myself into a difficult situation and would appreciate some honest advice please.
I'm a divorced mum of two.
I met a man, through work not at work. We chatted, flirted a bit. There was chemistry, it was nice. At some stage we had cause to exchange numbers due to a work project. We flirted some more over texts. It went on for a while, slowly, nicely.
Recently it escalated into him writing about what he wanted us to do to each other, that kind of thing and he sent pictures.
The next time we met in person, I asked him directly what his relationship situation was and he told me he was living with a woman but there was nothing between them physically at all.
So, that's a shame. I'm not falling for that. He wasn't single so that is where it stopped. I was disappointed because I'd gotten my hopes up but there we are.
I still see him around work from time to time but we don't really talk and there are no more messages.
I did a little Facebook stalking (I know!). I found his partner.
She has done a lot of posting about how desperately she has wanted to have children. She posted that her partner has chosen to put an end to the baby making thing. She posted that she has made the most difficult decision of her life but has chosen the man she loves over the baby she wants.
So now I feel rubbish. She doesn't deserve this. But I don't want to be the one to tell her. I don't know her.
And if I do tell her he will know it is me and I will still have to see him at work.
Do I take the view that their relationship is none of my business and get on with looking the other way? Or do I give her a heads up that she has maybe made the wrong choice and she has a chance to get out before she regrets it forever?
How do I know that they don't have another wonderful few decades together? I could destroy a relationship for nothing.
What would you do?