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Handhold please, Husband been admitted to A&E

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:19

Hi all you lovely ladies

Never thought I would do one on these post.

The past couple of months my DH has been getting headaches and a couple of weeks ago he had a bit of a funny turn at work where his vision went. He went to the GP and they advised that he booked an Optitions appointment.

He went on Sunday and saw that he had some burst caperillies so they said that it could be down to stress from his new role as he is a team lead in IT, high blood pressure or diabetes as both run in his family. They said that they will refer him for a blood test at our local hospital.

He had a phone call from them this morning asking him to come into the eye clinic this afternoon and I had to take him as they might have to dilatate his eyes

He got seen after waiting ages were they did blood pressure, blood tests, put the dye in his eyes and then did a scan. They said that his blood pressure was high so repeated the blood pressure and then sent him to A&E where they gave him some medication. They have now admitted him, hopefully just over night, so that they can do a CT scan and X-ray and possibly put him on a drip.

He said his blood pressure was over 200! Apart from the recent headaches he has had no other signs that it was high. I have just had to take some stuff up for him like phone charger clean pants and socks for the morning and take our two DS one age 9 and 4as well as had no one to look after them for the 30mins. Our eldest suffers with anxiety so this has not helped him as i know that he is going to be worrying about it.

Am sat downstairs trying to worry about it myself as I know that if I show signs of worry our DS's will also pick up on it. I have put them both to bed as it was past their bedtime by time we got back

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LightSwerve · 02/01/2024 21:22

Oh so worrying Flowers

I am glad to hear he is admitted and getting investigated.

You'll be able to chat here I'm sure if it helps keep you sane.

determinedtomakethiswork · 02/01/2024 21:23

Oh that is a worry. The thing to remember is that he is in the best possible place and if he was at home he would be more risk. I hope your children are okay and that you can relax. They will contact you from the hospital if they need you so try to get some rest now. I really hope you get good news tomorrow. 💐

Mum2jenny · 02/01/2024 21:26

Sorry for your situation, just keep going minute by minute.
My dh was admitted via a&e and aicu so please take care of yourself. I know how hard it can be, but it really is as simple as one step in front of the other( sounds fucking twee, but it’s what I had to do)

Elderflower14 · 02/01/2024 21:28

Sending a huge hug and a handhold... ♥

minipie · 02/01/2024 21:30

Handhold here too. It must be so worrying for you but it’s really good it’s been picked up and is being investigated before anything worse happened. Hope there is some reassurance for you soon.

KeepTrying0 · 02/01/2024 21:30

Hi Buffy81,

Well done for managing there and for being so calm for your DC. You are doing a brilliant job.

My DH had to go to A&E for a visit a couple of years ago and he seemed suddenly so extremely far away, it was very strange. It was okay though and he was back so fast that it wasn't even the next morning. He was in a taxi and home and having another dinner and shower and everything was good again.

Take care of yourself there, and do keep talking if you would like the company. It will all be good again soon. Flowers

Vallmo47 · 02/01/2024 21:33

Was in similar shoes recently and just wanted to wish your husband a speedy recovery.

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:34

Am also sitting here debating if I should go to work, where I know that I could leave at anytime if I need to as team I work with are very understanding as I know that I am better keeping busy rather than sitting at home or the busy A&E or ward that he gets moved to. It also wont help that from tomorrow its the Jnr Dr Strikes starting up again.

Feel torn on what to do for the best without feeling guilty. I was meant to be back at work myself today, but ended up having to make a GP for me as had pain in the early hours all of a sudden

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AdoraBell · 02/01/2024 21:35

Fingers crossed for you OP

Motherofasmallpony · 02/01/2024 21:37

Try not to worry OP. Hypotension can happen for all sorts of reasons. A ‘normal’ top number should be around 140. I have hypotension and mine was 260 once but without medication mine averages around 180. I’m on medication now and it stays nice and low most of the time.
It is probably mostly precautionary. They do take blood pressure quite seriously.
The thing is you can’t really do anything to change things while you don’t know so trying to be mindful will be the best way forward for you and the children for now and until you know more. Hope he’s okay X

2chocolateoranges · 02/01/2024 21:37

Sounds quite worrying but hopefully an overnight stay will enable staff to find out what’s going on to get him back to his own self.

please try and get some sleep tonight, take care of yourself

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:37

Thank you so far.

I know that I should be also trying to get some sleep myself as I have been awake since the very ealry hours, but the bed will feel so big

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Mum2jenny · 02/01/2024 21:37

I always find I’m better at work than sitting at home worrying as long as I can be contacted by phone if required.

ElderMillenials · 02/01/2024 21:39

I'm so sorry OP. It's so difficult, my dh was in hospital a few months ago after collapsing at home and as PP said he suddenly felt so far away. My DC are similar in age to yours and my 8yo is quite an anxious child so being woken up by paramedics in the house was difficult (and then the 2 weeks he was in hospital having tests and surgery). I find it best to be honest as knowing more seems to help the anxiety, for this I explained what was happening in an age appropriate way and gave any updates as I could/answer any questions.

Your DH is in the best place, and much better to catch these things and treat them as early as possible. My mum has had a hypertensive crisis and once the medications had it under control she has done really well.
Good luck and I hope you have DH back home and well soon

Patriciaspantry · 02/01/2024 21:41

I’m so sorry about your dh op it must be really worrying for you, especially when you are on your own with two young dc.

It’s good in a way though that they discovered your dh had high no, especially if there were no other symptoms, as you don’t want that going on for too long undiscovered. He’s in the best place op and although it’s scary now, you will find you wil be less worried when you have more information, hopefully tomorrow.

Try and rest in the meantime and make sure you keep hydrated and eat some toast if you haven’t had dinner. Hope your dh recovers soon.

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:42

He has jus messaged to say that he is still waiting for a bed. A&E was heaving when we dropped his bits off that he wanted - a book, his phone charger and 3ds with clean pants, socks and deodorant

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BCBird · 02/01/2024 21:44

Hand hold OP. He is in the right place. I would take kids to school and go to work as normal. Explain your husband why. Explain yo whoever at work that you need to have ur fone on and may need to leave of your husband needs u.

Mariposistaa · 02/01/2024 21:46

He is in the right place and hopefully they will get to the bottom of it. If the kids aren’t back at school yet can you organize a playdate for them tomorrow with a friend so you can support him.

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:47

@ElderMillenials I have tried to explain to as best I can by saying that they just want to do some more tests and he was worrying about how he would get home tomorrow. Explained that we will sort that out tomorrow or whatever day it will be.

I will let his school know as well as he struggles with things as he has ADHD, dyslexia, bladder issues and we are waiting for an ASD appointment as well so sometimes he can be very hard work. My youngest was asking when we were going to be picking him up and all I could say was I don't know then that's when I got the message to say that they are keeping him in overnight'

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:49

@Mariposistaa my eldest went back to school today and my youngest goes back tomorrow as it was inset day for them. They broke up on the 15th Dec for Christmas where we live

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:52

@BCBird In the office we always have our phones out. We are pretty relaxed about that as we all have family stuff going on.
I work for the NHS in a admin office so no need to worry about patients seeing me and thinking that I am not working

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itsrainingirsraining · 02/01/2024 21:54

Handhold here... it's positive that blood pressure has now been picked up and can now be managed.

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:55

He just sent another update to say that he has had the chest x-ray done and been given another two tablets and waiting for another blood pressure test to be done. Not sure when the CT will be done, but that will be for the head.
They also mentioned to him about the Jnr Dr strike starting tomorrow

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ParsnipAndPoppy · 02/01/2024 21:57

He’s in the right place, I can’t believe he was fobbed off with an eye test and they didn’t even check his BP??

Also, even though there is a strike my understanding is that there still has to be an adequate level of emergency coverage so it’s more likely to be routine / scheduled procedures and appointments affected. Hopefully this means that he still gets the care he needs. Good luck

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Buffy81 · 02/01/2024 21:58

@Motherofasmallpony Wow that was high. Did they ever find out what caused it If you don't mind me asking?

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