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What else helped your depression besides antidepressants?

55 replies

bookworm1982 · 02/01/2024 13:45

Meditation? Self help books? Exercise? Looking for tips Smile

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OneLollipop · 02/01/2024 14:01

You can self refer for NHS Talking Therapies, CBT is very effective for depression 🙂

HoneyButterPopcorn · 02/01/2024 14:02

Baking. Reading certain books (old ones that are just comfortable to read), gardening.

MirandaWest · 02/01/2024 14:03

Running helps me. Generally being outside.

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imho99 · 02/01/2024 14:04

Exercise. Lifting weights in particular. I never thought I’d enjoy exercising, but it kept me sane the whole of 2023.

Leafpicker2000 · 02/01/2024 14:04

Getting a job after being at home for years.

coffeestrongblacknosugar · 02/01/2024 14:04

MIND charity, medication, exercise, and learning how to deal with certain situations better. Turns out I wasn't depressed, it was trauma and suffered PTSD.

RedRosesPinkLilies · 02/01/2024 14:06

I did an online CBT course - which I didn’t hold out much hope for. But it wasn’t that bad - a few years ago now
What I do remember from it was assessing my mood at various times - what actually made me feel better or worse. Scale of 1-10
Lead me to realise that a ‘friend’ wasn’t a real friend - all she did was bitch about people - and that lowered my mood - so I stopped seeing her. My internal scale dropped a few points after spending time with her. Never regretted that

Exercise and or fresh air/ sunlight also help.

UptoYou · 02/01/2024 14:06

Exercise, especially running or cardio. Therapy. Good nutrition inc good quality supplements. Sleep. Sounds counter productive but being around people (just a simple chat or catch up)
Avoid alcohol and limit carbs
Try to prioritise your needs (hardest one of all)

But no 1 - exercise!

Mintygoodness · 02/01/2024 14:08

Exercise, especially weight training, swimming and hiking.
Studies have shown it to be equally as successful in helping with depression as antidepressants.

Getting on a consistent sleep schedule, going to bed and getting up at the same time 7 days a week. It can help prevent the under or over sleeping that can happen with mood disorders. Read "Why We Sleep" which explains how a regular sleep schedule can prevent and help with depression, and why sleep is so important for mental health.

sagalooshoe · 02/01/2024 14:09

watching comedies
hugs from children, family, friends
staying in touch with friends
becoming unbusy
saying no and not trying to fit everything in
decluttering slowly

Sausagedognamedmash · 02/01/2024 14:09

Time for myself. I have 2 small children, work full time, as does DH and finding time for myself was a game changer. I don't have much. 2 hours of a Wednesday after work. Sometimes I go to the gym, sometimes I nip to the pub, sometimes I sit in a coffee shop with a book, depends on my mood, but those 2 hours reset me for a couple of days. I intend to organise my life a little more to carve out more time this year as it really does make a difference to the way I feel.

Lemonfoxtrot · 02/01/2024 14:09

100% exercise. Running is especially good for me.

Sheldoncoopersspot · 02/01/2024 14:13

Just taking small self care steps even if one day it was drinking 2ltrs of water i saw that as a win for me.
Putting my phone down and picking up a comforting book.
Taking a hot shower and having a good cry.
These all helped me.

RidingMyBike · 02/01/2024 14:14

Counselling (had to pay privately) to get to grips with what had caused it. This took a while.
Structure to the day so I never had to think of a whole day at once (too overwhelming) but instead just getting through the next hour.
Getting outside into fresh air and sunlight to get some exercise.
Easy read novels.

upinaballoon · 02/01/2024 14:15

Dipping into three books about depression. Writing out anger with a pen and paper, but it serves for any emotion. Agreeing with doctor that you will stay on the antidepressants for a while and not try to get off them too soon and will agree with doc on the gradual coming off of them. When I wanted to come off them a locum told me to stick with what the doc and I had agreed i.e. stay on through the winter, and he told me that if they let people off too quickly they tended to dip again. I got 6 counselling sessions on the NHS and paid for a few more privately. Nothing startling happened but afterwards I realised that I had learned several very useful things from those sessions, and from the books.

Uppitywoman · 02/01/2024 14:16

Mindfulness without a doubt. I practised it every single day and I still do.

Namechange4448830938489 · 02/01/2024 14:18

An in person group mindfulness course and meeting a kind and understanding man. A couple of sessions of hypnotherapy CBT.

tobee · 02/01/2024 14:22

Self help books; cbt ones particularly. They helped me feel more in control.

Mintygoodness · 02/01/2024 14:25

Also, although this can be difficult to do with depression, get outside in natural light as soon as possible after waking up. Of course it's dark this time of year until later in the morning but once it's light (even if it's cloudy or raining) get outside and look toward where the sun is rising (not directly at it of course!). Natural light resets our master biological clock the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN) and helps all our many other body systems which all respond to the 24 hr solar day.

A walk in natural light as soon as possible would be perfect, but even being outside for 5 minutes with a cup of tea will do the trick.
Looking out of a window doesn't have the same effect biologically. You have to be in natural light so the blue rays of daylight hit the cells at the back of the eyes that link to the master clock in the brain.

Regular schedules massively help your body in every way, and help you sleep better and more regularly - all of which help your mental health.

https://www.thensf.org/what-is-a-circadian-rhythm/

Understanding Circadian Rhythms - National Sleep Foundation

Have you ever wondered, "What is a Circadian Rhythm?" In this article, we explain what they are and how they affect your sleep.

https://www.thensf.org/what-is-a-circadian-rhythm

Biffatcrafts · 02/01/2024 14:27

I stopped watching all soaps ( I had watched Corrie, EastEnders, Emerdale, etc for years) but realised all that toxic made up drama (on top of my own ongoing traumas) was really affecting me. I also stopped watching or reading the news apart from just enough to keep myself abreast of what was going on but without getting sucked in to the horrible detail. Stopped watching sad/traumatic/bloody/war based/horror thriller type films and watched happy films - especially kids animated films. Also cut several passive aggressive and toxic people out of my life and had a very intense but very effective 6 months of private therapy. It all made a huge difference and I finally found my way out of my deep depression after about 5 months.

Pinksmyfavoritecolour · 02/01/2024 14:35

Playing music, wherever I am I have it on in background, realised I'm not good with too much quiet,and I put my ear pods in if I'm anxious but need to go round supermarket etc.
and taking up knitting again.
And full moon sound ceremonies each month.

Uol2022 · 02/01/2024 14:39

It depends a lot where the depression is coming from. Negative self talk and unhelpful core beliefs can be helped with therapy, and if there’s past trauma then I’d imagine talking therapy is more or less essential to move forward.

If depression is resulting from grief or other sense of loss I think you need to go through the feelings, face them and name them and give them space and cry a lot and let your natural healing processes do their job.

If the depression is coming from an unhealthy relationship or something like that then obviously leaving that situation is the most important thing, trying to cope with it will likely intensify the sense of powerlessness and make everything worse.

For general low mood it seems important to sort out the basics like consistent sleep schedule and generally good sleep hygiene, no or very little alcohol, eat ‘real’ food as much as possible, get outside every day, exercise, have a routine including checking in with other people daily, keep a tidy living space.

Usually low stakes socialising with gently happy people helps. Being outside, especially if it’s sunny. Small interactions with strangers can make the world in general seem a bit less scary. Mindfulness to stop looping thoughts and to practice gratitude and noticing positives.

I think a lot of depression comes with a sense of disconnection, I don’t matter, I’m not good enough. Sometimes helping others can give a sense of self worth. But other times the depression results from not having our own needs met for too long, and then I’m not sure even more focus on other people would be beneficial. Maybe reframed as impact and something to have pride in.

In the short term I’ve been able to get out of acute anxious / depressive episodes by just sort of deciding to, and I can manage symptoms by playing little tricks on myself like just do one easy thing to get myself into doing some work or let’s imagine the nicest thing this person could possibly think about me if I have to go into a meeting or social situation that feels difficult. I suppose it’s all a form of masking. Can be useful to break out of a really bad spell but mostly not a long term fix.

Allwelcone · 02/01/2024 14:40

A yoga class has helped me a lot.
Reading fiction which helps me relate to life.

Drinking less, or at least being able to discern when the negative self -talk is just a hangover.

Does anyone think what you eat is important

YogaLite · 02/01/2024 14:41

Vitamin D
Long walks, trail walking in particular
Being outdoors - I expect that's related to vit D

LaBellina · 02/01/2024 14:45

Going for walks

therapy

talks with lovely understanding friends

eating well and getting enough sleep

quit smoking