Broken up but he won’t leave.

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i have finally called it quits with DH after years of difficult behaviour. He is however refusing to leave and is currently sleeping on the sofa. We rent and both names are on the tenancy. I have no money to move out and he has cleared the joint account. No family nearby and two DDs to think of, one with ASD who will not cope with leaving here even if we had somewhere to go.

what the hell can I do in this situation? I’m trapped! He is saying I need to take over half the rent and bills. I’ve been home with both children the last two years and have no income. Can’t claim benefits unless he leaves, what the hell can I do?!

I’d call women's aid for advice

Call the council x

Hi op from my understanding a lot of separated couples have to keep living together due to these reasons. It takes about 7 months and about £600 to get a divorce so I would push ahead with that. Once divorced but still cohabiting you should be able to claim what you need to be able to stay put if the landlord agrees to a housing benefit tenant. You need to come off the joint account and separate finances and ask him for 50% of the joint account back. You need to get a job and your own bank account. How old are the kids?

There are ways to continue living together while separated and claim universal credit

cpag.org.uk/welfare-rights/key-topics/survivors-domestic-abuse/separated-living-same-property

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I'm sure op has moved on by now....

You aren't trapped. If you are writing this then you already have taken the first steps to make clear what you want for yourself and your children. Just get up and go once you have sorted somewhere else to live.

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