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Mr X has died : who gets the house?

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MySecret21 · 26/12/2023 17:49

Just after some advice please…

If Mr X dies and he lives alone in a property that he owns (no mortgage) what happens to the house?

He has two children but they are both under 18 and live with their mother. Mr X and their mother were never married and separated over 10 years ago.

The only other family Mr X has is his dad.

As Mr X’s children are below 18, will the house go to his father instead?

There is no written will so everyone is just speculating as to who decides what to do with the house and who gets what.

Thank you.

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Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:10

Anyone else feeling a bit sad for mr x?

i hope OP isn’t the children’s mother. It all seems a bit mercenary

Porridgeinblankies · 26/12/2023 19:11

ArcaneWireless · 26/12/2023 18:50

Shame to see part of the estate being referred to as a ‘nice amount of money in the bank’.

Why? It was in reference to his financial position.
he's not in debt with a good amount of liquid assets. that's all it is.
If he had a fiver I'd probably suspect other financial obligations that the estate would need to cover, hence the house would have to be sold (liquidated) or the debts paid by beneficiaries in lieu.

@Bellyblueboy like it or not inheritance etc is a part of life. It's sad that Mr X has passed away, but it's the living that need looking after. Particularly the children that he fathered and who now have only one parent to look after them. Poor kids.

Would you rather it all go to the Crown, to enrich their already fat coffers?

https://www.co-oplegalservices.co.uk/media-centre/articles-sep-dec-2017/will-the-crown-get-my-assets-if-i-dont-leave-a-will/

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 26/12/2023 19:13

Iwantamarshmallowman · 26/12/2023 18:27

when my father died, everything went to his parents.

That shouldn’t have happened on intestacy rules if as above poster has said. You would have been able to challenge it.

Gitfeatures · 26/12/2023 19:14

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:10

Anyone else feeling a bit sad for mr x?

i hope OP isn’t the children’s mother. It all seems a bit mercenary

Sounds like she's already got her bags packed.

pizzaHeart · 26/12/2023 19:14

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:10

Anyone else feeling a bit sad for mr x?

i hope OP isn’t the children’s mother. It all seems a bit mercenary

Well, we don’t know the circumstances, it could be that mister X never paid any maintenance and was violent towards mother and children, just saying.

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:14

Porridgeinblankies · 26/12/2023 19:11

Why? It was in reference to his financial position.
he's not in debt with a good amount of liquid assets. that's all it is.
If he had a fiver I'd probably suspect other financial obligations that the estate would need to cover, hence the house would have to be sold (liquidated) or the debts paid by beneficiaries in lieu.

@Bellyblueboy like it or not inheritance etc is a part of life. It's sad that Mr X has passed away, but it's the living that need looking after. Particularly the children that he fathered and who now have only one parent to look after them. Poor kids.

Would you rather it all go to the Crown, to enrich their already fat coffers?

https://www.co-oplegalservices.co.uk/media-centre/articles-sep-dec-2017/will-the-crown-get-my-assets-if-i-dont-leave-a-will/

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This is in chat, not legal. So just chatting!

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 26/12/2023 19:15

Charlize43 · 26/12/2023 19:09

Hopefully Mr X will have left it to the Cat's Protection.

Why? The op is not the dc. Even if the dc mother that’s not the dcs fault

Porridgeinblankies · 26/12/2023 19:16

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 26/12/2023 19:15

Why? The op is not the dc. Even if the dc mother that’s not the dcs fault

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MN hates inheritance and anyone expecting any is grabby!

Never mind that the DC now have only one living parent. Do they not think the mother might struggle on her own and so hoping for some financial respite?

Strange responses from a site called 'MUMSnet'

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:16

pizzaHeart · 26/12/2023 19:14

Well, we don’t know the circumstances, it could be that mister X never paid any maintenance and was violent towards mother and children, just saying.

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Yep. I was just saying too😂. It’s okay to express a view on chat!

Porridgeinblankies · 26/12/2023 19:17

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:14

This is in chat, not legal. So just chatting!

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Well so am I. I feel sorry for the kids.
Why would I feel sorry for Mr X? He's dead. None of this has any bearing on him. He's in another place beyond all human suffering now.
Always it is the left behind who suffer.

OP my condolences.

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:20

Porridgeinblankies · 26/12/2023 19:17

Well so am I. I feel sorry for the kids.
Why would I feel sorry for Mr X? He's dead. None of this has any bearing on him. He's in another place beyond all human suffering now.
Always it is the left behind who suffer.

OP my condolences.

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I suppose it’s human Nature to feel sad for
someone who has died, no obvious will and no sympathy or grief expressed by the person posting about his estate.

maybe just me, and maybe hit home! Anyways we all response differently and are all entitled to our views🫣.

enjoy the rest of your Christmas

Charlize43 · 26/12/2023 19:27

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 26/12/2023 19:15

Why? The op is not the dc. Even if the dc mother that’s not the dcs fault

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I never said that there were. I think you are reading too much into it.

It would just be nice for the kitties. 😻

Nevermind. It's just a joke I have with my family about leaving everything to the CP.

SheilaFentiman · 26/12/2023 19:29

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:20

I suppose it’s human Nature to feel sad for
someone who has died, no obvious will and no sympathy or grief expressed by the person posting about his estate.

maybe just me, and maybe hit home! Anyways we all response differently and are all entitled to our views🫣.

enjoy the rest of your Christmas

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She posted to ask a question, not to talk about grief. Maybe it would have been better in legal than chat, but she wasn’t rude about Mr X or anything.

MILTOBE · 26/12/2023 19:31

ThisOldThang · 26/12/2023 17:53

Goes to the children, but should really be placed in a trust until the children are adults.

I thought provision was made for any child support.

Christmassss · 26/12/2023 19:31

OP are you Mr X’s ex?

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:33

SheilaFentiman · 26/12/2023 19:29

She posted to ask a question, not to talk about grief. Maybe it would have been better in legal than chat, but she wasn’t rude about Mr X or anything.

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😂. We could go on all night - who gets the last say😂.

as I said merry Christmas.

go on .. you know you want to post back at me

RoseAndRose · 26/12/2023 19:39

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:20

I suppose it’s human Nature to feel sad for
someone who has died, no obvious will and no sympathy or grief expressed by the person posting about his estate.

maybe just me, and maybe hit home! Anyways we all response differently and are all entitled to our views🫣.

enjoy the rest of your Christmas

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OP says if he dies

Not that he's already dead

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:42

RoseAndRose · 26/12/2023 19:39

OP says if he dies

Not that he's already dead

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There must be a reason everyone is speculating about what will happen to his estate.

MikeRafone · 26/12/2023 19:47

Anyone else feeling a bit sad for mr x?

no, a question was asked without any back story - did you know Mr X and have further information about the situation, if so do spill the beans as to why you believe we should all feel sorry for him?

Potentialmadcatlady · 26/12/2023 19:47

This is exactly why I made sure my Will was fully up to date and as water tight as possible…

Starseeking · 26/12/2023 19:48

I'm wondering whether OP is the EX or the unmarried partner at time of death 🧐

RoseAndRose · 26/12/2023 19:55

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:42

There must be a reason everyone is speculating about what will happen to his estate.

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Perhaps they are all co-conspirators to murder?

DragonMama3 · 26/12/2023 19:59

AFAIK the house doesn't have to be sold. Best to get a qualified solicitor though.

Tippexy · 26/12/2023 19:59

Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:10

Anyone else feeling a bit sad for mr x?

i hope OP isn’t the children’s mother. It all seems a bit mercenary

OP is absolutely the children’s mother 😄

DragonMama3 · 26/12/2023 20:00

Potentialmadcatlady · 26/12/2023 19:47

This is exactly why I made sure my Will was fully up to date and as water tight as possible…

Can still be contested...