Anyone by themselves tonight and fancy a chat?

[Amithatbad1]

As the title suggests.
I'm by myself tonight, 2 adult children are out and I'm feeling a bit low. Got tons of things to do but it's all feeling a bit over-whelming so I'm procrastinating - a skill brought on by the menopause!
Anyway, I just wondered if anyone else was feeling lonely and fancied a chat?

Hi op. Hows things, how come you feel so low? Have you got a partner? Saying that, even though I have a partner and DS I feel low as well. I think it’s this time of year and has highlighted how many few friends and family I have around me!

Yes I am also alone and feeling low. I was looking forward to a nice night together with DP but he got stupidly drunk on his last day in work and is now passed out in bed. The plan for tonight was that he was going to cook us a nice meal, so I went to Tesco and bought us a nice dessert to have together while we watch a movie. But instead I'm sat with a ready meal watching TV on my own.

I'm sorry that you're feeling rubbish too 💐

Rubbish when you’re looking forward to something and it doesn’t go to plan.

I don’t think I’ve had a “night out” in 3 years which is very depressing. I’m mid thirties and feel like I’m old before my time!

In the exact same position @Thejewellershands

Oh no! Are you at least watching something decent on the TV?

Hi I‘m feeling a bit low tonight too. BF has his kids now for Christmas and probably New Year, we’re just messaging for the next 10 days. I know the kids but we don’t want to overwhelm them. Last Christmas I was back in my home country so we still haven’t had a Christmas together. He did take me out on Tuesday evening though and we spent some time together on Wednesday. DD won’t be here again until 24th - we did the food shop last night.
I have lots of things I can prepare for Christmas Day but after finishing work for the long weekend I can’t be bothered. Just watching rubbish on TV.

Hi OP I'm on my own tonight. I'm feeling OK but could easily feel low if I don't go to bed soon and get enough sleep

Waving at everyone.

I'm alone. I will be alone at Christmas.

Worse, I have a crush on someone probably way out of my reach who I won't see for a while now.

At least, chemically speaking, rum is a solution.

Hi everyone,
Wow I wasn't expecting so many replies!
No, there's no partner. I'm a widow, have been for a few years so this time of year always sucks!
Children are now young adults so are out and about. I have a new job, better money but longer hours so I haven't had the time to organise Christmas like I used to and I'm so tired!
I thinks it's the loneliness and the fact that I'm not as organised as I used to be that's causing me to feel so low.
Not watching anything good on telly - any recommendations?

Hi Everyone,

Listening too. I haven't caught up with terresterial tv options yet OP, but do you watch Netflix or Amazon Prime ? have a few recommendations for them

Thinks it's normal to feel a bit low, with the Solstice and a full moon tomorrow. But at least we have reached the darkest point in the year so it all starts getting a bit brighter from today onwards. Look at nature everything is underground and hibernating and that's what we are programmed to do also but it's really hard to do this living in the World we do. Just try and enjoy those moments when you feel low and listen to your body. Take those moments to go inwards and allow yourself them without feeling you should be doing something else. Give yourself the space to feel what you are feeling and then plan some nice little things for yourself that make you feel better, whether that's a walk or a yoga class or just pottering around.

Are you taking anything to help with the menopause symptoms?

Hi @Amithatbad1 . When I'm feeling low I find that doing one those tasks you've been putting off makes me feel better. Is there a low hanging fruit on your to-do list?

Lone parent here of a 5 year old, fighting a cold and had a hell of a week at work. I am watching Europe's strongest man as I used to watch it with my dad when I was little.
Can you pit a good tune on and have a dance. I love a Friday night lounge disco. I am decorating so have no lounge curtains so that amuses the neighbours!

Thanks everyone,
Tried putting some tunes on but just didn't have the usual effect.
I'm doing little jobs but they're not making much impact at the moment!
I've wrapped some presents but there is still loads to do. I'm trying to tidy but just seem to be moving things around!
I have Netflix - I'm a bit hard to please though - I like Downton but didn't like Bridgerton for example. Don't like anything scary/horror. Usually love a soppy/funny film with a happy ending but I don't think I'm in the mood.
I just want a fairy godmother to come in and wave her wand please! 😆
It's just one of the worst times of the year as my husband would be helping if he was still here so I'm just feeling lonely and sorry for myself - which isn't really like me! I'm surprised how close to tears I am but have nothing to cry about? 🤷‍♀️

I am also alone tonight with 8 month old baby (thankfully) sleeping. Husband is out working tonight, tomorrow and Christmas Eve.

Felt like everyone was out and enjoying / socialising tonight but this thread has given comfort x

I'm in bed watching home alone eating chocolate.

Sorry to hear about your husband op xx

Amithatbad1 sorry you are feeling so low. There's no time limit on missing your DH and Christmas is the worst time. I've been estranged from my son for 10 years and although I have my lovely daughter and grandsons, I find Christmas hard and miss him so much. Sending you hugs xx

If you like Downton, have you tried The Gilded Age?
Written the same writer, it's very addictive.

Try 'What Happens in Vegas' on Netflix for something lighthearted

Joining you all. I'm peri and it's hit my mood like a train. Sorry to hear about DH OP.

I'm feeling a bit low tonight too.. missing someone, kids are teenagers off doing their own thing.. trying to settle into reading or watching something but not being very successful at either!

I'm feeling a bit down today too. Caught between wanting some time to myself so I can just get things a bit more organised and wanting some social interaction.

I've also agreed to do a workshop with a colleague and can't get anyone to come to it (we're supposed to get half each) so I'm feeling half pathetic and half stressed!

Great recommendation! I was bored, so just decided to have a look. Going to watch with a cuppa now.

I'm alone, well for all of Christmas really
Just got home from the most disastrous click and collect!