I would like to check some mumsnet views on this situation. I and DH have had our ups and downs. We separated for a while and it turns out that he has a particularly severe form of dementia called lewy bodies which has driven some quite challenging behaviour including paranoia. For the moment I am still working but I am also increasingly his carer. DH is close to his family but in recent times they have not got along with me. In particular, with no justification they put in a safeguarding complaint to Social Services with a view to stopping me caring for him. Their allegations included me controlling his money (I do not but he needs help to handle his bank account these days) and coercive control.
We have a brief holiday booked in January. I heard my husband on the phone the other day where they were saying we will see you there. In short they have unilaterally decided they are going to come on this holiday. There expectation is that I will "disappear" for two of the nine days I have whilst they spend time with DH.
DH says he looks forward to seeing them and stress potentially aggravates the damentia so I cannot rage and just tell them to do one.
AIBU for feeling rage that there is nothing I can do to stop them doing this?