Which of these should I do when he's losing interest?

[Howdoyoudo21]

Have been dating a guy for 3 weeks, I'm very into him but unfortunately it's obvious he's doing the slow fade thing for the last week. I'm gutted as he was so attentive at the start and I'm crazy about him.
He's doing the usual, taking way longer to reply to my texts , the tone of them has changed, he hasn't made plans to meet all week.

So my question is which of these is the best thing to do?

1. Straight up ask him what's wrong and if he wants to call it a day?

1. End it for him and just basically tell him it's obvious he's losing interest and that I can't be bothered dragging it out.

1. Match his energy, don't get in touch at all. And wait to see what he does.

1. Let him act this way, act breezy and just fill my life with other stuff , if he gets in touch then I will obvs respond but in a non committal , "don't care either way", type of way? And also not be too available to him.

What I really want is for him to be interested again but I doubt that will happen.
I wish I didn't like him so much as I would just pull the plug on it now as I honestly can't be bothered with the slow death.

5 stop making threads about him on mumsnet and just get on with life.

4

Just end it. It's been 3 weeks and he's already lost interest. He's probably dating others so let him get on with it and you go find someone else more worthy of your time and attention.

4 if you want to 'keep the door open' so to speak i suppose.

but honestly even though you really like him the dignified thing to do would be block his number and don't be the second or third choice when ever someone else blows him out.

Chin up and walk away.

3 with a touch of 4.

It's been 21 days. Even if things were going well 3 weeks would still be too soon to throw your lot in.

That you really really like him is the issue as otherwise you'd have cut him off. Even if at 3 weeks things were going well I'd still have advised that you don't go declaring your undying passion.

Put on your game face.

Just forget about him and start looking for something else to do! Or someone lol

5- Calm your fanny as it's only been 3 weeks

Honestly? You cut your losses and hold on for someone keen who couldn't be more excited to see you again. I would say '2' just for your own sake to draw a line under it so you're not hopng in the back of your mind he gets in touch again.

I’d say number 1, just be direct . Give him a chance to explain himself, and if he doesn’t seem willing to be honest and explain what’s going on or change his attitude just end it. But maybe that’s because I can be quite impatient and don’t like hanging around to see if it’s a slow fade or not.

3 is a good option too. If no positive change after go to 2 and finish things.

Walk away with your head held high.

6 lock him in your basement & make him be interested in you

End it tomorrow OP. Relief all round. Wish him well.

It is surprisingly disappointing when a promising thing comes to nothing after a short time. I’ve been there twice, many years ago, and oddly enough I found both of those breakups tougher than some of my longer relationship failures. I think it’s the “what might’ve been”, the failed potential after such a brief time, the feeling that the other party didn’t give it a chance.

But you can’t dwell on it. Eventually you’ll likely meet someone to settle down with (assuming that’s what you want). Don’t waste more time on this chap.

3 or 4. If he was interested you would know about it.

Dating for three weeks? How many times have you seen him?

I really really want to find an excuse to say ''calm your fanny'' to someone tomorrow 😂

I thought this was going to be about a husband of 10 years, 3 WEEKS, just go and live your life and find someone who is interested in you.

I like this one 😂

1. Invest in a lot of lotion

And a whip

I think a kaftan is a must

It's been three weeks. This is still "the start". He's lost interest so it's obviously not meant to be.

I'd walk away in your position. You barely know each other.

Fuck sake

@Laiste I swear 99% of relationship advice here on Mumsnet could be given just by using this simple sentence 😂

3 & 4.

I wouldn't bother finishing with him. That is too dramatic if he is already slow fading you. But you do need to calm down and make sure you have a life. Maybe he is just getting on with normal life as well now. No one can sustain the obsessive chase of the very start of the relationship. It's nice to cool off a bit and have a chance to see friends and go to the gym and night school and visit your mum and have a night in watching TV, as well as seeing a man. It makes you both more interesting when you meet up again.

I'd cool off, get busy and then when he texts or asks what you've been up to, you can say, 'Went to see film/comedian/band last night with some friends. It was brilliant,' rather than sound sad that he hasn't been in touch for a day or two.