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Anybody not going out tonight?

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Allthescreens · 15/12/2023 08:17

Or indeed this week?!

Feeling like a complete loner at this point! I had 3 Christmas events & they were all weeks ago!

Seems like everyone else has lots more days/nights out lined up, while I'll be staying in again watching TV! Working all day tomorrow & expecting it to be very quiet too (public facing, not retail but similar). Even the DC have more planned than I do!

DS1's birthday on Sunday so the last of this month's money is going on that, then I get paid on Tuesday & need to get Christmas presents in that day as DC break up on Wednesday & I won't be able to go shopping without them after that.

I keep telling myself we're lucky that we can afford to pay our bills & buy presents, but it feels particularly tough this year. DH is probably depressed too, which I am finding hard to handle.

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AuntieMarys · 15/12/2023 17:39

I go out during the day, not the evening. Much more civilised. Four lunches this week

ListenLinda · 15/12/2023 17:39

No not me, my works Christmas Party was on the 1st, then did the Xmas markets the day after.
Very quiet now, happy to be staying in.
had a bath, pjs on, curry is in the oven, got my snacks ready for Reacher Series 2 and a Christmas Film after maybe.

childrensward · 15/12/2023 17:39

I went out for a pub meal with some friends last week and that's it. Work don't have a Christmas party, I have friends but not ones I see often. Husband works every weekend so weekend I'm left with the kids (5&1) to try make their run up to Christmas as magical as possible. It's hard!

Fluffycloudsfloatinginthesky · 15/12/2023 17:40

I have a 3 hour round trip to collect my 16yo from Wembley arena at 11pm as I don't want her travelling home alone at that time in the tube. - especially if it's full of pissed up
People!

Goatymum · 15/12/2023 17:43

Not tonight! I have got a few things on next week and was out last night, but haven’t planned anything from Boxing Day to NYE! When younger we packed that time out and/or went away.
Looking forward to DCs coming back from uni, but that will bring its own challenges!

TheTurn0fTheScrew · 15/12/2023 17:44

I never really get the whole idea that December is a party-filled social whirl. Most people I know have a work do or two (eg different teams) and perhaps another night with friends. Honestly, when coupled with school/college/music evening events with the kids that's plenty for me.

emmylousings · 15/12/2023 17:47

I think this every year! TV ads etc make out everyone's putting on sparkly dresses and going to house parties and I'm like, who are these people?!

HomburgandTrilby · 15/12/2023 17:47

Not tonight. Was out last night, though, and am mildly hungover. We just decorated our tree, though, and I’m about to light the fire.

SuitYouSir · 15/12/2023 17:47

The only thing I have planned between now and Christmas is going to see Wicked with my mum on the 21st. Absolutely delightful turn of events for me. HATE HATE HATE going out for the evening in winter. Just staying in with DH is my favourite thing.

louderthan · 15/12/2023 17:49

I've had a stinking cold all week so I'm staying in. I know I'm ill because I have no desire to drink wine!

Ragwort · 15/12/2023 17:51

I'm not going out tonight .. apart from driving my DH who is meeting his friends for a meal Grin. I do have one evening out planned with a group of girlfriends plus a couple of church events.

If you a WI member surely you could invite another member round for coffee/wine/mince pies or meet out somewhere? I'm in the WI and it's a friendly bunch.

escapethemaze · 15/12/2023 17:56

Allthescreens · 15/12/2023 17:32

Yes, totally, there are some people I always ask, but it could be that I'm smothering 😬

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No but are you asking because you truly love their company and want to be with them ie a true good close friend OR is it because you just want to go out

If the former…. then you need to talk to them about how you are feeling.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 15/12/2023 17:59

Nope. Once dh has gone up, it’s cheese, whiskey and series 2 of reacher, optional 3 cats on my knee if they want. Bliss.

emmetgirl · 15/12/2023 18:01

Me. Thank goodness.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 15/12/2023 18:02

Allthescreens · 15/12/2023 08:44

I have tried numerous times but keep getting nos or no answer. Seems everybody is already busy or ignoring me!

I did have a work lunch (paid for myself!) & friend round for hot chocolate the other day, but nothing else lined up till Christmas Eve.

I'm just feeling sorry for myself & need to stay off social media, but work is so quiet & boring that's a big ask!

I have no social event planned from now until xmas eve and i am happy about it 😂

robinhoodstree · 15/12/2023 18:02

WashItTomorrow · 15/12/2023 09:08

I don’t have anything lined up at all.

Ditto

AutumnLeaves5 · 15/12/2023 18:02

Embrace the joy of missing out! I’m having a bath with a glass of wine and a book and I’ll then put some cheesy Christmas films on. Perfect way to spend a Friday night!

People tend not to post on social media when they’re chilling out at home so it makes you feel like everyone else is out having fun as that’s all you see.

Gladrags1234 · 15/12/2023 18:03

You're not alone OP! DH is going out babysitting for his daughter,so early dinner here. He'll be late home because it is his daughter's works do and I'm working tomorrow so he's going on his own. I plan to have a bath then watch a film, possibly decorate the tree then bed with a book. I have been to one evening meal with a few work colleages (unofficial work do) and i went for a 'festive' hot chocolate with adult DD last week.

I think life for most of us is more normal than is portrayed on all the various media.

LenaLamont · 15/12/2023 18:05

I love any excuse to stay in at this time of year, OP. Nice bottle of wine, the christmas tree lights on, it's lovely.

Embrace the time at home1

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Allthescreens · 15/12/2023 18:09

escapethemaze · 15/12/2023 17:56

No but are you asking because you truly love their company and want to be with them ie a true good close friend OR is it because you just want to go out

If the former…. then you need to talk to them about how you are feeling.

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Yes, I truly enjoy their company & thought it was mutual...I guess not.

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Allthescreens · 15/12/2023 18:11

Gosh, this thread is not making me feel hugely better 🙈 Most people have plans at some point, I literally have nothing until Christmas Day except work, despite asking around 😥

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escapethemaze · 15/12/2023 18:11

in that case… wait for new year, invite for coffee… and talk to them!

escapethemaze · 15/12/2023 18:12

Allthescreens · 15/12/2023 18:11

Gosh, this thread is not making me feel hugely better 🙈 Most people have plans at some point, I literally have nothing until Christmas Day except work, despite asking around 😥

don’t you have plans with husband and children? that’s what most with children tend to focus on. Certainly my plans at this time of year largely involve my children… aside from one dinner, one drinks and work event.

gotomomo · 15/12/2023 18:13

No sure about tonight, we might pop to the pub as I have a craving for mulled wine and the boats on the marina and decorated with lights, tomorrow I'm singing in a concert

Echobelly · 15/12/2023 18:13

No, I have a choir concert tonight and a couple of nights out next week.