Shocked by DD4 comment

[Wreh]

Hi,

NC for this

I was getting DD4 ready for school this morning, putting her shoes on when she came out with

"I don't want any people with brown skin coming to my birthday party"

DD5 will be five early next year for context

I was shocked at what she'd said. She's never said anything remotely like this before. She's never mentioned different skin colours before

I explained to her that she isn't allowed to say that and that she can't say that again

I've just spoken to DP about it for the first time and they were as shocked as I was

I'm not sure where to go with this, do we try and find out where this statement has came from?

Do we mention it to the school?

I'm not saying this is something she's heard at school but at four years old her world is very small right now other than one activity on a Saturday

Really don't know where such a direct statement has came from

TIA

I wouldn't make this into a huge deal given her age, but I would ask her why she thought that. Perhaps there is a particular person in her class who is of colour but she doesn't like them for other reasons? Perhaps she's not encountered many children from other races or had them as friends and is therefore a bit unsure about them? I would explain how it must feel for people to judge or exclude you because they didn't like the way someone looked. How would she feel is she was left out? And how, she could end up missing out on some really great friendships. But at this age, she is likely to change her views and opinions almost weekly.