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Social services what will happen

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Blueazul · 13/12/2023 07:33

Hi. I hope you all can help me as I am sick worry about this. Last week my partner was violent with me while the children were in the house sleeping. The police wasn’t involved but I had to contact his mental health team and let them now as he has being having some serious mental health issues lately. Over the phone they tried to convince me to report it to the police but I told them I’m not going to do it. They said that anyway they will have to mark it as a safeguarding issue. What does it mean???? My partner left the house that day and is now staying with relatives because his mental health is in a really bad place. A few days after that I did something really stupid. Everything that has been happening in the last few months took a toll on me and in a very low moment I took an overdose of prescription medication. As soon as I did I called for help from family members as my youngest child was in the house sleeping and I wanted them to collect him. Thanks goodness they came before he was even awake and I am ok and in a much better mental health space. But obviously I’m aware that social services would have been notified of this as well. What should I expect??? This whole situation is so worrying for me. Thanks

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Kitkat1523 · 13/12/2023 21:08

charliecoopershair · 13/12/2023 21:05

Could easily go to Early Help in our area too, the thresholds have changed so much. Would depend on other protective factors.

With The majority of referrals that go to early help in our area , the parents don’t consent or do ….and then don’t engage…so that’s that….just a waiting game for some , for the next referral to go in

StasisMom · 13/12/2023 21:20

It's easy for all of us to be objective, but it's very difficult for OP. I've felt like I only had one option in the past and it's hard to talk yourself out of it.
I don't have much advice Blueazul, but it's best to cooperate. SS want you to be well but also for the children to be safe.

Woush · 13/12/2023 22:27

This would definitely be level 4 social care theashold in my area. It's (well) above level 3 early help. There's a reasonable chance, depending on assessment, that this would be CP threshold if no consent for CIN. If consent is given it definitely meets CIN threshold above EH threshold.

escapethemaze · 14/12/2023 06:18

. I have never been involve in anything like this,

and yet you “know” that this was a psychotic episode 🤔

Sounds like this is very much part of the fabric of your life and sadly - your children’s

What i find interesting is that
last week he attacked you
you then attempted suicide (so…. 5/6 days ago maximum)
but now you describe your mental health in a “much better place”. Now that is what o call a quick turnaround

All in all - accept as much professional al support and help as offered, and bang on the door for more more more.

Sunnycats · 14/12/2023 07:15

In our area it would be triaged and go to a strategy meeting to see if it met the threshold. It would then go to early help first and possibly have involvement from one of the family support services first rather than social. Especially if no previous involvements. If social do get involved they do everything possible to keep families together and it takes a long time of trying everything possible before removing the children.

OP I am sorry you are going through such an awful time. Take care of yourself and take all the help you can get, your children need you more than ever and you'll need to be strong for you and them. Big hugs to you.

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 14/12/2023 07:22

Blueazul · 13/12/2023 07:45

im not reporting it because I know it was during a psychotic episode and he has left the house and is not coming back. I understand why the children have to be safeguarded and I’m not happy about everything that has been going on lately. I’m trying to protect them from as much of it as possible. Because I have never been involved in anything like this I’m just worried for what could happen, surely it is natural to be worried?

But you aren't trying to protect them, you didn't ring the police. That would have been protecting them. Poor children.

PepperIsHere · 14/12/2023 07:34

StarlightLime · 13/12/2023 19:48

She needs to understand how to prioritise her children, first and foremost.

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No you need to back off and stop behaving like the Gestapo

escapethemaze · 14/12/2023 08:46

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StarlightLime · 14/12/2023 08:58

PepperIsHere · 14/12/2023 07:34

No you need to back off and stop behaving like the Gestapo

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Don't be such a fool.

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