My dreams are telling me not to do something, really uneasy feeling.

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I might sound batshit and it's something I don't want to say to people out loud for fear of sounding as such, my husband has made me out to be totally insane when I try and talk about it with him so here I am, hoping for some clarity.

In short, I have a wisdom tooth that has been playing up for years and repeatedly causes awfully painful infections where I can barely eat for weeks and need antibiotics to clear, I finally got referred for surgery a few months ago and it's booked in just before Christmas. It's a bottom wisdom tooth and is awkwardly grown through so I require general anaesthetic in a hospital setting for the surgery as opposed to in the dentist.

I have had, probably 7 or 8 dreams in the last fortnight. The majority have been of my brother, who passed away years ago, saying don't do it sis, I'd love to see you again but not now, you aren't going to wake up, I promise you, I need you to listen, you really need to listen. That sort of thing, It was quite emotional because he was very, very adamant about me listening and not disregarding the fact that I'm dreaming this. The other couple of dreams have been of a little girl, who I don't recognise the face of at all but calls me mummy and I had a stillbirth a couple of years ago. And they are saying things like mummy it's not long until I get to see you everyday, I've missed you mummy, I love you mummy and lots of laughing and asking me to catch them and running away.

Totally weird, and I completely get that it's a dream, the logical part of my brain knows this. I've just never had dreams like this before, I've never had a dream that real feeling, I've never had my brother talk to me in a dream at all and it seemed so real. I'd feel less freaked out if I was anxious about the surgery, but I'm not. I've had general anaesthetic four times and I'm not scared of it. If anything I've been excited to get the sodding thing out.

Am I mental?! I feel such unease about it. Please be gentle, I'm not usually the woo type..

Oh op I'm not sure how to respond to that! Logical me thinks that even if you've had surgeries etc before it is still so natural to be anxious and with a busy time of year it's very possible you've been too distracted to notice how you're feeling so your brain is trying to tell you. But equally that would also really spook me.

Presumably your tooth needs sorted so is it worth exploring what alternatives to surgery are? And doing your research on after care etc.

I had mad vivid dreams like that when i was pregnant and sometimes they stayed with me for days in an uneasy feeling. They can be really disconcerting.

Not sure about the dreams but I wouldn't have a tooth out this close to Xmas. I had top and bottom done, got dry socket in both. Spent weeks on agony. Don't risk ruining your Xmas.

Oh wow I’m not surprised you’re freaked out I would be. Can you get the tooth removed without anaesthetic or just light sedation. It could be that you’re nervous about the surgery so your mind is playing havoc.

Gave me chills reading that to be honest, in all honesty I understand why you may feel a little silly for worrying so much about the dream and it putting you off, but I will say I heavily trust my own gut feeling regardless of the outcome, if it doesn't feel right or isn't sitting right which you which clearly subconsciously it isn't then don't go ahead with it, you have no idea what the outcome would be either way at this point I very much doubt anything would happen or go wrong but I do believe in trusting your gut and I would rather never know if I was right or not and just not take risks on things that make me anxious I have had many experiences that have proven my gut feeling was right. It seems that you may be anxious without realising it and it may not be worth putting yourself under more stress now as these dreams will linger and increase your anxiety for the procedure! Of course entirely up to you but if somethings off don't force yourself to do it x

Dunno why your Dh is yappin about being insane, your subconscious is talking to you but you obviously don’t control your dreams. Have you researched the likelihood of dying under a GA? It’s not huge, presuming all other things are well with you? What age are you? Did you hear about that happening when you were small (there were a few incidences of kids dying after being put to sleep in the eighties so I was never allowed to be put out).

Don’t do it.

And I don’t think it’s your own subconscious I think it is actually your brother talking to you

I think it's just your subconscious thoughts are you are presumably anxious about the procedure. I would go ahead.

I think the dreams are a result of your anxiety, which isn't surprising.
But I would wait until after Christmas to have the procedure. The pain afterwards can be bad and you don't want to ruin the holidays.

i agree don’t have the GA and trust your sixth sense/instict/brother

Request a further consultation and get them to list you for a coronectomy under local anaesthetic instead

I've had a similar experience via a dream.
I'd listen to your gut and regardless of where it's coming from, your subconscious is speaking to you. I wouldn't have that sort of surgery so near to Christmas. If you're not in pain and can perhaps delay a bit, I would. It's inexplicable but the feeling is very real.

You need the tooth out so I would just get it done.
Are you def getting a general, I got twilight sedation at hospital when got mine out.

Dreams are our subconscious playing out our anxieties. You're anxious about the GA and the dreams reflect that anxiety, nothing more.

I wouldn't.

I think you’re anxious and this is what’s making you dream. I dream all sorts of horrors that play out my anxieties.

Dreams don’t normally feel like real life though, with passed over relatives trying to convince you it’s real

Yeah I'd be insisting on a local anaesthetic and a valium for that procedure, and not the general

An alternative perspective for you to consider OP is that the dreams aren't communications from dead loved ones, but from your own unconscious, and the underlying cause is unprocessed grief. The chronic recurring problem with your wisdom tooth is somatised grief for your brother and stillborn child, and represents unfinished business at an emotional level - that is, you've struggled to let go enough and really move on from your losses. Part of you, an anxious part, is afraid of 'leaving them behind' by fully accepting their deaths, and this is the part of you speaking through the dreams. The removal of your tooth would be a deeply symbolic letting go, given that the pain and chronic infections have been physical expressions of you holding onto those you've lost. Try reflecting upon your grief process for your brother and child so far, and observe how that makes you feel. If you notice unresolved grief feelings for them, think about what I've written here as you prepare for your extraction in the next week or so. Chances are your dreams will change as a result and you'll feel much less anxious about having the GA. My feeling is your dreams suggest displaced anxiety, which basically means it's not what you think you're anxious about that is the real source of your anxiety. From my point of view, your actual anxiety stems from painful losses you haven't come to terms with as fully as you need to.

Normally I'd find it easy to interpret anxiety dreams, but those would have really shaken me.

I am going to risk sounding as batshit crazy as you.Have you ever been on a shamanic journey? You could ask your spirit guide a really specific question, such as: does my brother think I'm safe to have the same op on a different day? Or: is it my anxiety at play or something else?

Don't do it.

No way would I go through it after those dreams. I really believe that your brother is desperately trying to warn you. If you can rebook it until the new year and see if it happens again. Listen to your gut also

This is your brain just trying to resolve lots of things in one go.

I had upper and lower impacted wisdom teeth out under GA. They tried under local and almost broke my jaw, so when they say it needs a GA, there's a good reason for it. It's because it is the best option. If you are healthy and follow all the advice, you should be fine. Speak to the anesthetist about your concerns to put your mind at rest. If you follow aftercare instructions, you should heal well, albeit you will be bruised and sore for a week or so.

I would put the op off, I believe in that sort of woo though so I wouldn’t do it having had those dreams.

I am not ‘woo’ either, not religious etc

And yet - I have had dreams that freaked me out so much at the time I did tell people, and they turned out to be prophetic. Both about people close to me dying (unexpected deaths), which turned out to actually happen within the same week.

These experiences have really changed my view of dreams. I have NO idea if it’s just ones sub conscious, a coincidence, or something else. I would listen to what the dreams are trying to tell you.

I wouldn’t do it tbh. Ask if there are any alternatives to GA, and if not delay by 6 months. I don’t know what you’ll do if you have the dreams again before the second appointment though.

And the shamanic journey also sounds like a good idea.

I’m sorry about your baby.