My dreams are telling me not to do something, really uneasy feeling.

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I might sound batshit and it's something I don't want to say to people out loud for fear of sounding as such, my husband has made me out to be totally insane when I try and talk about it with him so here I am, hoping for some clarity.

In short, I have a wisdom tooth that has been playing up for years and repeatedly causes awfully painful infections where I can barely eat for weeks and need antibiotics to clear, I finally got referred for surgery a few months ago and it's booked in just before Christmas. It's a bottom wisdom tooth and is awkwardly grown through so I require general anaesthetic in a hospital setting for the surgery as opposed to in the dentist.

I have had, probably 7 or 8 dreams in the last fortnight. The majority have been of my brother, who passed away years ago, saying don't do it sis, I'd love to see you again but not now, you aren't going to wake up, I promise you, I need you to listen, you really need to listen. That sort of thing, It was quite emotional because he was very, very adamant about me listening and not disregarding the fact that I'm dreaming this. The other couple of dreams have been of a little girl, who I don't recognise the face of at all but calls me mummy and I had a stillbirth a couple of years ago. And they are saying things like mummy it's not long until I get to see you everyday, I've missed you mummy, I love you mummy and lots of laughing and asking me to catch them and running away.

Totally weird, and I completely get that it's a dream, the logical part of my brain knows this. I've just never had dreams like this before, I've never had a dream that real feeling, I've never had my brother talk to me in a dream at all and it seemed so real. I'd feel less freaked out if I was anxious about the surgery, but I'm not. I've had general anaesthetic four times and I'm not scared of it. If anything I've been excited to get the sodding thing out.

Am I mental?! I feel such unease about it. Please be gentle, I'm not usually the woo type..

Don't do it. But do treat this teeth properly also. This teeth might be the death of you one way or another.

But this surgery IS the way to treat her problem tooth.

I think some posters are so open minded their brains have fallen out.

I’d follow the medical advice all day long over advice from strangers on social media.

I have a recurring dream that I turn up for work, look down and realise I haven’t put any trousers on. I’ve dreamt of loved ones dying, my house burning down, being chased by someone. Last night I dreamt my husband gave me an eyeshadow set for Christmas.

None of these things are happening.
You should not take dreams literally!

Op, it is natural to be cautious or nervous before surgery but, as you know, people have wisdom teeth out all the time with little or no problem.

Our dreams reflect our fears and what lurks in our subconscious and unconscious mind. They can also be jumbled up versions of things we've read or seen on TV!

The dead do not make contact with us, that I do believe (& I do have faith), but they live on in the depths of our minds and it can be comforting to dream about them . I have and still do sometimes. However, your brother and little child are not sending you messages, they come from your natural apprehension.

When you go in for your surgery, tell the surgeon and nurses that you have fears (you don't have to tell them about dreams), and ask for reassurance. If you get the opportunity to be reassured before the operation, that would be good but may not be possible. It has been my experience that those involved in dentistry and oral surgery and very good with nervous patients. You also need to be clued up on appropriate aftercare and have a number to ring if you experience anything that disturbs you.

I wish you good luck and hope you come back here afterwards to tell us all is well.

Your brain is trying to organise deep rooted thoughts and feelings in a way that will make sense to you. It is perfectly normal processing.

I think dreaming about these 2 very significant people makes sense. You had a loss of any control over what happened to them and now you are going into a situation where you will again, have little or no control. You are afraid and uncertain. Or your brain is. Medical environments are scary. Your logical brain knows everything is fine, it will be a standard procedure and you'll have a cool looking gap to show off afterwards but your innermost thoughts and feelings are remembering past trauma that happened and are manifesting the worst for you.

Good luck, OP.

Come back to this post as I was curious to know whether you went through with it or not? X