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Going in ambulance?

48 replies

Spottiwombat · 03/12/2023 16:33

BiL has just whatsapped to say SiL has had a fall and been taken to hospital by the paramedics. She wasn't totally coherent and was feeling sick.

DH just rang his dad to tell him and BiL was whatsapping about the rugby whilst they were talking. We suspect he's stayed home watching the match.

BiL has said to me that SiL is not happy. I didn't ask why...

They have had a long, happy marriage, so we're a bit surprised to hear he's not gone in the ambulance. He's definitely still at home, she's waiting to be seen.

DH is saying he'd have come with me...

What would you or your DH have done in this situation?

No childcare needed.

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Haggisfish3 · 03/12/2023 16:35

You can’t go in the ambulance I don’t think. You have to follow them and meet them there. It would depend what dh would do tbh-if they reassured him I was ok and it was a check over etc I wouldn’t necessarily expect him to race in. But I think he would come as soon as he could.

CormorantStrikesBack · 03/12/2023 16:37

Dh would have followed in a car.

HappyHamsters · 03/12/2023 16:37

I am confused who fell. Is it your husbands sister?

HavingToStartAgain · 03/12/2023 16:37

I have previously had DH go off in an ambulance alone whilst I had to go to pick DC up from school and then take DC and DH’s bag along to the hospital.
He is a frequent flyer though tbf so we know nothing happens very quickly.
His last trip to A& E a couple of weeks ago he was sat in a corridor for over 11 hours before he was even seen!

If I was going in an ambulance I wouldn’t expect him to travel with me, there would then be the car issue and getting home. I imagine he would follow on with the car at a later time, depends on the nature of my trip to A&E I suppose.

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Spottiwombat · 03/12/2023 16:52

That's a good point about the car, I didn't realise you needed to follow on.

I'd still want an advocate with me tho.

It was my sister-in-law that fell.

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Ponderingwindow · 03/12/2023 16:55

I’ve been a ride-along in an ambulance before, but maybe things have changed.

regardless of travel mechanism, I would be at the hospital.

Bernardmanning · 03/12/2023 16:58

You can ride along in the ambulance, depending upon the issue.

akissbeforebed · 03/12/2023 17:00

I travelled in an ambulance when my dad had a fall in the spring so they were allowing it then.

But to answer your question, whether in the ambulance with me or following by car, my DH would most definitely be with me.

watchingtheworldwithwoe · 03/12/2023 17:00

Usually one person is allowed to ride along in the ambulance

NameChange259 · 03/12/2023 17:07

I’d expect him to travel in with/immediately after me. What a knobhead.

Anisette · 03/12/2023 17:09

Haggisfish3 · 03/12/2023 16:35

You can’t go in the ambulance I don’t think. You have to follow them and meet them there. It would depend what dh would do tbh-if they reassured him I was ok and it was a check over etc I wouldn’t necessarily expect him to race in. But I think he would come as soon as he could.

I don't think that's necessarily true. I travelled with my mother in an ambulance more than once

I would certainly go with my husband in this situation.

Sirzy · 03/12/2023 17:10

It depends on the severity really. Just like any trip to A and E wouldn’t necessarily mean someone needs to be with you.

wineoclock90 · 03/12/2023 17:11

When we took my son to hospital in ambulance me and dad were allowed in

WaxhamSeals · 03/12/2023 17:12

I’d rather wait in a&e on my own - I can zone out as I’d be expecting a long wait. DH would be bored and uncomfortable. Happy for him to wait at home till we know what’s happening

GoodnightJude1 · 03/12/2023 17:16

I think the fact that you said she wasn’t totally coherent would make think he should have gone with her…either in the ambulance (if allowed) or followed on in a car/taxi.

I go in to hospital quite frequently unfortunately, sometimes by ambulance, sometimes DH takes me. I wouldn’t expect DH to come with me/follow on unless he felt I wasn’t able to speak for myself.

I think it’s very dependent on circumstances but in this case, from what you’ve said I think he probably should have followed on.

PuttingDownRoots · 03/12/2023 17:17

Looking back...
DH came with me when I was injured
When DH broke his leg, they were going to take DDs with them until a neighbour stepped in (but they were 4&6 so couldn't be left)

My dad has definitely been with my mum.

The above incident with DH... I was tracked down by neighbours (broken phone) but then stayed at home with DDs rather than going to hospital. We visited when he was settledcon ward.

jollygreenpea · 03/12/2023 17:23

WaxhamSeals · 03/12/2023 17:12

I’d rather wait in a&e on my own - I can zone out as I’d be expecting a long wait. DH would be bored and uncomfortable. Happy for him to wait at home till we know what’s happening

Same for me, knowing how they would feel I'd rather deal with it on my own.

Dontcallmescarface · 03/12/2023 17:24

Did she want him to?

Greekgreens · 03/12/2023 17:25

My mum fell a few weeks ago and I was able to ride in the ambulance with her. I stayed for a few hours until she’d had some tests and was being looked after.

I would expect my DH to come in the ambulance with me if he was home.

QueSyrahSyrah · 03/12/2023 17:26

My knee jerk reaction is to say of course I'd go, but thinking about it when DH had a minor road accident and decided to go get checked over at A&E later in the day I just dropped him off there and went back to pick him up later (I was working and it wouldn't class as compassionate time off or I'd have stayed to keep him company).

He was fully coherent and able to explain what had happened for himself though, and wasn't in writhing pain or distress.

Dipsomaniax · 03/12/2023 17:26

I went alone in an ambulance.

But dh had our small (traumatised) child and 5 week old to care for. I was so ill I didn't care who was there. What mattered more was who was there when I was recovering and ready to go home. And in the aftercare.

I would have hated to have anyone other than the paramedic in the ambulance (which was very uncomfortable)

Moredarkchocolateplease · 03/12/2023 17:26

I'd rather go on my own and wouldn't expect DH to come with me.

Had an elective op last year and DH dropped me off and then collected me in the car park. Absolutely no need for him to come with me.

lesdeluges · 03/12/2023 17:29

Maybe they collected another ill person on the way and there was no room at the inn. 😃

Amazing to get an ambulance at all these days, so at least she's lucky that way.

During Covid I had to go to A+E. I was left at the door and alone for hours. Then admitted and alone for 8 days on admission/treatment. I actually fared better TBH knowing I didn't have to listen to a gang of people talking over my head when ill in the bed.

HavfrueDenizKisi · 03/12/2023 17:29

You can go in an ambulance to accompany a family member. I did with my dad when he collapsed.

I'd expect my DH to come with me in a similar situation as i would with him.

SoIRejoined · 03/12/2023 17:29

I think it shows a total lack of care to leave a family member alone in A and E. I can't imagine ever doing that unless it was because I had to arrange childcare, or couldnt drive. What if she wants a cup of tea, or help to get to the toilet?